My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now, living together the last year. there’s been a lot of issues as of late and building up over the last 12 months or so. I’ll write some bullet points so I’m not rambling explaining my reasonings to my questions. I get that some of these could sound petty or whatever without explaining them further so happy to discuss if there’s any questions.
- I’ve asked for some simple things to change (if he’s last out of bed to make it in the morning, to put his dirty dishes in the kitchen instead of them stacking up in the bedroom, to check in with me if he’s staying out late, etc), to which he’ll agree, but then keep doing the same shit and not changing at all. Makes me feel like he doesn’t care enough about what he’s doing and its effects on me to actually change.
- While living with me, he “couldn’t” find a job in the 8 months he was living in our flat. He instead played video games all day, never job hunted, living off government payouts. I still did more housework/cooking even though I’m a full time post grad student. (I’ve asked him to pick up slack but he forgets, and he doesn’t know how to cook). He’s only working now because I got him a job at my seasonal job over the holidays.
- He can’t drive. I’ve been a taxi service since dating him. Started off being okay, but I get little thanks for what I do, and there seems to be no desire from him to want to even start driving even though I’ve told him it would make my life so much easier- as I have enough already I need to do.
- Final large issue, my sex drive is remarkably higher than his, and I feel constantly rejected and undesired. We’ve had many talks about this, but nothing seems to work.
I do love him, but these things have just worn me down a lot. The only (selfish) reason I have to not break up is bc we live together by ourselves. I’ve given myself the year (until our lease runs out) to see if he makes changes I’ve asked for, but I don't know if i can make it that long.
