Is my baby fathers behaviour normal?

[Anonymous]

I’m 5 months pregnant with my baby dad / guy I’m datings child and I am just seeing abnormal behaviour?

-He threatens to kill me id I was to get with anyone else and I genuinely believe he would.

- when we argue he will call me names like retard, a bitch, a slag, a whore, a lose bitch and then acts as if nothing happens then buys me something to feel better.

- when he didn’t want the baby he threatened to rob my home and break into my gates and was turning up to my house and kill himself in front of me and blame it on me- then he randomly switched and said he wants the baby

- My midwife suggested we get tested for STDS not because I think he did anything but to be on the safe side as every pregnant woman does this and he got so mad and was shouting?

-He has not physically hit me but I heard a rumour that he beat his ex yo and pushed her down the stairs and she went to hospital.

- He calls me autistic and backwards if I do something wrong and he’ll shout at me and call me a child. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells.

- But when he’s nice he’s the nicest and I always end up feeling bad and he’s so lovely to my parents but I don’t know if it’s all an act.

Is this normal behaviour? I don’t know if I’m dealing with a dangerous person here. I’m moving out soon and I don’t know if to let him in my flat or not.

Updates

11 mo

I know this sounds all stupid but a lot of people say I’m being dramatic and I don’t know if I am

[Anonymous]

Hell no baby, this behavior is not normal or acceptable in a healthy relationship. It sounds like you are experiencing emotional abuse, which can be just as damaging as physical abuse.

Threatening to kill you or harm himself is not only abusive, but it is also a serious red flag for potential danger. It's important that you prioritize your safety and seek help if you feel threatened or in danger.

Name-calling, belittling, and using manipulative tactics like buying you gifts after abusive behavior are all signs of emotional abuse. It's important that you recognize these behaviors as abusive and do not accept them as normal or acceptable.

The fact that he may have physically abused his ex is also a major concern and should not be ignored. It's important that you take steps to protect yourself and your child from potential harm.

It's good that you are planning to move out soon, but it's important to consider your safety and whether or not it's safe to let him into your flat. You may want to consider seeking the help of a domestic violence hotline or shelter to discuss your options and develop a safety plan.

Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness in a relationship, and that you are not responsible for his abusive behavior. Consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor to work through your feelings and develop a plan for moving forward.

You need to get away and you’re pregnant. This is not normal or cool to swift this under the rug, it’s serious.

[Summeroflove]

No. That’s concerning and I think you need to contact law enforcement this is very scary. You never know when someone’s making empty threats and when they aren’t

[Anemone978]

No he is clearly fucking crazy.. anyone who says they will kill themselves because something you did is a nutjob and will probably seriously hurt you or your child.. get away from him asap!

[_Just_A_girl_]

talk to cas

meet up with parents more

join a group of your choice that has seniots for wise advice

[richardcory]

This is very very far from normal. Its seriously abusive and he is dangerous. Do you have family you can talk to?

[RavVid]

It doesn't matter if people think you are being dramatic. The question is do you feel unsafe. It sounds like you are in which case terminate it