I wanted to breakup and he was okay with it. Was he using me?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing this guy for months, the first few weeks were spicy and good, we shared a lot of hobbies and had a lot of things in common, we had fun talking to each other daily, but lately he started to act distant and dry, making excuses of work and family, and only hypes up when we talk dirty.
I smelled it and talked to him to call it off, I said I was getting too attached to him and I don't want to get hurt in the end. He said he totally agrees with me, and that he won't stop me from doing what I want.
Do guys who really care about their partners act this way when they breakup?
Don't they try their best to keep them?
Personally, at this point, I think he was just using me for fun. That he just wanted to hangout and I am too serious for him. We even talked marriage and life after marriage together. I'm just so hurt right now.

[Anonymous]

I feel you most men usually talked about future and end us thinking he is also serious with us. But one thing I learned for this type of guys. Don't give it all in. Let's say 40/60 more to your well-being than them. If he is truly serious to you why he will allowed this breakup right. He will fight for you until the end. But apparently he just said you can go and just close the door between you too. So walked away and respect yourself.
This time you love yourself and love will eventually follow you.
It will takes time but you can do it.

[Asker]

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he was using you. Sadly, it is all too common.

[Asker]

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

If sex was involved, then Id say he was using you. Or, he just lost interests.

[Asker]

Thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

Your welcome.

[In_Trance]

were you using him?