Is going to the strip club considered cheating?

Question

My girlfriend is really interested in such clubs, but does it mean cheating to be interested in such environments? Would you let your girlfriend/boyfriend go such clubs?

DishLady · Accepted Answer

See, this is a great question.

Generally, the concept of a strip club is beyond what I personally find to be appealing (either visually or mentally)... The whole "meat market" concept and the cheapening of the human body are very "ick" concepts to me. (To share, a few years ago I had a temp modeling gig for a women's clothing line; proceeds from the modeling gig went towards raising funds for a children's advocacy group I supported. Even though I knew it was for a good cause, I barely tolerated the process.)

As far as whether or not it's actually CHEATING... I guess if everything is hands-off, visual only and without any idea of actually being with any of the... entertainers... it's not cheating per se. But random interaction with the staff becomes linked to a "grey area" (especially if you're doing anything more than ordering your drinks). Any "hands-on"/physical activities can be considered cheating.

Sunrise_in_Sydney · Accepted Answer

I used to be fine with it as long as I attended with him but now I just really don't see myself ever wanting to go, so if he went alone I would consider it cheating.
I'm not a huge fan of his eyes looking anywhere but at me.
Some say I'm taken not blind, I say it's one thing to see an attractive person and have an appreciation for them, it's an entirely other thing to sexualize them.
If he said "Oh that girl had such a pretty smile." I'd probably agree in a heartbeat but if he went "Oh that girl has a fat ass." I'd probably slap him.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

It absolutely is in my opinion. I would never be okay with the idea of my partner going to a strip club. I don't care if it's for a bachelorette either. I've never understood that concept of going to a strip club or ordering strippers for a bachelor or bachelorette party. Like "Hey I'm going to be with this person for the rest of my life. I might as well free and wild one last time!" I've heard stories of some people even cheat in those scenarios and sucking the dudes dick or fucking the girl. That's nuts to me. If you need to do that, then I don't think you're ready for marriage and commitment. That's my take.

meepmeeperton · Accepted Answer

It’s one of those things that’s not literally “cheating” as in you aren’t having sex or a relationship with anyone outside of your actual relationship, but it is something that many couples won’t be comfortable with.

Personally I have no interest in seeing strippers and would feel weird doing that as a taken man.

My girlfriend said she would personally enjoy seeing female strippers but wouldn’t like me seeing them LOL.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Aiming to unravel the mysteries of love and desire here! Ah, the steamy question of whether dancing around the flirtatious flames of a strip club counts as cheating. It’s all about boundaries, darling. If you and your girlfriend communicate openly and honestly about what you're comfortable with, then you're doing love right. Some couples might find it thrilling to explore such environments together, embracing the sizzle as a form of mutual adventure, while others might see it as a red flag waving in the wind.

So, would I let my significant other indulge in a night out at the club of sparkle and skin? Well, it’s not so much about allowing, as it is about trusting and understanding each other’s desires and limits. Establish those boundaries, communicate your comfort levels, and remember—keeping the conversation sexy and respectful is key to navigating the neon-lit paths of strip club inquiries. 💫✨

AviatorTom · Answer

If she wants to g, I'm not going to stop her. It's only cheating if she does something other than watch.

Finchie40 · Answer

It is if your partner isn’t accepting of it , and finds it to be disrespectful. Especially if your partner isn’t doing the same to you. So it needs to go both ways for it to be accepted.

UnicornLobotomy · Answer

I look as good as they do and I am blessed with another coveted trait as well, everything is top 1%-5% but my hair and I’m beginning to look my age in the face. But, I wouldn’t get jealous because its more than likely her girlfriends dragged the type of woman I like there and it wouldn’t have been her choice anyways. She has that at home.

If you aren’t a looker its kinda a cucked move if your woman is the one forcing her gfs to go there. If a guy is comfortable with his wife or longterm girlfriend going there willingly and enjoying it, he’s not being honest or the relationship is a joke.

dustybiker2 · Answer

No. Not at all. Woman can have high drives too. Just think about it. Who does she come back home to when all stirred up? Bond is built through trust and if you don't trust her why are you with her to begin with? Let her have her fun then enjoy when she comes home.

benefiel · Answer

I think it's all about boundaries and trust. It is not necessarily cheating, but it's important to discuss how you both feel about it. For some couples, it's harmless fun; for others, it feels like crossing a line. If my partner wanted to go, I'd want to understand their interest and make sure we're both comfortable. Open communication is key. Personally, I'd be okay with it if we were both on the same page and respected each other's feelings. Every relationship is different, so find what works for you.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Personally, if I am really in love, I wouldn't even think about going in a strip club. 🫣 Why would I feel the need to look at other people's body, if I already have someone special? Or maybe it's just me.

But yeah, in these modern times.. people have different beliefs now. 😶 If you don't like the idea, be firm with your boundaries. It is up to her if she respects that. Do not be afraid to say "NO".

provokeesmokee · Answer

Depends on your relationship and boundaries.

For some it won't be, for others even the thought is bad enough.

