Do you consider a lap dance at a strip club cheating?

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FTnWo · Accepted Answer

So a friend of mine and my wife was having a party and it so happened that she wanted it at a female strip club, I said no I'm not going and my wife was saying why? And it's fine I won't get mad because I'll be there and our friends will be there and begged me pretty much to go so I gave in and said sure I guess I'll go but I hope you are sure your not gonna get mad.
So I knew better and don't know why I listened to her and anyway so after we leave and on the way home the wife has that pissed off look on her face and I could tell since just a short while after we got there that she had an issue and still has one, so I ask her after she is being rude what her problem was and she says nothing... well I wouldn't be asking if it was nothing because I'm pretty sure I cam tell when you are acting like something is wrong, anyway after some bickering and arguing she says it was because I was the only guy out of us all that make the strippers come get the dollars...
well excuse the hell out of those other guys for being pussies at the titty bar, I know I had to earn these dollars so these broads are gonna have to earn them from me and that's just how I do it and she is being a bitch now and I'm saying this is why I said I didn't want to fucking go with y'all, no this isn't because you went it's because you enjoyed it to much and I'm just like fucking wow what the fuck ever... well she was a bitch for days and this pops up still even though it was like 20 years ago.
Bottom line is I knew I shouldn't have went with them and her jealousy issues but fuck it I did so I'm gonna do what i went their for and that is to see some tits, pussy and ass and I'm gonna get that shit as close to me as possible so I can see that sexy shit and smell the baby powdered cunts haha

Static_In_The_Attic · Accepted Answer

As for me I love lap dance’s & naturally I’m going to say NO when you ask the following.

Do you consider a lap dance at a strip club cheating? I say NO.

On the flip side I’m going to twist your question around a little & ask the following.

If a stripper at a strip club has a boyfriend or girlfriend
& she gives someone a lap dance is she cheating? NO or Yes?

You go to a barbershop & you pay someone to cut your hair you are paying for a service.

You go to a massage therapist & pay them to massage your whole body you are paying for a service.

You go to a local strip club & one of the dancers gives you a lap dance & you gave the dancer $20.00, you paid for a service.

skyeee01 · Accepted Answer

It really depends how you view your relationship i think. I personally do.
Why would you want to pay for that when you have someone at home for that? If he was to go to a party or club and he got a lap dance it would be cheating and if a girl gave one it would be cheating in my opinion, no? so why does paying for it suddenly eliminate it from being cheating?
My boyfriend went away over new years and he sat in the corner of the strip club with his other mate with a drink texting me the entire time- he said he would hate if another man ever done anything of the sort to me so it was mutual between us that it would be cheating. If you like your other half enough i don't think you'd really even think about getting anything done by another person, it shouldn't really interest you...

KrisPW · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't unless it was the same stripper repeatedly. And yes, that sounds funny thinking about it "I'm fine with it as long as all the strippers are dancing for him!" lol. But I'm still ok with it since it's not really a personal thing for the girl.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

My partner and I have agreed that flirting and any sexual type or physical touches on another person is considered cheating. So, yes, we have those boundaries in place that consider it cheating.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Would you take pictures to later show your SO or spouse? Why not?

IMuser · Answer

The important question is: why are you even in a strip club?

If the wife/partner knows about it, then it can be assumed that he can and will have fun there because you approved him going to a strip club (I don't believe she will assume that he would just talk to people there)

If the wife does not know, this shows a crack in a relationship.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope, but greatly depends on the context.

Guys on a night out at say Munich beer festival or some other place.

everyone is single apart from 1 guy.

everyone else chips in to get him a lap dance.

Instant peer pressure, how much ‘under the thumb’ is he, is he a guy or just someone that does as his partner tells him.

I have paid for a lap dance for a mate that has a partner, it was me and some of our other friends, drunk and we thought it would be a laugh.

His partner sort of saw the funny side, as there was zero chance of anything actually happening.

he was 100% not going to cheat.

