Do you still remember your ex's birthday?

[Anonymous]

Today is my birthday. I'm stupidly waiting for my ex to send me a message. Lol 😔😂
How can you unlove someone fast? Let me know in the comments please.

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, it's really easy to remember! It's the exact same day as my aunt's b-day, Jan. 1st!
My 1st ex's b-day is same day as her daughter's: July 3rd.
I''m not 100% sure of my second ex-'s b-day because there were a number of close b-days in Sept. dad, my brother, my best friend's, my 2nd ex's. And they were all within the same week.

[Asker]

Oh you have sharp memory!! really nice

[FunkyMonkee]

Thank you! I DO try! My singer & I could rattle off the titles to every episode of, "The Outer Limits" and give a synopsis of each story. But, he's dead and I've been away from the show for a few years so, I'm a bit rusty, at the moment. However, we've got original songs we wrote in the early `80's and haven't played since then and I can still remember my drum parts for them!
My other best friend's b-day is this Sunday... Devil's Night!
It also helps that I've been collecting records since I was 2. I don't recall the artist or title but, it had a red label, and it was kid's record sung by some woman and it was the story about a sleepyhead squirrel. I got it for Christmas from two friends of my parents, Bob & Pauline Bernhardt. There was some little girl that lived in the apartment upstairs of them and I loved going up to play with her when we went over there but I think that Christmas was the last time I saw her. She had dark hair.
I find it a bit sad that most people don't make an effort to remember a lot of things that happened to them. I mean, even stuff that they said or did a few days before. It's like they're just having too much fun in life to bother. Or like the moments are just fleeting and not WORTH remembering.

[Asker]

Oh wow! You do cherish memories. Well maybe life is too much to handle for most people that's why they tend to forget memories from the past. But im sure everyone has a core memory to look back to.

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, I'm sure EVERYBODY'S got SOMETHING in their memory banks.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I remember someone with that same birthday. I know a few people’s birthdays, but just one ex’s.

[nawtee_me]

I still remember my ex's birthday...

Oh, by the way...

Happy Birthday to you,

Happy Birthday to you,

Happy Birthday dear Anonymous, Happy Birthday to you...

[Asker]

Thank you!!!

[WhitneySnow]

I’m not sure but some people especially guys lose feelings super fast

[Asker]

yeah 100% true, they move on very fast as well

[WonderBell99]

Yes, January 14th. A week before my grandfather's birthday.

[WonderBell99]

Many more happy returns of the day. I think he might just be giving you space, or if you broke up on bad terms, he may want to move on. I feel like you still have feelings for him. You should distance yourself from him for a while... at least until your feelings fade and try to move on

[Asker]

Thank you for your advice. I'm trying to forget about him. We did not ended in bad terms. But he cut me off from everything so I can move on. It's just not meant to be. He's not prepared to be in a relationship. He prefer to be alone.

[Asker]

He wasn't just my ex boyfriend. He was also my bestfriend.

[BeMuse]

Nope. I don't tend to remember birthday very well, not even my own. It's just one more circle around the sun. It's pretty trivial.

[BeMuse]

*birthdays

[Asker]

Let's google calendar your birthday so you can remember!!! Kidding but you are right.

[NathanDavis]

yes...

because they're near holidays that are easy to remember... lmao

[Asker]

Hahahha oh yeah that's easy to remember

[slatyb]

I remember two of them. I'm still in touch with them occasionally.

[Asker]

that's so nice of you!

[slatyb]

It's nice of them too. Now that you have mentioned it, I remember my ex-wife's birthday too but we're not in contact. It was a very ugly breakup.

[Asker]

I think my ex dont want to engage contact as well because it's not that long since we broke up. He initiated it, he has commitment issues.

My first ex i dont care about him, the breakup was ugly.

[Lucifer_666]

I do remember, but it hasn’t been that long since we broke up. I’m curious why are you waiting for a text from him? Do you still have feelings for him?

[Asker]

replied lol, well im over it im not waiting anymore

[Brando10222]

Yes, I do but I no longer care about her. Not even a little.

[Asker]

ohhh... was the breakup too bad?

[Brando10222]

Yeah, she was toxic a lot and misused my pictures

[Asker]

Oh. Im so sorry about what happened to you!

[Brando10222]

Can you dm me?

[Asker]

I'll send a follow request.

[Anonymous]

Sure do. June 30th and November 12. Crap. One of the birthdays is coming up. I better get the anonymous gift mailed out to her if it’s gonna get there in time.

[Asker]

oh wow! you still think about doing that, my exes never bother to send me a greeting ahaha anyway it's already over

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t know if it’s thoughtful. This is what I normally send. It’s cheap but it gets the message across.

[Asker]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 OMG

[MountAverage]

Yes, I remember all four of my exes' birthdays.

[Asker]

do you still send them birthday greetings?

[MountAverage]

Two of them yes, the other two no.

[Asker]

That's so nice of you 😊

[MountAverage]

I've spent years with each of them, I'd find it crazy to simply erase them from my life. They were the closest person to me for years each and we ended on good terms, nobody did anything wrong. So yeah, I genuinely wish them all the best. One has a kid now and seems very happy, which is great.

[Asker]

I hope you have found happiness as well!!

Well some guys can erase their exes easily, even though I did nothing wrong and I was the one they badly hurt. Haha. Anyway, life. 🙄

[MountAverage]

Thank you. My most recent break up (3 year relationship incl. sharing a flat) is still hurting quite a lot. We ended on good terms and we both know it was the right decision because there were just too many differences. But we were so incredibly close and intimate, emotionally speaking, for these 3 years. It's just so sad that's now suddenly gone. But yeah, c'est la vie.

I'm sorry to hear. But the reason why they can do it so easily, is probably because it's the easy way out for them. It protects themselves. For men it's often an ego thing. Which of course is rather immature, but also understandable to a degree.

[Asker]

Well, life has many lessons. Ce'st la vie 🥂
Sent you a follow! Thanks for the input on my post.

[MountAverage]

Indeed, indeed. There will be more disappointmens and setbacks to come, it never stops. But ideally we learn and grow from it each time.

[Asker]

Exactly!!! 💯

[AviatorTom]

We were married for 20 years and amicably divorced. We still text each other Happy Birthday wishes on our birthdays.

[lightbulb27]

no I don't, it's not relevant. If he moved on he moved on. If he's still "in the game", he's stairing at whether he should send something and thinking of all the implications.

[exitseven]

Yes, it is the same day as one of my neice;s birthday.

[DCooper]

It's a little tough to forget it... same day as my own.

[Asker]

Omg!

[likelyOK]

I do but I’m not sure if he does probably not, he forgets dates a lot

[Anonymous]

I remembered my ex's birthday for many years. We eventually got back together, years later, so it became useful again.

However, as an ex, I'd leave you alone and focus on my own life.

[Lyndsielee666]

I mean he’s my kids dad so yes 🙄

[Asker]

ohh!!! well, i hope everything is good for you and you babies!!

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I remember Shayna’s birthday, but I think that is it.

[Asker2022]

Here here, happy birthday, princess 👸

[Asker]

Thank you!!!

[Rapport]

All I can remember is the month, December.

[Asker]

my first ex was December as well.

[gerald5466]

yes February 16 2 days after valentines day or 8 days after my birthday

[Anonymous]

I try hard to forget them.

[Opinion Owner]

Forget him and focus on moving on.

[Asker]

Im trying 😔

[Account]

January 18th. Yes, for sure I do.

[Asker]

My ex is June 18th ahhahaa