Me (28) him (29) (we live together)
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So I feel like my 2 year&a half relationship is finally running it’s last course, sadly. I am feeling very emotional rn, it’s been about a full year where we seem to not be able to communicate, our sex life has been lacking for the past 3 months&we always have problems expressing our feelings to each other to where whenever we do it ends up in a fight. Tonight I think I realized just how unhappy I am w/ him. After this whole thing he went to go sleep on the couch for the night..
Long story short I was unemployed for about 2months but kept a side gig going &was making at least some income to pay bills, but I would only work 1-2 times a week, the rest of the days I would be a stay at home mom. Did all the chores&the cooking around the house etc. But during this time I was looking for a part time job, I finally was able to get one&started last week. So I’ve been there for 1week now I am happy I finally found a job&I know my boyfriend is happy for me too. But it seems like he got so used to me doing EVERYTHING in the house that last week honestly I was exhausted&didn’t do much during the week, while I adjusted to my new schedule from 7:30am-3pm. I made a silly comment saying “I want to be lazy dad now” “get home from work&do nothing at all and just got to work the next day”. But I made him upset with my comment, (I don't know what I was thinking) so this week I’ve been trying to get more done around the house but he claims he’s the one feeling unappreciated for all the help&support he gives me&my child I have a 5year old&it’s obvious that I have to clean after myself and my kid so it’s double the work for everything, dishes/laundry etc.
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Honestly this is very much what a married relationship is like. My wife and I go back and forth over imbalances in house chores all the time. Key is, communicate! Dont run away from each other. Love means commitment and sacrifice. Put away your desires and try to compromise. Love is not fun and roses. you're going through a very NORMAL thing in a relationship. The difference between being a couple and being an ex, is learning to work things out TOGETHER.
Is he the 5yos daddy?
No.
But he’s been with us since my kid was 3yrs old.
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He has pushed me to better&I am grateful for it he has taught me a way of life different than what I grew up with&being more optimistic.(i was never taught this when I was younger) he comes from a very strict family&is super smart and I guess he just wants me to be at that level, I have been trying. But it seems like it’s never enough for him, I know he doesn’t do it to make me feel less. But it just leaves me with uncertainty of our relationship.
Hmmm. Sounds like an imbalance in your relationship. He has to treat you as an equal or hit the streets.