I started “seeing” this girl a couple months ago and it took a while but we started to hang out and have lots of sex. Talked about things that are more serious such as our past and what we’d possibly like for our futures individually or together. But I always saw in her that she was not very serious in actually getting to know me or be with me. She just had fun with me and pushed away anything that was below the surface, mostly. Then after a while of having sex, and meeting at our places and having few dates to bars or restaurants - she voiced her loss of interest in different ways and it hurt me and made me feel less than and at fault for being too serious or not enough, etc. So then I tried for about a week or maybe a bit more here and there to talk to her and make changes and scale back so that we can still see each other and have sex without expectations (basically I was willing to settle and sell myself short of what I really wanted/needed to feel good with someone). She still pushed me back and said we should split ways. I let her go. She then added me back on snap me a week later and tested all kind of stuff relating to having sex and how she misses me and wants me inside her and cuddle her, even started saying that she’s in love with me and asking me if I am in love with her. Etc. then I called her and found out that she was drunk and a little high. She was out of town for family Christmas. She told me that few weeks from now she wants to see me when she comes back. The next day was Christmas Eve and I called to wish her merry Christmas and all that. No answer. So I went no contact. A month goes by but she was still on my snap. Watching my stories. But she would never post none or had me restricted from seeing it. Then she started posting pics and I saw one where she was back out of town with some guys. No idea who they are. I still didn’t contact and stopped watching her stories. Then she deleted me after posting few more pics and I didn’t watch her story.
You need to let her go. It is obvious that there is nothing there from her side of things. That conversation about missing you and stuff was just a moment of weakness. She may have been alone or in a mood that prompted her to reach out and say those things.
Everything else in your details tells me the opposite and that she does not want to be with you in a relationship. I think all you are going to do is drive yourself crazy looking for any sort of signal or sign.
Adding/removing her from any sort of social media isn't going to do anything other than make you look like you are trying to hard. I know this is hard to hear, but it is over.
You even mention she is posting pics with others guys. Perhaps those are just friends. Perhaps they are more than that. Point is that she has moved on and you need to do the same thing. There is no future with this one and the sooner you realize this, the sooner you can move on with your life. Best of luck.
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I would say to let her go. The one time she even suggested reconciliation was while under the influence, and already that was a while ago. But before and since then, she’s made it very clear that she wants to move on from you. No one can stop you from reaching out, but I think you’d be better accepting what the situation is and moving on. Don’t be that guy who pops back up every few months to test the waters.
If it was me I’d just leave her alone, by trying to contact her just makes you look desperate, unless that’s how you want to come across i’d just move on.
Some people in life we just cannot have they don’t feel the same way about us so you just move on, yes it’s hard but by fooling yourself into thinking she’ll be like “oh go on then I’ll give him a go” you’re just making yourself miserable knowing that it will never happen.
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She’s not interested. The only reason she seemed to change her mind about that was when she was drunk and high. That doesn’t count. Don’t try to talk to her anymore.
I’ve had several people ghost me, I still think of 2 of them.
I stopped taking you seriously when you mentioned snap.
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