How do I act around him now?

[Anonymous]

we never argued, and were always loving. he broke things off telling me he's not ready, that he doesn't truly mean it when he said he loved me, that he hasn't given thought to his feelings. He told me he doesn't want to give me half baked feelings. I still deeply love and care about him, I don't know how to act around him (we're colleagues who work in the same department so I can't avoid him). I am also someone who finds it difficult to mask my emotions and fear I will burst into tears when i see him again. After the breakup he and I haven't spoken, what do i do?

[LittleMelissa9614]

Girl, I've been in your footsteps before so I know how you feel. My recent ex boyfriend and I met at work at a CPR training back in Nov 2021, but we worked in different departments. Became friends first, he asked me out on a date months later (which was last summer) and then made official a few days after the first date. Everything was perfect and we were happy. I've actually done a lot and sacrificed a lot for him through out the relationship since he has a medical condition because that's how much I've loved him. Looking back now, he did show how he loved me but it wasn't long untill he started to change. Few months went by he started showing his true colors, he didn't talk to my family anymore and suddenly became depressed. Meanwhile I was still willing to keep the relationship going and still showed him I loved him. Eventually he wanted to talk about our relationship and said that I wasn't communicating properly but that wasn't true I have always tried to communicate with him, he ended up making it hard for me to talk to him. He even said he wasn't sure whether to keep going with the relationship or not. He really made me feel like crap that day, so after I took him home that night I was driving home myself I got to thinking "is he really thinking about this?" "What should I do?" But I ended making the decision to end it with him through face time because he would've broke up with me anyway. It still broke my heart really bad🥺💔 He showed no emotions and I cried the whole time. That was the hardest I've ever cried in my life. It showes that I really had feelings for him and I was in love. Anyway few days after the break up he came up to me apologizing for making me feel like crap and I bursted telling him how I felt and how he's been acting for a while. That went on for a bit but we ended on good terms. It was awkward seeing him at work but luckily we worked in different departments. We only saw each other once in a while at work but never hung out again. It did get better talking to him without being emotional or awkward because all I could do was be friendly to him. He eventually went downhill over time at work because of his medical condition, he went on leave for 3 weeks not even going to the doctor, went on probation for being no call no show for 3 days and now he's been fired. So now I can be relieved that I won't see him anymore, I can work knowing he's not there anymore, it won't be awkward anymore and when I meet the next man to come into my life, my ex won't interfere.

All I'm saying is either just be friendly with or if you can't handle that then you don't have to speak to him at all. But you still have to be professional. You deserve someone better.

[Anonymous]

First of all please try to act normal and professional. I know it's very difficult but If he comes to talk to you then try to talk just like normal friends. please be strong girl never show your weakness tears in front of anyone except your parents. He was a good guy that he told you how he felt. Thank him and thank god for this coz he saved you from a heartache.

Girl, relationship will be more beautiful if you get a guy who loves you as much as you love him. So whatever happened happened for a reason. Now you will be on the path of attracting a man who loves you as much as you love him. Acceptance is the key. Once you accept things as they are you will be more happier.

please try to accept that he won't care about you no matter how much you cry for him, love him or care for him. It won't make any difference to him. If you fall weak in front of him it will make him win and I'm sure you don't want to lose. please keep a kind of ego here like if he doesn't care why should you? You should try to show your happiness Instead (even if you r not inside)

Moreover , u can delete or throw out anything that reminds you of him. If things are not much important you can deactivate social media apps temporarily and talk to you friends on WhatsApp, etc even for work.

I know it takes a lot of time but keep moving on, be your own strength, try to enjoy your own company and as time passes by you will be fine I hope it helps. May god give you strength to deal with this girl.

[Avicenna]

This is a classic example of why you don't want to date someone you work with.

Either find a new job or just suck it up and bottle up your emotions when you're around him at work.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

"That's why you don't date people at work!"

Oh shut up, it's not that bad. I've been through this many times with girls at work. It'll pass

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I no longer agree with myself on this. Nevermind this answer

[_Maya_]

You go about your business and be professional. This is the exact reason you don't date people you work with. Now shit is awkward. Imagine that ending. Just do your job and try not to make it any worse or more awkward than it will be. That's your bed you made so you gotta lie in it. Hate to put it like that but it's the truth. You rolled the dice on a workplace relationship and lost as most do. Deal with it or quit. Those are your options.

[sheikalana]

Well, try to act as normal as possible and as professional as possible since you both work together. You'll be fine don't worry. I know it seems messed up right now but this won't last forever.

[In_Trance]

this is why you don't get involved with coworkers

act professionally. that's all you can do

[Celticwolf78]

Time to find another place to work or a whole new job and try not to think about him

[Anonymous]

Just gotta deal with it. He isn’t going anywhere.