And Does it make a difference if your boyfriend/girlfriend goes to the stripclub vs if your husband/wife does? Like does their status matter? I’m personally not cool with it. They need to get all their hoeing out before they get with me lol. Plus i just find it a bit disrespectful. Looking at other girls is one thing but to actually go to a stripclub to see them is too far. Also, I dont want him wasting his money on hoes. I’m all for paying for my own things but shit if he's gonna throw some ones, please make me first in line 😂 It ain't that hard to install a pole in the house. But yo this video below #FeelFreeToList#ThrowSumOnes
Yes because its disrespectful
No because its just “looking”
No because I’ll probably go watch myself
No because I’m dating a stripper
No because I’m a stripper myself
Yes because its a waste of money
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This question was highly influenced by a porno 😂 wasn't exactly cuck shit but the girl told her guy he could get a lapdance as long as she watched. She say looking mad the whole time and soon as she walked out, he started fckin the stripper 🤦♀️ I know its unlikely to happen but so sad to see 🤣 good porno tho
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Not sure if people are triggered by me saying hoe above bt if youve answered my million questions, you’ll see that I've used the term often no matter who or what i was describing. I will refer to a person or an object as “hoe” as i also use terms like “dude” regardless of gender. I was not referring to the job they do in this case. But ig if you wanna go there, yea a hoe does sell themselves so maybe i used the term wisely this time around 🤷♀️✌️
Do you care if your partner goes to the strip club?
In a relationship, yes I would care and think it was disrespectful that she would need that in her life , just like you said do that shit when you are single Me personally hasn’t been to a strip Club in ages, I use to work as a bouncer in one when I was in my early 20’s and just laughed at the desperate guys that came in thinking they were going to get lucky with the girl and giving her lots of money , the girls working there were just trying to get by and pay there way through college , or pay off bills and get their shit together while a few were not making the best decisions that were actual whores to get their drugs and having sex with customers when their shift was over , so to me those girls were trash , it wasn’t a very good environment , but bottom line they made good money from doing it. The club I worked was kind of higher class compared to a lot of other strip clubs , They wouldn’t just hire anyone. I never really encountered to many problems when I worked there , I threw out a few creepy guys so it made my night a little more exciting lol
There used to be two clubs right across the street from each other my buddies and I would go to back in the day. One was relatively upscale and professional I’d say. The other had girls who were known to give blowies out back for $100
I believe it , what the girls did after their shift was on them , I use to tell some of them that they are on their own if I saw them attempting to leave with a customer , my job is to protect you at the club but what you do outside the club you are on your own , I only saw a couple girls leave with a customer and I just shook my head that they would allow themselves to go that direction , Whores
The one club I went to here in the city two hours from me, the girls actually paid a fee to have the privilege to dance. The cover charge went to the house, all the tips went to the girls... they were not employees but contractors. At the time the fee was monthly so they could come as much as they wanted to be put in the line up. Thing is its all the same guys so going every night, means they've all seen you and less tips. The smart ones learned to have a real job and do this to get extra to give the guys time to rotate out or forget.
I would never let a partner go to a strip club. Nor would I go. To me it's cheating. Your partner is going to see a bunch of naked people of the opposite gender and will most likely hump or grind on your girlfriend. How is that ok? Or from what I heard at female strip clubs, or hens nights in general, sometimes out right grabbing the guys privates and further, goes on.
If people caught your partner doing that at home with someone, people wouldn't tolerate it, but because it' s at a ''strip club'', it's all of the sudden ok, and somehow different logic?
Heard from a couple of guys who have either worked in the industry, that quiet a bit more can go on than that... What do you take some of us guys for? Naive? And hypothetically why is someone wanting to get a naked lap dance from someone if they've got a partner? I think it's disrespectful to your partner, and it's cheating.
As for the ''opposite gender'', I mentioned that, as girl aren't obviously going to go to see female strippers for their hens night.
I agree plus men egg each other on and are hardly likely to want to leave with blue balls. They start drinking too often. A lot of groups of men often head to prostitute joints after together. They leave that part out when they tell the story of going strippers. Men don’t enjoy blue balls. They don’t go to just go strippers.
Not really, since she took my there to pick up her friend once. With my ex, it was a different story. We went there on her initiative and she wouldn't stop oogling the girl while making weird statements.
