It's totally up to each couple to decide whether that's cheating or not. I've been to a strip club, more than once. I've also had a lap dance more than once. Something everyone needs to understand, 99% of these places are no touch. If you even attempt to touch one of the ladies you will be escorted out of the club. The lap dances that I received I did not pay for. I was at a bachelor party, someone paid for me to go have a lap dance. Did I enjoy the view, you can bet your ass I did. Did I lust after them? No I did not. I understand that there working, that's how they earn a living. A lot of these women are single parents, raising a child and making a damn good income. Now if your boyfriend or husband comes home with a raging boner because he's been at the strip club then you have issues with him. The good sign is he came home with the raging boner because he didn't bust another at the club. I don't know if a lot of you consider this cheating because of your insecurities? There are a lot of these women that don't look as good as the ladies that are worried about their men going to the club. Just my opinion, not trying to start a fight. I have no issues with whether you consider it cheating or not. My wife does not consider it cheating. Basically nothing happened besides there was a naked woman standing in front of me shaking her ass.
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I know many are going to say " No " its not , but after having a number of years previously within the industry , and having seen what I have seen and even participated in I can assure you it certainly is cheating in a true sense.
People say things like " we go as a couple " and blah , blah , blah , believe me , the dance for the " couple " is vastly different , just as it often is ( the other way around ) for a guy with a particular connection.
It also depends on the club , there was another club ( not sure if its still there ) Richmond , Victoria Australia ( no liquor license ) different restrictions , which was basically a whore house.
But , I can tell , there would not be a partner on the planet ( unless genuinely open and getting a serve from someone else ) who would be happy with what happens at times. There are also different rules in reality around timing , a busy Saturday night / Friday night , with a couple of bucks nights in - meek and mild , compared to what happens on a quiet Wednesday afternoon , with someone who has an actual understanding of how things work.
Let your imagination run rife , then x it by 5 , it may not always happen on premises , but there is lots that happens in this world , it attracts those kind of people also , all sorts.
Some might say just going to the strip club is cheating. Looking is fine as long as there is no touching and that includes the female touching the man, definitely vice versa. For me, I’d want to go to the strip club WITH my man 😜 but then again I may not like what I see. If you are in a serious, committed, monogamous relationship, it’s just best NOT to go to the strip club at all. Would you mind your woman going to a Chip ‘n’ dales? As long as I am able to go to a Chip ‘n’ dales then I’m all for it. All in all though, what it really comes down to is trust. Would I be able to trust that my man would be able to control himself? Every woman (at least almost every woman) knows that with the right price and the right stripper there is a VIP area and touching is allowed with some sexual activity too. So that depends. Again, it’s best to just avoid a strip club unless you want a messy relationship or don’t care about the relationship.
Anything SEXUAL without the Partner's Consent----Hell YES!!! xx
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Forget the word "cheating" because it invites disingenuous word games revolving around whether something is "technically" cheating.
The gist of the offense with cheating is that you have either made a promise, or your partner has a reason to expect you, to conduct yourself in a particular manner and to totally abstain from doing certain things. When someone is cheating, there is almost always and effot to conceal the behavior because the person knows that their spouse would disapprove/file for divorce/just pull out a gun and shoot them. The secrecy is motivated by the knowledge that the person knows they are violating their partner's trust or expectations.
So, my usual response is. . . is this something that you would do if your partner was present? If not, why not? And if it must be done in secret, how is that better than doing it openly in the presence of your partner?
I really don't think that it's cheating but it's the same time it's something you have to ask yourself or tell yourself if you're going to do this then that means it's okay for your significant other to go do this too even though it might be innocent you're saying it's okay for your significant other to do it if you do it
There are many different things in this world that some people consider treating some people don't but what you really have to look at is if I do this then I'm saying that it's okay for my spouse to do it too it's probably just a good thing not to go do LOL that way there's no problems not unless she's with you and that would be a better situation because I would get her a lap dance issues with me because I want her to experience itA lap dance yess but just being at a strip club with friends or for a party no. Luckily my partner is disgusted by strippers cuz his sister was a stripper for years so he refuses to go unless I'm with him
Cheating is an ambiguous term.
Doing nothing at all with other people is definitely not cheating.
Having sex with someone who is not your significant other (assuming you are monogamous and exclusive) IS cheating.
Everything else in between?
Grey area.
That sh*t needs to ALL be sorted out and made clear through proper communication.Ask your partner to find out, if they don't want you to or approve of it, then yeah... if they are like go for it, then nope.
If you're married then yes. That sort thing she be recieved/done by your spouse only.
Not unless it develops into something more.
SHORT ANSWER (Too Long Didn’t Read “Detailed Explanation” further below):
If your “SO” (Significant Other) thinks that you getting lap dances at strip clubs is considered “cheating” then it’s cheating.
DETAILED EXPLANATION:
There is NOT an “absolute” definition for what “cheating” is — cheating is different for each different couple.
Some couples consider physical acts such as kissing or intimate touching/cuddling people outside of their relationship to be “cheating”; and other couples consider in-person flirting with anyone outside of the couple’s relationship to be “cheating”; and other couples consider any online flirting (such as sexual chatting/sexting/roleplaying/sending & requesting nudes) with anyone outside of the couple’s relationship to be “cheating.
And some couples think some or all of the above is ok; and an even smaller subset of couples have partially open or fully open relationships w their SOs, where manual/oral sex or full sex with non-SO people is ok/allowed.
So, what “cheating” is DEPENDS on what each couple allows/does not allow to be done with others outside of the couple’s relationship.
