Help with baby's father?

[Anonymous]

Recently broke up with father of my child and baby is 3 months old. Was in relationship for a year and a half he had bad depression says he wants to "fix" himself and work on his depression to be better for me and our son. He says he still sees a future with me and baby and still sees him regularly (not a bad father) but when we were together he constantly put his friends before me would rather go outside the house with them than me. Was happy with me just being in the house and not going out on dates or walks or anything even after son was born. Only does go out with his friends if it involves drink. He is still keeping in contact with me daily due to the fact we have a baby together but conversation does sway. He is 30 and I am 24. Advice please is he playing me keeping me as a back up plan incase he doesn't find what he's looking for or is he being serious? He says he has hope for our future and he doesn't want to see anybody else and wants to focus on himself for "us" help please.

[humanearth]

Walk away, take him to court for child support, and don't date the ding dong no more.

He is just using you for sex, I can see it. Now its time for to see it

[Asker]

Been told this many times before. Is always trying to flirt/sway conversation to sex even while visiting our son and before leaving my new flat I've moved into due to break up still trying to kiss etc.

[humanearth]

Don't fall for that fake love bullshit

Hold your ground

[Guy13]

What is your question?

[Asker]

From a man's perspective is this all some good talk to keep me with hope of the future to keep me as a back up plan or if something like this is with real intent.

[Guy13]

It sounds like he doesn't want to lose you nor does he want to limit himself from experiencing life. He seems to have adult situations but not adult solutions or decision-making abilities. As to your specific concern, I really can't say... I'm not there for the Vibe between you two.

[Avicenna]

I would try to get him to do couples counseling

[Brando10222]

Talk to him and tell him about the things you don't like. Make him change for good. Be honest with him before it's too late

[Teriyaki70]

Dump him