This is really a question more for the ladies since it is men going to strip clubs for the most part. But, since there are clubs for women, Chip n dale's and stuff like that and women sometimes get strippers for bachelorette parties I'll chime in.
I do care and it is a relationship deal breaker.
Male strippers usually "touch" a lot more and most bachelorette parties are just gross to me when they have some stripper back at a hotel room manhandling all the women and pretend humping them through clothes and stuff.
I'm not ok with some girl in a relationship with me doing that with some guy.
Fair is fair. I don't do strip clubs and I don't expect to do them myself. Full disclosure I find strip clubs awful and have no respect for people that reveal themselves sexually for strangers and I'd never step foot in one of these places or pay a cent to some sex worker. When I was getting married... running off and paying some stranger for some sexual show was not respectful to our relationship and/or our upcoming marriage. I would not have been on board if she though it was normal to do that as a pre marriage "tradition".
To be honest, from a female perspective if your woman goes to a male strip club or some type of equivalent it’s actually a good sign. I’ll explain. Women can get a man to strip pretty fucking easily. Doesn’t take much effort. Can go into a bar and say hey can you strip for me in a bathroom. 9/10 men will say yes even if the girl is average. So a woman doesn’t need a male strip venue. She goes to have a good laugh with other females. Not to cheat.
It was my wife when we were dating that took me to my first strip show in Nevada. I really didn't know such a thing even existed... I almost expected it to be pasties or something.
I've gone with her to see 'men' dancing and wringing their stuff around and she has gone with me to see women. She'll even say, lets get a private shower show or something with that one and pick her out.
Yet we only go to the highly reputable places. None of the types where they offer more than just stripping. She has no issue with me seeing a 100% (besides stupidly high heels) woman in the buff... because she has no interest in pole dancing. She did try it out as it is great exercise and said it just isn't for her.
Not that we go that often, haven't been in probably around 7 or 8 years now and likely not to go any time soon, in fact likely never again. We are probably past that. The thing is we would only go if we had extra money to blow, but there were creepy guys that never EVER tipped the girls and would just stare. They only take it off if someone tips good, if not at least a couple of hundred they don't take it off. Nothing like a bunch of creeps waiting for someone else to pay her enough for them to see.
The biggest thing is I would NOT do it if she was not okay with it. Where I live is pretty rural too, so its a big deal to go into the city just to grocery shop. Not going to waste the time, energy and money just to go see that.
My love is a dancer. She an amazing person, but for her stripping is a like a performer in a show. It ain't real but it seems real to the guys. I never went to a club when I was married I met her once I was three years divorced. Truth is... she likes to go to other clubs we have a fricken blast. When your in the biz I think you are way more relaxed about it. She is not into girls, but because she pretends all the time. Often she is into going along with the girl. it's just fun. Makes me love her all the more. she amazing and confident. Every woman, no matter how young and Beautiful feels insecure sometimes. In a club it's home to her. It's her element, nothing makes her feel insecure. My ex wife going to a strip club, it would have been cheating of the heart. Because I knew deep down, if she was there it would have bothered her. Even if nothing happened. Going with my girl is like... Going to the movies. Just a fun night out. She don't care if I'm motorboat-ing someone else. She stuffing bucks into some girls g string, while the guys in the club drool over the image. So... it can be bad for a relationship and it can be good.
I personally would not tolerate being told that I wasn't allowed to do anything by my husband. I am an adult and make my own money, so I'm going to do whatever I want to do. I would never ask permission for anything. If this is how I expect to live, then I have to extend the same courtesy to my husband... and I do. My husband went to a bachelor party once and came home when the guys decided to go to the strip club. I asked him he should have gone, and asked him why he didn't go. He said he just didn't want to. I told him if I would have known I would have sent money with him and bought him a lap dance. I really do not care a single bit. If I'm forced to do, or not do something... I will do the opposite of what you want me to do because I won't abide by rules like that. If you make something taboo, I feel that pushes people towards that particular thing more. But in the same breath if they are spending every night in the strip club... that's Bs too. It's not cheap and that's excessive. For a special occasion, sure. Go have fun honey, get you a lap dance on me!
I feel it would be a foolish investment on his end. Like you said it’s super disrespectful. I can’t possibly imagine him wanting to pay someone to give him a lap dance when I can easily put a wig on and do the same thing at home. FOR FREE! Makes no sense. If he really wants precious from the strip club, he better dump my ass first.
