Why does he get mad if I don't take his help?

[Anonymous]

We are in this relationship for a little more than half of a year. We don't live together, split all the time, never give each other gifts - in short there has never been anything financial. He has a good job, I'm still a full-time student. Recently I've got a university project that needs some help (non-financial). I was talking about it with him and he said he can totally help me, it's easy for him. But, I feel uncomfortable to take his help since it would give birth to a terrible gratitude. Besides, even though it's hard for me to do this work, troubling him with it just doesn't feel right to me, this project is my problem, not his. So I denied and he got mad.

Did I do it wrong? How to handle this situation?

[kylee2437]

So men strive on catering to a women’s needs and the more you let him help you when he offers , the more of a man he will feel. It’s an act of pride for himself in a way.


You should take his help. The more you reject a man, the less likely he will offer to help in other necessary things in the future , which may result in him feeling like he doesn’t have much reason to be in your life.

[Anonymous]

i get that, but you asked, he agreed because he's your boyfriend, and then you suddenly turn around and say no. that's confusing to people and a little aggravating. just let him help, it doesn't seem like too much of a big deal to him.