Went to strip club and now I feel guilty, will it effect my chances of getting a girl in the future?

[Anonymous]

Ok ok before you start saying I'm a girl or whatever just hear me out! So really long story short last night my friends got me really drunk and talked me into go into a strip club. I swore I would never go into one just because they are against my personal beliefs. That being said I take full responsibility for deciding to go in and I feel awful about it and never want to do it again. I didn't get a dance or anything when we went in, I just sat a back table and had a few drinks while my friends got dances. The place just kinda grossed me out. I might be way over thinking this but in the future if I'm trying to get with a girl will it hurt my chances if she knows I've been to a strip club?

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+1 y

Thank you so much for all of your help. I agree with many of your responses and that this is something I overreacted about. I did grow up in a very religious household and that has caused me to have personal issues with some things that I shouldn't. That being said though, and I gave it a lot of thought, I do not plan nor do site to go to any strip clubs in the future.

[Anonymous]

You're joking right? Hey in some ways I can relate to you. I was raised with christian beliefs and I felt ashamed when I visited a strip club a few times. I didn't say anything to my friends about it because I didn't want to come off as "gay" or "a pussy" at the time. In fact one of my good friends works as a VIP at a vegas strip club. I really didn't want to go to it, but I did on two different occasions just to say hello to him.

With all this said most girls out there would EXPECT you to have been to a strip club at some point. Many of THEM have been to strip clubs themselves. It's not something to brag about... but it's been done. It's not you did anything with these chics anyway... no harm no foul.

[animalwithin]

Dude... dude.

Step back for a second and think about what you're asking. Will a girl in your future be completely abhorred by you after telling her that one night in your past you got drunk and went to a strip club?

If such was the case, the vast majority of men would never get women. Relax man, this is completely irrelevant and no one is going to care. You're going crazy and freaking yourself out for no damn reason. It doesn't make you a bad person or a gross person or whatever you're thinking and NO it will not hurt your chances of getting a girl in the future, so just relax

[Anonymous]

I don't think it will hurt your chances if you choose not to do it again, especially if she loves you as kuch as youd love her. Going to strip clubs just adds to the desire of guys wanting to be with other woman when there in a relationship. I know there are exceptions, but as a woman I wouldn't not want my man looking at naked woman for fun. Same as finding out your girlfriend had a guy over her house and he got naked and danced for her. They might not have done anything but is that respectful to you? HELL NO!! people have lost respect for their partners. I'm glad you care about these things!! :) your future girl will be lucky!

[Ladyegg67]

Maybe if you're already in a relationship , your partner may not be to keen about it. But I have been a designated driver for 17yrs and I've been to 37 strip clubs in my life to drive a bunch of drunks to and from bachelor party's. I personally don't have any issues with strip clubs. But my husband has almost got into several fights when men try to put money in my skirt. I was pretty hot in my 20s and even 30s. so when I knew I was going to a driver for a bachelor party I would chanel my inner sexy person. I really depends on the girl. Some are more open than others.

[Bliss-taylor]

You are single. Plus there are worse things that you could have to admit to your future girlfriend. Something that would get under my skin was that "how many people have you been with" talk. Have always used condoms? Bla bla it shows how irresponsible theymight have been. How "player" like. But honey if your future girlfriend cares about this specific thing when it was before her, she's going to probably be really judgmental and a pain in your ass down the line.

[JustPhillip]

I hate when girls ask "how many chicks have you slept with?" I've never done anything sexual so I have to lie saying "its not much but I've been with like 8" just so I dont get laughed at #virginprobs😒

[CumminsTomic]

@JustPhillip Dude you are 17 and you are saying 8. Just say none she will appreciate your honesty.

[JustPhillip]

If I tell a girl that Im a virgin, She'll laugh at me and call me a fuckboy

[Bliss-taylor]

I was a virgin until I was almost 19 my husband was only with 1 person before me and he was 19. 8 is too many for a 17 year old. And you are a jerk for lying about it. She's going to be expecting someone who knows what they're doing and not jizz in 5 seconds to 3 min. A nice girl is going to like the fact you're still a virgin.

[Anonymous]

Unless your friends held you down and forcibly threw alcohol down your throat, then you got yourself drunk--so how about you own up fully to everything you did on your own here, lol. Anyway, look, you are clearly feeling guilt for what you did even though as you say you didn't really do much of anything b/c its not in league with your beliefs. Maybe you truly went because you were curious above all else which is a normal human reaction to something we don't know about and now that you've been, you've seen, you still felt it wrong, so now you know. I don't think you need to go around sharing that you went to a strip club one time and did nothing because I wouldn't see the point of needing to hear that story if nothing actually happened, but now is the time you decide within yourself how you want to conduct your life and if you want that to be a part of it. If its not, move on, lesson learned. If it does become a part of your life, then it does.