I think it’s really disrespectful to go on your own without telling your partner. If my boyfriend went without letting me know it’s an immediate break up, no questions asked. However, if he asked me I’d probably wanna go together since I get how the dance can be mesmerising and it’s interesting to watch. The issue I think is guys assuming it is ok to go because they are guys. If so then you should be ok with me twerking on dudes in those crammed clubs and bluffing about where I was. If you think that is also ok then perhaps we can agree on a little something something ;).
I went to one of those places ONE time, about 35 years ago. I was still married to wife 1.0. She didn't mind me going, especiallyafter what I told her. What I discovered was something I wasn't expecting. This was in FL. I was with s couple other guys. They liked this one dancer who went by the stage name of Kilo. So they bought a table dance with her and she hung around our table afterward talking to us. Other girls were dancing on the stage and delivering drinks topless. I must've had a strange look on my face because she asked me if I was having any fun.
I told her, "I'm having lots of fun, but it's like this Kilo. I can't touch them, I can't play with them, and I can't take them home with me. All I can do is sit here, get horny, and give away my money! So what do you think?"
She saw my point, which is the very reason why those places exist. I've never been back to one of them ever again. And I never will.
I don't really get strip clubs. I know that some couples like to go with friends. I guess for some it's a novelty.
I just want to have the freedom to go if I'm in a group with other people. Sometimes your friends want to go. I don't really see anything wrong with looking, but throwing excessive amounts of money or buying anything I'd say is going too far. Unless your girls right in your arm and you're both wasted and laughing it off.
Like I wouldn't be mad at my girl going to a male stripper place with her friends.
Wouldn't dump her for watching porn, I'm fine with that, but strip clubs are gross sess pools and you actually are interacting with the person instead of watching a prerecorded video, so to me it's like cheating on me and risking my safety.
I never got the appeal of strip clubs (don't get me wrong I get the appeal of a lapdance I just think it's better when it's personal, I get to touch, after and I'm not OCDing over STDs) , thou I understand a night out with friends (even then I think you should do the shiz when you're single for your partners sake) but I'd personally prefer doing it somewhere private with a console so whilst part of me thinks its kwl, another can't help but think "Is this somehow a reflection of our relationship... f. cks happening?"
My wife didn't care if i went either.. last time i went to one was during my bachelor party.. I regretted it. The place was disgusting. Told the wife about it, and how comfortable i was. I was afraid i would catch an STD from the chairs. Never again.
Strip clubs are buying a fantasy and attention. I'd feel less humiliated if anyone I was with simply spent that money on a hooker for sex. To spend that time in a strip club for anything but business, or because a friend dragged them along is simply insulting.
They're willing to shell out their savings for the illusion of endearment from a stranger, rather than spending time together. Maybe I'm jaded because I've worked in strip clubs, but unless it's to close a business deal, and you know your client has a weakness there, I fail to see the point.
They are conducted differently in other countries, especially where prostitution is legal, I remember throwing money on the stage in Germany and getting a really confused look, more so when I asked for a lap dance and she said to just go down the block to a whore-house.
I was a teenager and still vey naive in many ways lol
Sigh, there is a difference. As a guy working at a strip club you have all the women there, and then customers who say "hey, can you get that girl for me?" Then the girl creates the fantasy world between them, and I played the bad guy who has to charge for the time until their card is maxed out.
Hookers get paid once, then the guy leaves. We fired any women who hooked because they fucked the business up.
So this is kind of a tough one to answer. I'm a guy and I don't really see the appeal of strip clubs. You pay a lot of money to have someone dance naked in front of you and you pay even more for them to grind on your lap. I can see naked women for free with porn. I've never been to one and don't see myself going to one. The only reason I'd go if my future partner wanted to go and get lap dances together. That's highly unlikely but a lot of women are coming out as bi these days.
As for my partner, I don't care if she goes to a strip club with male dancers for a bachelorette party as long as she follows the strip club etiquette and doesn't touch the guys beyond a lap dance. But she can look all she wants.
@rebeliouse no I doubt it. Like I said - I'm cool with it if he's going for a lads night, jovial and fun. I don't think if I were to go with a guy i was seeing it would be that kind of vibe.
I wouldn't care if my man goes to the strip club. I go to the strip clubs with my man and his friends. He doesn't do anything. Better yet. I paid the girl to give my man a lapdance!
