Is going to a strip club cheating in your opinion?

Question

I had a conversation with a friend, and he said he wanted to go with the guys, but his girlfriend would consider it cheating. He claims it’s just for the boys, not for the strippers, and because a friend who’s a virgin wants to experience it. What do you think?

DishLady · Accepted Answer

It depends why you're going.  Scenario 1: Bachelor Party It's your pals' last week of freedom and the guys are going out for a night, which includes the cliche strip-club-teaser. Look but don't touch and you're fine. Getting a lap dance and letting yourself get sloppy? No bueno...  Scenario 2: Happy Hour Regular at The Snatch Patch (Hey, if "Snatch Patch" isn't the name of a current strip club I want 10% of the royalties on the branding for the one y'all set up. Haha.) You're a regular at the Snatch Patch and all the gals (and bouncers) know your name. You've gotten lap dances and perhaps some VIP workups in the past and plan to continue doing so in the future... Why are you dating someone if this is your lifestyle? Don't waste a girl's time.  Scenario 3: You're Dating A Stripper, So You Think It's All Good...  Look, no judgement, but if you're dating a gal from the club and you're always at the club... and you see her doing her thing... and you're also doing your thing with other gals there? That's just messed up, buddy. Go see the team psychologist.

northerngal · Accepted Answer

Unless you are getting "extras" in the VIP room I see this as being no worse than watching porn... its fantasy. I really do not consider it cheating. Like porn if you are going every day there is a problem... going with the guy (or girls) every once in a while is not an issue for me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

actually no, going there and experiencing something is cheating, but it is not just going.  The important thing is respect and trust, we should not forget this.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

Well , having been involved in the industry for many years ( a past life ) , let me tell you ( sadly ) if you know what you are doing and how to play the game its certainly is cheating in the strictest sense , now sure its not the same as a mistress , but its akin , or at times worse than seeing a hooker.

Now , 3-4 guys going on a Saturday night in a big crowd , its probably not cheating , these guys will not achieve much other than maybe getting drunk. I've seen it all , and there is an addictive nature to it , I've seen rich , famous , drug dealers , cops , officials , bought down by our industry in numerous ways.

I think its utterly brilliant , and man the good time are fcking great , but know what you are doing , be careful out there and " hold onto the load " .. lol lol.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

Cheating , yeah maybe cheating yourself out of some hard earned cash lol 😂.. It’s about as far from cheating ( on your partner ) as looking at nudity , whether it be in a film or online. Anyone thinking it is cheating needs their head examined in my opinion , male or female. Any woman or man that can't accept that their partner may occasionally want to have a look at other people naked even just for the hell of it are delusional.

Private dances , trying to take it further , paying for sex etc , that would be crossing the line. But looking at titties.. well that’s just good wholesome fun

Account · Answer

If it is done behind your partner's back, it is cheating.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Who cares about cheating? That's not why don't go to strip clubs.

ROFL, going to a strip club is just depressing and boring. It's for horny boys, and men with stunted personality growth. Can't get a woman to pay attention to you? Well, for $20 a gorgeous naked woman with no life and probably a lot of problems will grind on your lap for 3 min. To what end? You gonna date her? By the hour? Is she a stunning conversationalist? Or is she just a sad reality of our society?

Meanwhile look around the room. Do you really wanna drink bottled beer at a dirty table surrounded by loser guys? What does that make you?

ilistengood · Answer

I can't believe Im Quoting my ex. First off if your going and not telling her that might not be cheating, but definitely is lying.
. y ex wife didn't care ( she also knew i really didn't enjoy them ( except on a few memorable occaisions) the deal was i could go, I could watch, I could even stuff dollars into g strings if I was into it, but absolutely off limits was table dances. If I was ever caught we were done, she later reminded me of that in front of several friends, she went on to say if I forked over that much money to her I'd get more bang for my buck

Apple1996 · Answer

Depends on the couple. In my relationship it is cheating. If my husband goes to the strip club I'd make things fair by becoming a stripper myself. It's dumb to play the cool girlfriend/wife who allows this behavior of your man lusting after other women

Anonymous · Answer

I would say that crosses a line yes. Porn is one thing I mean when a guy looks at porn 90% it's literally for the sole reason, we're horny and need release as fast as possible so we can move on with our day. Depending on certain variables it can be difficult to reach a climax without visual aid. Going to a strip club is different.