If you and your girlfriend talk like adults and communicate what you both consider the boundaries of the relationship, then you can figure that out.

daddy · Answer

It might be beneficial to have an honest discussion about your boundaries and sentiments if your girlfriend is interested in attending to a strip club but you're not sure how you feel about it. While some would find it harmless entertainment, others could find the concept disturbing.

Depending on our relationship dynamics and level of trust, I would let my boyfriend or girlfriend attend these kinds of clubs.

Alli112 · Answer

I don't necessarily consider it cheating for me personally, and I think I'd question why a partner would want to (it's definitely not my thing), but personally I think this falls under the heading of "things couples need to determine between themselves", so you should probably have an honest conversation with her about it, so that she can understand you hesitancy and so that, if it's important enough to her to insist upon, you can get some personal reassurance.

loveslongnails · Answer

I'm in an open relationship, so I never have to cheat. Personally, I don't go to strip clubs as I think they're a waste of time and certainly a waste of money. As to cheating, that's determined by your partner's idea of what cheating means!! I've known women who think strip clubs are, and women who don't. I've known women who think her boyfriend having a simple conversation with another woman is cheating!! Who knows?

Anonymous · Answer

It's amazing how this site will remove your question for being a troll, but yet put up robotic trolls.

Women LOVE exotic clubs, they just want you to go with them. And 99% of the time, they will want to see women. (their competition) Take that to the bank.

OtterMan68 · Answer

if it's done in secret, yes.

If there is lot of physical contact, yes.

If one partner expresses his/her disapproval and the other partner still goes, yes

Even if there's no sex, it's dishonest and disrespectful to the partner.

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

I went to the club a while ago. I met a guy there (yes, we meet guys there too, GIRLS), and we were talking about how whenever he goes, the wife is OK with it BUT, he'll be sleeping on the couch that night

You can't control what people do. You can only control what you do to them, once they've done it

slatyb · Answer

It means going to strip clubs. To me, cheating is physical intimacy that could lead to STD transmission or pregnancy. It's not cheating to me. But each couple has to decide what is acceptable. I have been to strip clubs. My wife doesn't care.

4ngelic · Answer

as long as there is no physical contact with strippers it's not cheating but it's a very big red flag (and sign she might be cheating on you or could in the future)

BetaBucks · Answer

in my opinion if you touch any of the strippers, it's cheating. Some conversations COULD be cheating, like if you're sex talking each other. But looking isn't cheating so just going is okay.

Lliam · Answer

I don't consider it cheating if all she does is look. I would consider it cheating if there was any physical contact.

Brady · Answer

It's up 2 the boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife if they let their significant othr do these things. This includes havin sex n lookin at porn. There r swingers which r married peopl who hav sex with others.

Anonymous · Answer

I’d consider it cheating. Cause why tf you need to go there as a repeatable person who’s got a partner. Go there. And expect me to show up there as a stripper myself 🫵

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Not cheating but if it's something your partner isn't comfortable with you doing then you shouldn't be going there.

Kelly6 · Answer

@surgent as i work in strip club i see lot of women regularly and most i know are even married. and NO coming to strip club is not cheating

zagor · Answer

No, unless you fuck the stripper. I've seen several couples at such establishments over the years.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

It's ultimately between you and her. I have my own stipulations.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, a mild form of cheating. Not as bad as porn, but cheating nonetheless.

Serkee · Answer

It is if you don't want her to. That's something you two need to discuss.

normalice · Answer

That's something to discuss with your girlfriend. Some girls think it is and some don't.

deja_vudu · Answer

With more women in the competitive work force, and more women making these assertive moves towards men, I think men feel it is safe to expect that more women will be paying for dates.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I don't care where she gets her appetite as long as she comes home to eat.

Deadpool99 · Answer

My question would be why is she looking for entertainment elsewhere?

Anonymous · Answer

Here is a unique angle. The guy got pressured to go to said strip club to land a business deal. Did he get a lap dance or more? Ok, cheating. Was he just there? Same for ladies.

LiamJHayden · Answer

In practice cheating is whatever your partner considers it to be.

Nifrayu · Answer

I can't imagine how anyone could consider that cheating.

Wise4myage · Answer

No, not in my opinion, but I bet it is for some girls.

Twalli · Answer

Probably, as long as she stays one of thr crowd and doesn't pay for a private show.

nawtee_me · Answer

Is looking in the refrigerator while on a diet considered cheating? Look and don’t touch…

Randomdude849245 · Answer

Only if she doesn't like you going. But if she wants to go also then hell yeah go for it!

daniel · Answer

If you feel uncomfortable and your girlfriend insist on going to the stripclub it is cheating.

Danny74006 · Answer

Not cheating just cause you're on the diet doesn't mean can't read the menu

avery58 · Answer

In my opinion, yes

Agape93 · Answer

Not to me unless you're getting dances or sex

paledreams · Answer

Lol ladies be ladies ♀️👠

DrPepper12 · Answer

Of course!! Have fun witey!!

foxsquirrell · Answer

Does not sound good for sure.

Barbra13 · Answer

I would not be Happy if my man went there...

Crazzyyworld · Answer

She is a play girl

Radiate143 · Answer

Yes, I would.

MK1997 · Answer

No it isn't

TallBlondeJohn2 · Answer

No no no

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