NathanDavis · Answer

no... because I would never go to a strip club without her knowing first, and if she were not okay with the idea then I would just not do it

and if she were not okay with the idea, and I still went to strip clubs to get lap dances, well... that would be quite stupid for me to do...

truth is, I have never been to a strip club... not only I am a germophobe but, the idea to overpay someone to give me 'blue balls" does not appeal to me at all... lmfao, I don't like to pay for anything sex... girlfriends can do great lapdances, at least in my experience... lol

ItsyBitsySpider · Answer

Yes! For my relationship it would be anyway. Different relationships have different boundaries and this would be crossing a boundary for me.

If I either gave or received one, my partner would class it as cheating, as would I with him.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally I don't but then again I'm single. I think different women feel different about this. I have a friend who occasionally visits the strip clubs and he's been married 20+ years. She really doesn't care. She knows he'd NEVER cheat on her. She knows he's lucky to have her. And if she told him to stop he would. I guess what I'm saying is all relationships have their own dynamic. If it really bothers the female then the guy either should respect it and not go. Or they need to re-evaluate whether they're right for each other. Because partners need to respect one another's feelings.

Aewpolish · Answer

Main room watching pole dances or girls in stage especially on a boys night or bachelor night, I don’t think is a problem,

like others have said it depends on your relationship and your set boundaries

but private dances , alone where no one can witness the behaviour , where a woman is fully naked trying to make you cum, grinding on your dick or shaking her ass 1inch from your face etc and the guy is getting off

that’s cheating no doubt about it.

remove the fact he’s paid $100’s of dollars

if your man was in a club and pulled a random girl to his table and sat in the shadows and let her rub his cock and tease him ….. it would be cheating right? And she wouldn’t be naked?

if your partner has seen another person fully naked and had a sexual experience with them , it’s cheating.

Buntyp · Answer

Like me giving one or?

Joking, kind of. If it's something that happened at a bachelor party, it's cool but if it's a once a week habit, then it's problematic--not totally cheating, but if it's making you upset and he won't stop, then maybe you're with the wrong person.

Star_88 · Answer

Hold on! There's
1. A STRIP CLUB (Why? Is your girl boring now that you gotta seek this kind of cheap entertainment? Aren't there better grown up adventures and hobbies to do?)
2. A LAAAPPP DANCEEEE!!!
Obviously it's over and the guy is opportunist who will cheat if he finds someone more desirable in his eyes. It shows his current partner isn't desirable and he's just using her as a tool.

snowboarder720 · Answer

I think it’s only not cheating if your partner doesn’t know; it’s not the fact that you’re doing something intimate with someone else is what makes it cheating. If you have permission or your partner is aware that your being intimate with another person, it’s fine.

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Attending a strip club at all is cheating unless you’re one of the desperate single men those places are designed for.

PinkMichae · Answer

That's a tricky question because some women would concider it cheating. Personally I don't think it's cheating and don't care if my man gets one. Just next time he better take me and pay for my lap dance.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Let's see? ...

InYourHead · Answer

Definitely not. But then again I don't believe in strict monogamy either so my standards might be different

Greedier · Answer

I think so, cuz this can lead to a lot of further stuff... Lol, if u want this go when single!

Miristheiss · Answer

"Cheating" may be too rigid of a word but regardless it is a deal breaker between us.  Strippers have zero part in our relationship. Strippers... sex workers of any kind are a deal breaker.

notwoke · Answer

no, of course not, thats retarded. Any woman who gets mad about this can hit the road. That being said, if you are going there often or by yourself that would be uncool, but if its a bachelor party of work outing, this should not be anything to get excited about unless the woman is ccccrazzy

elizamichale1 · Answer

not really how can it be? dont make people against my work lol

AncientWisdom · Answer

Yeah if I was married I would not be doing the strip joints. I’m not married , and don’t do that anymore kinda outgrew it after 27 or so …. got to busy working and building my fortune.

dustybiker · Answer

If at a bachelor party? No. That’s fun and innocent. Bonus. They come home wanting you.

FreyaRed · Answer

Depends who paid for it.

StrawberryShake · Answer

Of course it is. Why is this even up for debate? If you do anything with sexual intent, it's cheating. If my man did this, the relationship would be over and my heart would be broken.

