Myself and my girlfriend went through a bumpy patch a few months back and she started to think I was being needy and I thought she was being cold and harsh and things soon became toxic between us and we fell out, with her saying she's not ready for a relationship.
We began talking and hanging out as friends after a while and while we get along it's very different. Originally she told me she doesn't want a relationship, however she pushes me away around our other friends and acts like she doesn't care I exist.
Eventually we had a chat and she admitted she doesn't feel the spark between us anymore and doesn't want to force it to happen again, wanting it to be natural, however I don't see how this is possible as when we hang out any form of physical contact or flirting from me she pulls away from feeling I'm trying to force it, however in her attempts to 'just be friends' she creates a barrier between us and does little talking etc, but wants to keep hanging out and I don't know what she expects to get from it?
She has lots of friends she seems (at least acts like) she's a lot happier around, and she's got a lot of male attention but ignores it, yet still hangs out with me but when we do she shuts off because she feels like we're trying to force things.
I feel however it's not about forcing it, but trying to at least light the spark through mutual effort with eachother. Am I being an idiot and should I just keep hanging out and leave the pace and rate of it up to her?