[StudMuffin1118]

"Unless your friends held you down and forcibly threw alcohol down your throat" XDD.. I know its serious but.. lol

[Closet_kinky]

Well, I wouldn't start off the conversation with that thought, but I don't think it's that big of a deal. I'm the pretty jealous type and it personally wouldn't matter to me at all if a guy went to a strip club before we got together. Especially if he feels this bad about it.

[abundantlyrich]

You just went to a strip club... You didn't get genital warts... You must be religious

[AlwaysBelieving]

Oh snaps this made me LOL

[Asker]

Yeah I grew up in and extremely religious family and church. I have moved out of my parents house and no longer go to that church but because of what they taught me growing up it makes me feel guilty about a lot of things I shouldn't. But that's a whole different story lol

[TeaHaychSea]

Well depending on the girl it could affect you. IF the conversation about strip clubs ever come up just be honest. Say you've been to one before and tell her it was the worst experience and you won't ever make the same mistake ever. I'm in the same boat. I think they are nasty places for nasty people.

[slatyb]

Wow, you are really uptight about this. Most women are fine with it, even if they don't want to go with you. I wouldn't even date a woman who worried about whether I ever went to a strip club or whether I would ever go again. Who needs someone that controlling and insecure and sex-negative?

[Anonymous]

You're acting like you went feeding meth to kidnapped children when you just went to a strip club. Those girls choose the job themselves and get paid good. Don't feel remorse. If you're that God-fearing, don't go again.

No decent girl will be grossed out because you've been to a strip club.

[sunsetgoddess9]

Well, it honestly depends on the kind of girl you're looking for. If you are looking for a religious girl then maybe. But a laid back girl then no.

Answer mine
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1666736-did-he-even-deserve-a-response

[Anonymous]

If I was your future female friend and you found me attractive and if I found out that you went to a strip club I would friend zone the shit out of you, you would be so friend zoned by me that friend zoned men would feel sorry for you. Lol I'm just playing I think most young guys go to a strip club at least once

[kingme]

You'll be fine with the women the internalized masogany is high and the competition is worse. If you feel bad about it perhaps find a way to support strippers and sex workers as a redemption. Just don't donate to those charities that claim to save them as they are mostly disgusting.

[DesiDoo]

It shouldn't hurt your chances. If anything, your future girl should be happy that you never wanna go back to that gross place again lol

[kaminalove]

Agreed 👍

[chrisbigman]

I suppose only if you were looking to hook up with one of the strippers that was there that happens to frown on guys going to her place of employment. Otherwise, how is the girl going to know you were there unless you tell her or she was there herself?

[simplegurl123]

Its OK because you didn't do anything wrong there... you just sat and had drinks... so I would say its OK really... you seem like a very nice guy and I hope you get a girl as nice as you yourself... God bless :-)

[jjmarvin]

Daww so sweet :3

[Ericky]

if you are enough clever and want to score a date with a girl, never say that to her until you both are in a relationship. don't you think that the girl might not have seen stuffs like Magic Mike?

Or even, she might have slept with 500 guys?

[Achlys_Luka]

Naw, personal I am a girl, and some guys my age their dads have brought them in to hooters were all 14-15, and they have told those storys yet girls are way after them. As long as you didn't do anything bad I guess your good.

[complicated_soul]

I don't like strip clubs and I am not cool with it.
But I don't think it will hurt your chances with getting a girl because many girls in here (where I live) are okay with what you described
(Not getting lap dance, etc).

[Anonymous]

Listen... I have respect for you, and you seem like a very decent guy... but you sound like a pussy. Again... not trying to be mean. If you are religious, that's awesome and I respect that... but a couple of things:

-Women lie all the time

-By the time you find a woman, she will probably already had sex 100 times over, so why not go to a strip club and see/feel naked women?

-Just don't tell a girl that you are going to be with that you went to a strip club.

[BatDoc]

Strip clubs are nothing. It's not a big deal.

Going to a Kanye West concert or voting for Donald Trump or eating at Denny's is more likely to hurt your chances than going to a strip club.

[fearlessbanana]

Wtf is wrong with men today.. you feel bad about going to a strip club. This strip club experience tained you so much that you feel it will affect future relationships? I'm sorry my friend but you sound like a fcking pansy. You need to grow a pair.

[JuicyBrain]

We kinda have the same story except I never thought this could change my future LOL. It's not even something you mention dude ! You saw titties... who didn't?

[Anonymous]

No, you'll be fine. You don't have to volunteer the information, but if a girl ever asks if you've been to a strip club, you can tell her something like, "Yeah, but I really wasn't that into it. You're way better looking than any of the girls there."