BOTTOM LINE “IN GENERAL” COMMENTS:
Doing ANYTHING with someone outside of a couple’s relationship that is “not ok/not allowed” under that couple’s “relationship agreement/understanding” is “cheating” for that couple.
Yes if your partner finds it disrespectful, How would you feel if she was getting a lap dance by a male stripper without you knowing and then you find out later this male stripper had his cock in her face? So unless you don’t have your partners consent it is cheating , For a relationship and for love to grow , you should always make your partner your number 1 priority , always put yourself in their shoes before making decisions , if you aren’t ok with them doing something then it’s not ok for you. Selfishness is a relationship killer , If you can’t remove selfishness for your partner they will not be able to remove it for you. And you are probably best not to be in a relationship period , Respect each other and value each other , We can’t force someone to love us and stand by us but we can treat them the same way we want to be treated , if they choose to walk away , let them go , Because you can’t respect someone that doesn’t respect you , If someone tells you that you are being insecure and controlling they are selfish because it has nothing to do with that , it comes down to respect for each other. From my experiences with girl’s most girl’s are very selfish people that only really care about themselves , most girl’s want a man to love and adore them , and when they find that man they start pushing him away and playing games with him , , Why is guys need to play good guy bad guy when it comes to relationships or she will lose interest , Girl’s need drama in their lives , Find a girl that will remove her selfishness for you the same you do for her
Guess that depends on the boundaries established in the relationship of the couple.
Although some strippers that I knew back in the day are pretty territorial when it comes to regulars and act as though they were cheated one when another dancer gives them a dance.
Crazy.
I believe it is (borderline) especially if your spouse doesn't know that you go to one. Cheating in my books is defined as (mostly) physical sexual interaction with the other member of sex including having a relationship with them (other than your spouse). Modern table dancing has certainly turned things on their heads, in particular for those who have religious views, because it is a rather grey area.
Personally speaking I think relationships that are wholesome doesn't need any form of lapdancing to keep it going. Why would any sane person want to spend time with and be with someone other than their spouse?Only been to a strip club once and genuinely didn't know it was one when I went in as my 'friend' paid the entrance fee. A woman came over to me at the bar and asked for my belt. I found out later why. Is it cheating? Well I felt uncomfortable being there, not for me but her.
I didn't like watching her strip. I don't appreciate men ogling a woman like fresh meat. I only stayed as she had my belt, I do get it's their choice (and sometimes it isn't) but it just didn't sit right.
When she came to me with my belt, still topless I looked away and apologised profusely and explained I didn't know it was a strip bar. She said she noticed I wasn't looking and still wasn't looking as she stood there topless. She said 'Thank you, that means a lot to me' smiled and walked away.
Don't get me wrong. I have done some pretty out there things sexually in my time but paying to look at a naked woman dance and be ogled by hundreds of men, just felt wrong.
Cheating is something you cannot tell your partner about because you know they would feel betrayed.
If you can tell your partner this because you know they wouldn't mind then it's not cheating.
So whether it's cheating or not depends highly on your partner.
Personally I don't see why one would in relationship unless if it's just a one time thing because you've never experienced it before. Or you and your partner both go together lol.100%. If my boyfriend wants to go to a strip club or get lap dances, he can do that single. It would be over as soon as I find out or get an indication what type of guy he is. He can find another woman who doesn’t mind the disrespect though; however, it will never be me
From a woman doing a job at a bachelor party or something, they are more likely to come home to you revved up. You’ll be the one enjoying the night. Trust is a powerful thing.
Are lap dances at strip clubs considered cheating?
The Girls Are Going To Say YES & The Guys Are Going To Say NO.If a stripper is in a relationship & works at a strip club is that cheating?
NO the stripper is just doing their job.If a girl goes to a gynecologist & she is in a relationship & the doctor is male & examined her taco is that cheating? NO
If a guy is in a relationship & goes to a doctor for a physical & the doctor is female & grabs his balls & tells him to cough is that cheating? NO
I think it is open for discussion with your partner. I wouldn’t consider it cheating as it is a paid thing in a strip club. I have been to some with friends even if I was in a relationship. But my girlfriend always knew I would be going. If she told me she was uncomfortable with that, I would respect it and would not go.
I would find it problematic if I would go there regularly. That might point to some problems in our relationship, which this could be a way of coping with. But I can find better ways to spend my money, than for a girl stripping in front of me.- u
personally... I would not care if a girlfriend gets a lap dance, because it is just a lap dance
but to me, it is more than that... this should be a conversation between partners, and you should know ahead... if he or she, is not happy and does not like the idea of the partner getting a lap dance, then the partner should just not do it, as simple as that...
everyone is different and has different approaches to this stuff
personally again... the only lap dances I got, they were from my girlfriends lol, so I don't think that was cheating... This is a very debatable question and I think its heavily context based, first of all there's partners who'd simply dump your ass immediately if you set foot in a stripclub without them regardless of the reason (Even if someone pushed in there and you left immediately lmao) From what I know about stripclubs both people involved in a lapdance are not allowed to directly touch each others genitals or make-out but i've had a lap-dance once and she rubbed her hand right up against my tent (I would consider this cheating/final warning from my spouse)
I dont think many spouses would approve of it however unless you happen to be in a very open and loose relationship
If your partner is uncomfortable with the idea then yes it is cheating. I think consent in relationships determines what is okay and what isn't okay. I wouldn't want my partner going to a strip club, period. That's MY boundary.
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