I broke up with him and all he said was an OK?

[Anonymous]

Firstly, I'm not selfish! Secondly, I didn't play mind games. But anyway his answer hurt me.

I'm going through a difficult time regarding my mental health,,, and we had a quarrel... I felt like he wasn't paying enough attention to me and I said to him lets not talk anymore with each other cause I'm getting more anxious from him. He replied after one day saying 'Alright' ... I wanted to finish things but I feel more depressed than before now...

Did he really not care

[quaranta]

It looks like you weren't really closing in order to close with him, but it was a way to cause a reaction, from him, so now you are upset because you didn't get the reaction you wanted. He probably detected that (maybe you used this "threat" of leaving him many times already, so he knows) and decided to not play along with your game this time, on purpose. Maybe he cared a bit, but he got fed up.
(I would personally, if my current partner plays the "breakup" card to get my attention that is enough of a dealbreaker for me as well).
In any case, be responsible for your decisions. Threatening to leave, or leaving, is emotionally very heavy for the partner too, so if you requested that to him, just let him process it, sticking to it. If you had enough reasons to end a relationship that wasn't giving you the basics of what relationships are meant for (safety, understanding, support, encouragement, a strong bond based on trust etc), well then that was just the right decision to do.
Things hurt regardless, probably he is hurt too, a bit, and he might get to miss you at some point even without contacting you, but that's just normal, and he will get over that as well. But if couples keep getting back any time they feel bad after breaking up, well that is just a way to drag a rotten situation for longer because the reasons it wasn't working will remain, if not directly addressed with mutual willpower and a clear plan to fix those things, with an agreement and techniques ("forgiving" each other is not sufficient).
And besides, finding the solution to your depression from the same person who causes it is a paradox, it can't work.
The warranty is that you will get over him at some point, and will stop being depressed about the breakup, absolutely, for sure, as long as you let time do its course (which means staying no-contact with him). Invest in this path with the convinction that it will give results back, even if it sounds impossible now (it does for everyone). It takes time.

[Asker]

Dear, Thank you so much for ur advice. I really appreciate it! May I text you in private?

[blackgaletiger]

Its hard to tell if he didn't care not not because we dont know his end of the story but you broke up with him and he accepted it. You felt like we wasn't paying enough attention but felt is different than knowing which shows you were undecided. You were going through your rough path which is understandable and you decided to cut communication with him. You shouldn't be feeling anxious around him but if you are then you need to work on yourself and put yourself first and better yourself. Maybe you were waiting for a conversation or for him to fight back but he wasn't going to play into that game. Not saying your a bad person or anything but you both made your decisions and now its time to move on with it.

[JBlade]

Seems like you were wanting him to say something else. Anyways, it was your decision to end things and all he did was accept it. Finish things? what does that mean?

[spartan55]

You were already too high maintenance and you gave him an out... perfect self sabotage.

[LazerBean]

What was he supposed to say?

[LiamJHayden]

What is he supposed to say?