Hey guys I need help. I’m in such a rough spot. I broke up with someone let’s say 4-5 months ago. He told me how much he liked me etc to suddenly distance and say he’s not ready. The thing is, we work at the same company and in the same part of the company. We’re on different floors as it’s a large firm but he often helps my manager and I always see him at company events. I have tried to keep in touch with him because I know we work together and to just be friends. Which is fine but trying to keep contact with him his so triggering. He would be very talking one day and then when I reply he just fully ignores me. Then I see him in the office he comes up and smiles like he’s not ghosting me outside of work. I called him out for this a couple days ago and said I don’t get why you always ignore me to then say hi to me. He didn’t respond and it’s bothering me so much so I just blocked him deciding not to focus my energy on something that makes me feel so shitty.
i just saw him at another company event. I was trying to avoid eye contact and not talk and he didn’t talk and he also avoided eye contact. But when everyone was introducing each other he was like oh yea I know her and that was it. I purposely stayed away from him.
now I’m home and I feel like I’m about to vomit from the thought of just seeing him. I feel so sick I don't know what to do. Should I message him again? Should I leave him blocked? How should I go about this going forward should I just try to avoid him at work?
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Just totally block him on everything and go no contact to the extent that you can. This kind of thing is why people recommend avoiding workplace romances.
Will do. I knowww i didn’t intend to have a workplace romance. It’s a long story but I worked at his firm the two years before he started working there, I left to another job I thought I would be at long term (when I was at my new place he started coincidentally working on my old job), then I was basically suddenly laid off, and I pleaded to go back to my old job with no where else to go and bills to pay. I thought I would be in another firm during the time we started talking. And we broke up shortly after I rejoined my old job. A very sucky story and inconvenient for me all around. But lesson def learned
Oof! My sympathies. I hope the situation works out okay
Yes go total dark ‼️
But what about in instances when I see him at work? He always tried to smiles and me and say hi and I feel like I’m brining personal matters into work if I ignore. How do I deal with that… and everytime I see him I feel like I’m going to vomit it’s so bad
And should I leave him blocked? I don't know how to deal with it. Or like try to be friendly for work
Business at work. No Budiness everywhere else.
So like ignore him when he tries to talk at work? And keep him blocked on cell?
Pay attention. Do not react. Do not respond unless Work specific