Should I Ignore him or be my normal self around?

[Anonymous]

This guy ghosted me and played me. I will see him today in work for the first after he disguarded me.

Should I be my normal friendly self with everyone but ignore him. Or be my friendly self around him too?

[ShiftingMonke]

This is why you don't mess with coworkers.. I would be professional with him. Maybe not bubbly or extra; but maintain office decorum. If he speaks to you about anything non work related, remind him one time and one time only that you're a colleague and nothing more; threaten to take him to HR if he asks or speaks to you about anything non-work related again. If you go this route, document the time and place of the conversation, in the event it gets escalated to HR. from that point on, maintain professionalism at all times near him. And don't get romantic thoughts about coworkers.

[Asker]

I've learned my lesson. I'll never get involved with a work colleague again. It's now humiliating, embarrassing and awkward for me in work.

[ShiftingMonke]

I'm sorry you had to learn the hard way, but it can always be worse.. just be glad it hasn't escalated further.

[Anonymous]

Oh don’t worry, he’ll be back. They always come back. Just act normal and like nothing happened. Be polite but slightly distant. Just don’t entertain any more ideas of being with him. You’re just going to get hurt.