My boyfriend is puking non stop?

[Anonymous]

He has this puking attacks that can last for 2 or even 5 hours. Lately it happens like once every week, total maybe 4 times in last month

Its horrible, he feels so weak

I called and asked ig he wants me to bring him food, he said no.

He called me, crying , saying he doesn't know what to do, he is in pain and so sick of suffering

I said ill ride you to the hospital, he says no it has no point since right this moment he is not puking

I said yes there is the point its still in your body and you need a medical exam.

He refuses to go the hospital.

Just hubg on me saying he has no force even talking

How do i make him go to the hosoital

by the way we like in Spain, so the medicine here is free and accesible to everybody.

Its not like US so its not a money issue.

[LazerBean]

It sounds like he definitely needs to see the hospital. My friend had something similar happened to her, and after a lot of testing and visiting doctors they figured out that she has Crohn's disease. She battled it for over a year before they found out how to treat her. That's over a year with nearly constant nausea and barely being able to keep food down. It was awful, she lost so much weight and pretty much didn't have strength to do anything except drag herself to work and back.

[Asker]

Exactly how he feels
When he calls me crying
I dont know what to do or to day to him

[Asker]

He refuses my help and doesn't like hearing about hospitals

[LazerBean]

Well that sounds pretty dumb. Tell him to either do something about his problems or stop complaining about them.

[Asker]

I said staying on your own at home won't give you any solution
He says im not puking now
Ill go when im puking again
Wtf
I said he doesn't need to wait until he feels sick again he can go when he wants
isn't it? like what

[BoopBoopBeep]

Yeah I'm with @LazerBean on this one. Bro sounds like an idiot.

[Asker]

@BoopBoopBeep be is
I don't know the f im doing with him

[Ms_Facesitter]

I'd... get a doctor to examine him at home first, because he doesn't want to go himself. And if it is bad, which it IS, and me and the doctor still can't convince him. I'd find a way to make him sleep, and then have the ambulance take him. I wouldn't want him to die.

[Asker]

I live in another city
He refuses me to come see him
Im 40 min in car from him

[Ms_Facesitter]

I'd call 911 or whatever the line is over there and ask them what the best course of action is in this situation, in your place at least. Me myself I would have barged down the door.

[Asker]

Io nce did
He freaked out
Never again
Ill call and ask

[Twalli]

Have him go to his doctor; it doesn't have to be a hospital. His doctor can find out what's wrong. If he starts puking again, he probably needs to go to the Emergency Department which generally costs money even with universal healthcare. Doctor's visits are cheaper and can save a lot of time.

[ProbablyClueless]

The man has free will. You can't make him go if he doesn't want to go. Just let his health get bad enough and then drive him when he's ready to go.

People are weird about stuff like going to doctors. It's sometimes seen as being weak.

[Asker]

Why he calles me cryingsaying he doesn't know what to do
He knows
He is just afraid he said
But really be afraid this nuch to suffer like this?
Its been going on for 2 years!!!2

[Asker]

What he wants me to tell him? what?
At this point i dont know what he wants from me
He doesn't want to see me or to me to bring him food or to ride him to hospital
He doesn't like hearing about hospitals and doctors
Wtf he wants from me
I dont kno what to do or what to say anymore
2 years its too much already

[ProbablyClueless]

Because he is scared of the answer he'll get. Don't expect logical thinking in a situation like that. If you want him to go to the hospital, then draw a boundary. Tell him to either go to the hospital or stop complaining to you, but don't let his behavior continue.

[Asker]

Im tired
I have no idea what to say or to do

[ProbablyClueless]

I just told you. If you want him to go to the hospital, tell him to either go to the hospital or stop complaining to you.

[Asker]

isn't it rude to say that?

[ProbablyClueless]

Not after the man has spent the last 2 years complaining to you and never doing anything to address the problem. If he was really suffering that much, he would get his ass over to the hospital. So, the fact he hasn't done that must mean he's lying to you to get sympathy.

[Asker]

You think?
But why? so weird
Sympathy won't stop his puking

[ProbablyClueless]

He might not actually be doing much puking. Like I said; don't ask for rational answers to why he would do this. It is what it is.

[jahaims]

Sounds like drugs or he is just flat out an idiot for not getting checked by a dr

[Sparkie460]

He needs to get to the hospital and get examined

[Asker]

... i know
He refuses...

[Sparkie460]

Why don't you call the hospital, put them on speaker so he can hear the conversation and tell them what's going on with him. Maybe if he heard it from a specialist he might go

[Asker]

It does work like this
The specialist needs to see him in person