It's interactive and you can get things like lap dances that's not ok when you're married. When you watch porn you're just having a quick wank to move on with your day. Being horny is frustrating and distracting so if we're busy we just want it done as fast as possible.

4ngelic · Answer

maybe not that in that specific circumstance, but in general it is kinda cheating. usually you go to strip clubs to look at the strippers, get lap dances, maybe even get some action for $, etc.. if you have a partner you shouldn't be getting off looking at other women in person and much less touch them

Altheavas · Answer

Technically yes, if it’s a habit.
I want my man to only care about seeing my body, and savor it as he wishes. If he found himself there due to his friend, then okay! As long as he doesn’t entertain the ladies himself.
But a man with self respect and who respect, cherish, and commit to his wife/partner would just assertively says no, point blank!

bongo · Answer

It really depends on the relationship and the boundaries you’ve set. If it's just a night out and everyone’s comfortable with it, then it might not be an issue. But if it crosses a line or makes your partner uncomfortable, then it could be a problem. Communication is key.

butterfly · Answer

It depends on the relationship boundaries. Some see it as harmless fun, while others view it as emotional or physical betrayal. If it’s something that would hurt your partner or break agreed-upon trust, then it’s a problem. Communication is key know your partner’s feelings before making that choice.

ShellyB · Answer

I have to honestly say that it would bother me if he went there without me, and, I don’t really want to go (I have been taken along a prior boyfriend as a customer, it was weird and not fun for me). In other words, for different reasons I would not want him to go wo me, OR for him to bring me w him, but if I had to pick, I would rather go with him. JMO!

naartjie · Answer

Men can totally go to a strip club even if they’re in a relationship! Just not my man lol.
I mean he can go but he’ll be single that very second.
So, yes it’s cheating for me.
Looking at other women with desire/lust? No thank you.
Even if they claim they “aren’t”, why even put yourself in that position where you’d get tempted?
Just a huge no from me. My future husband would NEVER disrespect me let alone pay to go see naked women.

236color · Answer

I think cheating is when you have sex with someone else. She may not like it if you go to a strip club, but redefining everything she doesn't like as cheating, ends up with her trying to control your thoughts. When you're in a relationship you have to accept that your partner will still be attracted to others, that doesn't mean they act on it, but it happens.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I wouldn't know, I've got a self given rule to never date a party girl, they are bad material most of the time, give me a girl that would rather watch TV or play video games or read a book and that dream girl stuff right there lol

Darklydarkened · Answer

What sort of a dumb fucking argument is that?  Hello hun, I wanna have naked women dancing on my lap. It's male entertainment, nothing to suss about

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is a real borderline thing. Looking is fine, feeling some deal of sexually satisfaction from someone else is when it becomes cheating. This is why porn is an instant deal-breaker.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Yes I see it as cheating.. why is my partner getting turned on, doing god knows what with these hoes in the private rooms or after work and giving money to them.. I would never date a guy into that shit.

Ferngully2000 · Answer

Seeing someone else naked/half naked is crossing a line in terms of intimacy if you are in a relationship, ok it might not be physical, but there could be underlying bad intentions.

I guess the question is would you mind if your girlfriend went to see a load of male strippers? Then you have your answer.

Finchie40 · Answer

It’s not cheating but it can be disrespectful to your partner if you are in a relationship, so ask yourself what is more important to you? Your relationship or watching some naked girls’ dancing around begging for your money

Zack-Bann · Answer

If you gotta lie about it then you got reason not to be doing it Its not technically cheating. But its in the spirit of cheating if that makes sense

Flower7 · Answer

It’s not cheating but it’s disrespectful and shouldn’t be done while in a relationship.