Here's the thing. As long my man communicates with me, respectsme, honest with me, and comes home to me by the end of the day. I'm good. Why? Because I trust him enough for him to know better. He is a grown ass man. Yeah he goes out with his guy friends and they all go to the strip club and all that. He is just having a good time. He's a guy. If he wants to spend money at a strip club so be it. I wouldn't have a problem.
I don't know how to answer this really. Yes ofc I would be uncomfortable with it but I am unsure why. I am a bi curious, demisexual but also because my partner used to cheat on me. They also used to send nudes and be on lots of chats. I also suffer from an ed (eating disorder) and I have bd (body dismoraph). At the same time I masturbate to females when watching porn but can't look at females when I go out, in movies/tv shows. I don't know anymore. If anyone has any advice it would be great thank you 💙
“According to the 2014 AVEN [Asexual Visibility and Education Network] Census, two thirds of demisexuals are uninterested in and/or repulsed by sex. However, there is a significant portion that enjoys it. Demisexuals have a variety of feelings about sex and other sexual activities, like masturbating and watching porn, so it’s hard to make statements about the group as a whole…the only thing that defines demisexuals is that they only feel sexual attraction after forming an emotional bond.”
“Not everything is a perfect fit. You may feel mostly asexual, but not entirely. You may feel slightly sexual on an infrequent basis…You may relate more to the asexual community, despite not quite being asexual yourself. This is what we call the gray area – not quite asexual…Graysexual folks experience sexuality to a very minor degree.”
…Also: (1) This GAG question was “Do you care if your partner goes to the strip club?” and you started off by saying that “I don't know how to answer this really. Yes ofc I would be uncomfortable with it but I am unsure why…”
You may be uncomfortable with a SO going to see strippers just because it makes you feel inadequate or cheated on; or it might be difficult for you to understand a person feeling sexual attraction for someone else in real life without having an emotional bond with them, because that’s so foreign to you because of your demisexuality.
(2) It might be better for you to see a psychologist first before seeing a sex therapist, because the eating disorder/body dysmorphia & being cheated on things might be the (quite possibly very) more important things for you to explore and get counseling for.
I appreciate and respect what you are saying however I am unable to go and seek help. Or I can I just don't have a lot of money and I don't know where to start really
Ok, well then maybe look at the those demisexuality & a sexuality. org links I previously provided, and explore the parent sites of those articles for more articles and support communities & forums.
Yea someone you have feelings for going to a strip club is hurtful regardless the status of your relationship. it is one of those things that is borderline cheating. I say borderline because I guess technically it’s not sex. But i guarantee you if you said to your boyfriend okay.. is it okay if a group of guys dances all over me naked. And a guy shakes his dick and bends over right in my face. And is being all sexy, I can guarantee you most guys would not be okay with this, they consider it cheating,
now the issue is, forbidding someone who wants to go, isn’t going to stop them from going. In fact if they do go, would be pretty easy to get away with it. So the best thing to do is to not say your opinion on it too strongly, because if he is the type to go, he definitely won’t tell you he is. Best to just say I’d prefer you didn’t go. And see what happens.
You are trying to figure out real life by analyzing a porno? lol
Its a wild wild world, these days all kinds of stuff is accepted. Aside from that, its a personal thing. You shouldn't judge. Live and let live, I say.
Me personally, I was never into strip clubs, does nothing for me. I personally feel like its a humiliation of the women, and I get no pleasure from paying someone to dance in front of me - who would rather be anywhere else - if they didn't need the money.
If I want to get turned on, etc, I have a wonderful woman I am in a relationship with and we have a lot of fun together. I don't have to pay for anything, we love each other, and its amazing. Why would I want to go to a strip club, its men paying for fake affection and to look at naked women. I have a beautiful naked woman I can be with at home, who wants to be with me. That's the shit.
In my opinion there are two problems with the question. Problem 1 - assumes that partners in a healthy relationship don't adventure together. There's a difference between going somewhere covertly vs. with permission. Some couples even go together or "meet" there for a fantasy. Problem 2 - assumes that there something wrong with stripping. The prohibition on sex trades was a fiction created by the Roman Catholic church (and we all know their track record on sex offenses). The sex trades are the oldest profession, and have enabled thousands of women to maintain independence from abusive males and/or obtain higher education without massive debt. Have some respect for hard working professionals.
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