Have you ever been left even though you were told that you did nothing wrong?

[Anonymous]

My ex said i did nothing wrong in our relationship but he still wanted to break up with me. Why do you think this could happen? He is still single by the way.

[mediaMan]

Yes. It was over religion. We both did nothing wrong, but we found out on a date that we had major religious differences, even though by all accounts, our dating profiles made it seem we were compatible in that area. We parted ways amicably.

I imagine there could be a few things going on here:

1. You *might* be the problem and he doesn't want to say? But I'm inclined to believe you both that you aren't the problem. Don't press the issue.

2. He is the problem. He had some preference in partner that is a deal breaker. Telling you of this preference might be a dick move, or not. It may be best not to press the issue.

3. He realized what he missed from single life. He may want to make the most of singleness now that he has a better understanding of what dating entails. If you want to try to be friends, then go for it. But it could be difficult.

Now we get into some wild options:

4. He found out he has an STD, and he doesn't want you to get it too.

5. He is applying to the FBI/CIA/NSA and needs to have no loved one for a time. This is real, I am not making this up. This happened to a friend of mine, and she was devastated for a month or more

6. His parents threatened to take him out of the will if he continued dating you.

7. He was proposed to.

8. He was asked by your parents to leave you alone.

9. His brain was eaten by a crocodile because clearly he is a fool to leave you.

[Finchie40]

Yes, the truth is you did nothing wrong , they are the one that is doing something wrong , they more than likely met someone else or they are interested in someone else , they don’t feel the passion and chemistry with you anymore , they don’t hate you , they just aren’t satisfied with you , Just let them go and realize you deserve someone that wants to stand by your side no matter what , If they try to come back to you, you tell them No , you had your chance and you blew it , Never take someone back that can’t make up their mind on whether they want to be with you or not , they just like the convenience of you , the don’t truly love you , Waste of time , kick them to the curb where they belong

[Rei13]

I’ve gotten this before and it could mean exactly that, you truly did nothing wrong. He might be unhappy with himself or he didn’t see a future with you for whatever reason. It doesn’t mean that there is anything inherently wrong with you, it just wasn’t where you are supposed to be. Take time for yourself and make sure they is plenty of space between the two of you so that you’re able to heal.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah, that happened before.
You can't control the heart and if he is falling out of love.. then it is what it is. It doesn't have to mean that you did something in particular or whatever, sometimes people grow apart and that's fine. It hurts but it's part of life and it happens.

[shades777]

I've done that several times it means there's nothing wrong with you as you are but your not right for him. For me this happens when you realize what you want long term and who she is don't line up.


For example, you date a woman with a child but realize you don't want to take care of another persona child and/or want it to be a new experience for the both of you aka you don't want to be with someone with all the answers.
In the example there's bothing wrong with her but who she is doesn't align with what he wants.


Every man has his reasons for why a woman doesn't align with his long term vision and sometimes its got nothing to do things you can change but rather unchangeable things
age, height, child status, race, not pretty enough, things of that nature

[On_cloud_wine]

He just didn’t feel it. If I date 1000 men, I’ll break up with every single one of them if I didn’t see a future with them, and sometimes that takes time to realize.. It’s not cool to lead people on..

[Gingerbread_GB]

Maybe he's just could not committed to a relationship. Just take him at his words and move on. It's already over.

[FilmGuy93]

He has a problem within himself that he recognizes isn't your responsibility to resolve.

I've had similar experiences. It was said, but that's just how life is sometimes.

[Adaeva]

Not doing wrong is not good enough. You must also do right.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Ooo so profound!

[Anonymous]

He probably did not feel the passion anymore

[Slim57]

Yeah