SofaKingsMart · Answer

No. I do not believe it to be a form of cheating.

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes, to some degree.  Why would you commit to someone who desires to go do this. An ideal, long term mate that has value doesn't desire to go do this sleazy type of crap with whores.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Cheating is only in my mind physical or emotional enough to be physical - you know. Anyways 🤔

In_Trance · Answer

Cheating is determined only by consent.  If your partner knows what you're doing before you actually do it and they are okay with it you're not cheating.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I guess it depends on the specific couple boundaries.. If his girlfriend doesn't like it and considers it cheating, then he should probably respect that and not go to the damn strip club..

TrueConfection · Answer

I wouldn’t consider that cheating, but if he had any respect for her he wouldn’t be interested in going to a strip club for any reason.

Kelly6 · Answer

@beams first, it’s not cheating because those strippers are not his partners.

second: guys mostly go there after asking their partners or go together.

its only cheating if guys meets the stripper after her work hours

LiamJHayden · Answer

Our opinions are irrelevant. In practical terms cheating is whatever the partner deems it to be. If the girlfriend considers it so, the contrary opinions of everyone else won't matter in an argument because she made it clear what she thinks.

msc545 · Answer

I don't consider it cheating but I'm sure that there are women out there who consider even looking at another woman to be cheating. You get sick of this kind of crap after a while.

AnonAndrew · Answer

It's not full-on cheating, but it is a bit questionable.

soe11 · Answer

According to me nothing wrong nor cheating at all

Smegskull · Answer

Try thinking about the inverse. Is working at a strip club cheating? I am thinking "Technically no but I am reacting the same way so I will use the word because ww both understand it's implications."

HungTexan · Answer

Just going to a strip club isn’t cheating if that’s all you do.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Cheating is private & physical. Stuffing Andrew Jackson in a college girls g string isn't even remotely close.  Get a grip.

KITEinStorm · Answer

Absolutely yes. If there is someone in his life, he should stay away from the club.

Justneedtokno · Answer

Not necessarily, I would even go to the strip club with my boyfriend

ThinkerShell · Answer

Yes it is You want some sexiness and you go somewhere othere than your SO

exitseven · Answer

It is not cheating.. It is like watching a porno movie.

Beachbummama84 · Answer

Eeeh nah I don’t care that much but I’ll think less of a guy if he’s a regular at a strip club

genericname85 · Answer

no. unless you get a private lap dance. that crosses the line in my opinion.

Yannae · Answer

I would let her know or let her come with. I don't see it as cheating but you can't be too careful.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

No, if nothing happens, because it's boys being boys.(Though THIS boy's never been one for strip clubs).

RedInnocent69 · Answer

No, but I get why some sensitive or insecure girls think it is

blackeagle007 · Answer

It’s a good question. People have all types of insecurities with this

Kattsnaiper · Answer

Depends on you're realation ship, if its an open one then no. But for me it is realy bad, i would never.

__Nikki__ · Answer

No, I don't think it is.

NordicInScandinavia · Answer

I do not consider it cheating no.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really in my opinion but it depends on who your talking to.

neilsmart · Answer

only if the strippers suck your cock

WhitneySnow · Answer

It’s cheating if you get a lap dance

avery58 · Answer

Yeah 100% it is, in my book

AviatorTom · Answer

Going? No. Coming? Yes. 😎

Priya99999 · Answer

What's wrong with a guy looking at a girl

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Not if they go with you

Ariesman81 · Answer

Yeah, but he should still go

Twalli · Answer

If she considers it cheating, then it is cheating.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

everybody cheats

Nightmoon23 · Answer

It really depends

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Not a good look

robocop666 · Answer

their a waste of money far too expensive

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