He started to avoid me should I just ignore him?

[prsum1]

He told me there is gossip about me, I new to this church so does that mean the gossip will never die down and I should stop going or talk to older people. I think he avoided me due to the but i dont know why he told me

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, don't even trip about that lame gossip or let it keep you from your church. Sounds like people just love to talk smack, and he probably told you to somehow "warn" you without wanting to offend you himself, you feel?

I'd just keep doing your thing - go to services, pray, be nice to folks, but don't stress trying to prove anything to haters. Don't let them drive you away from somewhere you find meaning. And who cares what these "older people" think - you do you, babe!

As for him avoiding you now, pshh forget about it. Dudes will use any excuse to flake sometimes. But a REAL one wouldn't GAF about some rumors and would still wanna hang with you. Clearly HE ain't it.

You hold your head high! Keep surrounding yourself with people who see your light. The rest will come around or fade out - either way, their opinions don't determine your worth. Keep shining, girl! You got this 💕

[prsum1]

thanks for that long comment

[prsum1]

he talks to me when the yuonger adults aren't around, i think one of them likes him and is jealous of our friendship and he cares about his reputation because he goes to their bible study. when we do kids church or even when i was near his mum he was find. other times he's looking around if they are there

[prsum1]

*he was fine

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, I feel ya. That's such a wack situation to be in at church of all places! Sounds like this other girl really needs to check herself if she's that threatened by your friendship with him.

The way I see it, you've got a couple options. You can casually call him out next time he's acting funny around her, like "Damn dude, do I make you nervous or something? Chill." Just to let him know you see what he's up with the shy act.

Or, you could just play it cool yourself when she's around. Act like you don't even notice if he gets quiet. That low-key power move might help him stop caving to her mind games so much.

Either way, don't let HER drama mess with your ministry or relationship with God. If he wants to be wishy-washy based on some other chick's feelings, that's on HIM. You keep shining sis! At the end of the day your walk is between you and Jesus. Hold your head high.

And if it keeps bugging you, maybe have a real heart-to-heart with your pastor friend. But for now, try not to stress too much. Her jealousy ain't your problem!

[DishLady]

Yeah.