Bekaaaaaaaahhhh · Answer

Not cheating but the fact he did it would be a red flag to me

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

I would. Once you start questioning it, you know it’s cheating already in your head.

Subarugirl · Answer

No I do not, but each relationship and their definition of cheating is different.

youngmix · Answer

No. If you can't get an STI from it without wearing a condom, then I have no problem with it.

Adam1978 · Answer

Why would either of us be in a strip club? I wouldn't say it's cheating but its a sign I picked the wrong partner.

Anonymous · Answer

Did they fuck? No. It's not cheating. I can stand it when stupid people label everything they don't like as "cheating" just because they lack the vocabulary to describe the actions of a partner.

19magic · Answer

If it was a one off I wouldn't care if it was a monthly thing I've gotta ask why he would be doing it.

imsocool1806 · Answer

you tell me? would you like your wife/partner to do that on someone? and if the answer is no then wtaf are your relationships

RedStiletto88 · Answer

It depends. If it’s like once and I’m there with him then no. If he is always going out then yes

Aurora1010 · Answer

No but it's so disrespectful that a break-up would be justified.

Waldoe · Answer

Nope, it is Not... just guys doing what guys like to do... look at naked women, you will NEVER change that fact, but you might turn the guy into a Liar... and he will "claim" that he isn't interested and never does it...

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Kinda iffy but if it only happened once I probably wouldn’t flip out

Anonymous · Answer

I mostly consider it something I'm not going to talk about!

PositiveNote · Answer

I think only one person has that call... the one who cares about his lap dance! LOL

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes because it's a sexual action.  Even though sex didn't happen it's a enough to turn a guy on.

Diodoro · Answer

Not even a little, but I understand why some girls don't like

Truthvsl13s · Answer

yep! if your doing anything sexual or with the intent of getting turned on by another girl that isn't your woman then yes. flirting is cheating too.(my opinion) (if your in a relationship)

Likes2drive · Answer

Only if he has an orgasm, lol, it’s only cheating if they have sex with them but it’s definitely frowned upon by most women who have boyfriends or husbands that do that

HighValue · Answer

Yes, I consider it cheating. I would leave someone over it.

Heartache0405 · Answer

Absolutely. Idgaf what anyone else thinks. That’s what I believe.

slatyb · Answer

I don't, as there's no fluid exchange, no notion of a relationship. It's just entertainment.

mickeystoned · Answer

Hell no how can it be cheating and she's there working and you're there for entertainment nothing wrong with that now if you took her home

TheSpartan · Answer

Of course it's cheating. Anything that intentionally brings you sexual arousal from anyone who is not your wife or girlfriend is cheating, period. This is no debatable.

legalboxers · Answer

No. lap dance isn't cheating. Maybe to those insecure folks...

DeeToPlay · Answer

Only if you feel the need to misrepresent your actions.

Sunni001 · Answer

Definitely cheating but everyone has their own definition especially these days. I think more to the point.. it's helpful to both have the same definition of that before continuing the relationship! :)

Raphaëlle · Answer

No if it doesn't lead to something else or if your partner doesn't know about it.

loveslongnails · Answer

Not when you're 50, coach. :-D. Wish you'd have done a poll so we could see the girl/guy vote on this one :)

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Technically it's not cheating but it's bad enough to be seen as disrespect to the relationship and the partner

Jersey2 · Answer

Nope. It’s just guys having fun if it’s done in a group. If it’s done alone it’s a bit pathetic.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. Why the f would you do that if you're in a relationship?

bamesjond0069 · Answer

For either a man or woman to get one from a girl, no. For either a man or woman to get one from a man, yes.

bgreek · Answer

Nope Unless the girlfriend or wife agrees to a lapdance

Old_Golden · Answer

"... a lap dance is so much better when the stripper is cryin..."

AmandaYVR · Answer

Nope.

Anonymous · Answer

That's a tough one. I would definitely be unhappy with it unless it was discussed with me prior.

TsAubreyKate · Answer

No but I don’t wanna see it if I want asscheeks and titties in my face you can have balls and dick slapping against your face

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