My ex husband won’t forgive me for cheating one time but he cheated on me for the whole 8 years and had a baby why he won’t take me back?

[Jaybabii86]

[Anonymous]

It's not uncommon for people to have different reactions to infidelity in a relationship, and it's important to remember that forgiveness is a personal choice that depends on individual circumstances and beliefs. While it may be frustrating and hurtful that your ex-husband is unwilling to forgive you for cheating one time, it's important to respect his decision and focus on moving forward in a positive and healthy way.

It's also important to acknowledge that cheating and infidelity can have long-lasting effects on a relationship, and that rebuilding trust and repairing the damage can be a difficult and complex process. While your ex-husband may have cheated on you for the whole 8 years and had a baby, it's possible that he may not be willing or able to move past your infidelity, regardless of the circumstances.

Ultimately, the decision to take someone back after infidelity is a personal one that depends on a variety of factors, including the nature of the infidelity, the level of trust and communication in the relationship, and the willingness of both partners to work on rebuilding the relationship. It's important to focus on your own healing and growth, and to take steps to learn from your mistakes and move forward in a positive and healthy way, regardless of your ex-husband's decision.

It’s best you and him go on your ways separately

[Craftsman]

Given that you were mostly faithful and he was mostly not, I wonder why you would want him back in your life. In my experience people do not change. People tend to revert to what they were and who they were. That goes both ways.

Were it me, I'd consider leaving the ex as the ex, and find yourself someone who will be with you because you are the one they want to be with.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh nah this some next level trash. What he did was worse but either way y'all dont need to be together. y'all lack true commitment skills

[billmunch]

Sorry to hear this.

Every relationship I've been in, my SO has cheated on me and I would never and a relationship over it, especially if it was only one time and we had a kid together. But then again, I don't think cheating is a serious offense in a relationship so long as she isn't fucking my friends or gets pregnant. Sometimes cheating happens in an otherwise loving relationship and I get why based on past experiences.

I've been with the same woman on and off for 14 years and she told me that she likes the sex life we have together but still wants to explore her own private sex life and sometimes live out the odd fantasy.

Also, being cheated on turns me on. I get almost as much thrill out of it as she does, so she doesn't have to sneak around. I much prefer promiscuous women because it adds spice to the relationship. I once dated an active prostitute and love the thought of her fucking lots of other guys.

Furthermore, she puts up with a lot and tolerates a lot out of me, so I totally get it if she wants spmething on the side. I'm completely hairless, wear women's underwear and cotton summer dresses around the house instead of PJs. I also have a prostitute fetish and lost my virginity to one, so I figure any woman who puts up with that can have some side action.

Also, since I'm okay with my SO having other lovers, it lessens the chances of a break up because she doesn't have to choose between me and some other guy when she can have both. However, I'll admit that sometimes strange things happen.

Starting from year five of our relationship, she met a side guy and things eventually got serious. She eventually moved in with him, leaving me as the side guy but we never broke up. Although the other guy never knew about me. He was supposed to help het get a US visa but she failed the interview. Over time, he had to go back to the states, so she moved back in with me, making him the side guy again. They're still together and sometimes go away on holiday together.

I also likes when she describes her personal sex life to me in great detail. I actually want her to go to a bachelorette party and fuck the stripper. I want her to have an office romance. I want her to pick up guys right in front of me.

This biggest problem with all this is making my potential partners to understand that I'm fine with and ecourage sex outside the relationship, yet still want a long term relationship. The second hardest thing is telling her I wear women's clothing sometimes. Like I said, cheating won't break the deal in a relationship with me. What breaks the deal is a bad attitude and not contributing to the well being of a relationship.

So, if I were your husband, not only would I forgive, but it wouldn't have been an issue in the first place. I understnad why most guys get jealous but I'm not one of them. I want to come home and find my wife in bed with another guy.

[Oldschool1981]

I have absolutely no problem forgiving cheating. To me, It's not a deal breaker. I've always preferred to date promiscous women because being cheated on is my number one turn on. I know It's unusual, but I get turned on by it.

[mommymommymommy]

Why either of you want a cheater back, is beyond me

Usually it's because you don't think you can do any better

[motownplayer2000]

Because you are stupid if you go back to him. And he is stupid if he comes back to you. You clearly are both toxic to each other.

[PointTaken]

Why the hell did you stay with him? He cheated on you and had a child with the other one, why stay?

[In_Trance]

let it go. learn to be done with people

[Anonymous]

Giving a blowjob is much worse than receiving.