What are my chance of getting her back?

[Hejmeddig1]

Well, we have been together for about 3 years. And she broke up with me 2 weeks ago. Before that, we had a short break (1 week) but she said that she didn't miss me in that period and the issue behind that is that she wants me to hang out more with her friends but thinks is too late. As I said she broke up with me 2 weeks. So I didn't have contact with her till the first Saturday after the breakup. She called me and said she was looking for me, and I declined because I was sleeping and had been parting all week because I started at uni and She lives in another city. Then she kept calling me and I started to text her after that she texted that she called my brother to talk about me. (I haven't told him that we broke up at the time) and later when she called me again we talked for about 30 min and she was upset and crying telling me that she missed me and sending me snaps of her crying. And that she kept looking at her phone to see if I had texted her. She also said that she hadn't told anyone that she broke up with me But today she texted me that she was sorry for yesterday. and I texted that I was thinking about her but now she is cold. And the next week after that she drunk snap me, that she had just met some classmate of one of our friends.

I want her back. She sends me a lot of mixed signals. When she broke up she also said that she was confused about the whole thing. And last week she sometimes took screenshots of my bereal and made a reaction to one of them. And she was even commenting on my family members' bereal. We are still friends on social. And the breakup wasn't messy she slept with me the same night we broke up and stayed the night.
I need your help. Is there still a chance?

[overthinker85]

I‘m sorry the two of you are going through this. You must go through a lot of emotions right now and it seems that it‘s the same for her. This seems to me to be a good signal.
However, you can‘t be sure of that. Also, she seemed to react coldly when you signaled you wanted her back - maybe because it makes her feel under pressure.
So what I would try to do is to be as open about the outcome as possible in your mind, which will let you think and act without putting her or yourself under pressure. If you are meant to be back together, it will happen, so no need to rush things or act hastily. Be open to her and there for her, try to listen carefully to her. What are the reasons you had this break? And for the break up? Also, try to show her through your actions that you understand what she needs from you - if she feels you are not hanging out with her friends enough, maybe there will be a was to do that? I wish you luck and if it‘s meant to happen, it will happen!

[Hejmeddig1]

Thanks for your reply. The reason for the break is that she was unsure that she still have the same feelings for me. I think the reason is two parts. Her roommate has just got a new boyfriend and there is deeply in love with each other and she hates looking at it. The other thing, I think is because I had a lot on my plate the last 2 months and did have so much time for it, and I did communicate that with her. I plan to do no contact. She has contacted me two times. But all the time she is drunk

[overthinker85]

Do you think she gets drunk because she‘s upset about the break-up? If you can think of some friends in common you can trust, you could try to find out more. No contact could work but if she keeps trying to contact you, it might be better to answer and listen…good luck!

[Hejmeddig1]

yeah maybe. But I always reply when she contacts me.

[summiter]

Stop the snaps and just meet with her face to face and talk about it. Was the only reason she broke it off was because you did not hang with her friends? How were things going sexually? socially?

[Iron_Man]

She wants you to hang out more with her friends what does that have to do with your relationship with her?

[Hejmeddig1]

Is because your relationship had its routines like many other relationships. You know like make dinner watch a movie and then go to bed. I have to agree with her. But the problem is that am a sporty guy and she wants more to just hang out and just talk with her friend. The other problem is that her friend group is loosely based on the roommate's relationship. She finds a new guy every 6 mounts or so. And then I don't see them anymore after that, so sometimes I feel like I don't want to put time into getting will close to some of them

[Iron_Man]

It’s about you and the girl you don’t have to hang out with her friends every time you get together that’s once in a while. This sounds more like a friendship with a group meeting club.

[Hejmeddig1]

Agree but we only saw her friends like every 2 weeks so not that much

[Iron_Man]

That’s enough believe me

[Guido]

If you get back together it is likely to be more of the same on and off routine.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but this is doomed.

[In_Trance]

No chance