We broke up over my breast size.

[Anonymous]

Ok, not entirely, but it was just too much for me.

he has issues with my past. Just about everything I did, even non sexual stuff, bothers him. So today he came up to me asking about some time about 4 years ago (when I didn't even knew he existed!) that me and my friends played Spin the Bottle and I kissed (pecked, really) a friend. He says I'm too easy to trust.

He said he was going to start talking to this girl who he used to like who is OVERLY flirty with him. I hate her because she has even flirted with him IN MY FACE. She has huge breasts, like E cups. I have modest, small B cups.

I told him "Oh, so you go screw her or whatever! and he said "I wish I could", I said "Oh she's just as busty like that singer you like" he said "Yeah, they have like the same size" I told him "You lied when you said you didn't like breasts too big" he said "They're not too big" I said "Well, they look like she has an ass stuck in her chest, and they're fake!" and he replied "But she looks HOT!". So I dumped him.

He knows I have issues with my size. Now I'm so self conscious and of course, single. In the country I live in (not the US, not UK, not Australia) pretty much all guys seemed obsessed with big tits even if they're fake, they prefer them over small and natural. I feel awful and inadequate. I hate my body.

How can I get over this whole mess? For one, of course I feel awful because he criticized my past so much, calling me easy and stuff. Then there's the fact I love him, but I had to break up with him. And finally, well, my breasts are tiny compared to Ds and above, which is what most guys seem to go for.

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PS. I added that in my country guys are obsessed with huge, because there doesn't seem to be a "small is hot" trend here as I've heard it is in America or the UK. I've never met a guy who likes small breasts.

[Simple-Simonette]

You know, guys pay attention to big boobs, but I don't think that most men would use them as a deciding factor for a relationship. Big boobs draw attention, but they alone can't keep the attention. Most men realize that after they get to play with them a little - there isn't much to boobs at all. Boobs aren't an indicator of a great personality. Boobs can't have conversation, they can't laugh at your jokes, stroke your ego, or make you feel less lonely. I think that you are focusing too much on the physical side of attracting a man. There are men out there who like woman who are more than just a pretty face with a hot body. My suggestion is to take the time to find one. Actually my suggestion is to take the time to like yourself a little more before you jump back into the dating pool again.

As for your silly ex-boyfriend. Please don't let the opinion of a boob obsessed jerk make you feel self conscious or down. Really, you should value yourself a little more than that.

Good luck.

[Asker]

It's just that, I know personality is way more important. But I also don't want to be with someone who prefers big boobs over small ones. Like he may like me for personality and all, but if he's not going to be crazy about my body too, forget it. I don't want to feel awful every time a big pair walks past because that just will make me feel bad. What I mean is, I want to be with someone who prefers small breasts. I want to feel sexy and confident, not like second best.

[Simple-Simonette]

I understand what you are saying. A lot of men I know just like boobs. Period. The bigger ones draw attention (even I have to look sometimes), but it doesn't mean that it's what they want. Your ex-boyfriend is stupid, and you're letting his personal opinion dictate what you think about typical men. They way he feels is not the norm for men - really.

[Anonymous]

Come to America honey... butts are the new boobs : ) he is a shallow guy... forget about him... you will find someone that is all about you and how you are naturally no worries... you are still young... you have your whole life... you just found a bad apple in the bunch... read self help books or instead of focusing on your negative things about yourself look at all the positive things about yourself... I used to have a huge thing about my boobs too, but after I grew up a little bit... I came to the realization that I love my body... its me... its natural and if I decide to change it later in life... then it will be because I WANT TO CHANGE IT... not for some other guy... work on your confidence sweetheart confidence, self esteem, and body reasurrance all walk hand in hand. Like I said get some self help books... or boost your confidence with things that you love about yourself that you proud of and that not everyone would have.

[music4life]

don't feel bad about your body, seriously. I understand how it feels like having people criticizing you because of your looks. everyone who answered you here feel that you should be confident, and we support your decision on dumping him. It's no use being with a guy who doesn't appreciate. Live life happily and don't let words bring you down. we support you! :)

[golfer1555]

I personally don't care if a girl has big or small breasts as long as she likes me for who a am.

and in this part

I told him "Oh, so you go screw her or whatever! And he said "I wish I could", I said "Oh she's just as busty like that singer you like" he said "Yeah, they have like the same size" I told him "You lied when you said you didn't like breasts too big" he said "They're not too big" I said "Well, they look like she has an ass stuck in her chest, and they're fake!" and he replied "But she looks HOT!". So I dumped him.

that just ses he is a true jerk

and by the way you need to learn to except your body as it is if he truly likes you he won't care even if you were comply flat

[MaxPrime]

AAAAHHHH

Be proud of you for you, you are FINE and don't change for lousy people like that...wow I KNOW there has to to be plenty of guys who look at more then breasts when it comes to a relationship. Even in 'your country'. Don't let this mess up your view of all men...please we are not all that shallow and lame. lol come over to America baby ;-)

[NowJadyn]

well, you should stop worrying about your breasts, and they won't even think about them. the male psyche is very easily influenced by its kryptonite, women. if you think you are hot, they will too. if you feel that you have to give it up for a guy to like you, you are dead wrong. use your powers. all women have them.

[Hercules]

You certainly aren't alone because the average size for a girl is a B, so there are probably TONS of girls your age with the same size. As for your ex-boyfriend, he sounds ridiculous. He wasn't trusting of you over such trivial things, and then he goes and acts like a 5 year old and starts obsessing on and on over some girl he knows will hurt your feelings greatly.

Dump him and keep him dumped.

[tyrantfuryre]

Don't worry about your body. You don't need a guy like that anyway. He sounds pretty immature actually. You can't change the past, neither can he. He shouldn't judge you or penalize you for that either. The fact that he told you he was going to start talking to another girl makes it sound to me, like he's trying to throw it in your face. You can do with out him. Move on.

[RoccoNacho]

Breasts are nice whatever size,all girls been with say are my boobs ok,yes,I ain't got boobs so yes,men are drawn to big breasts through nature,instinct,but if you love someone that beats big boobs 10000000000zillion times over.Dough

[SlipStream]

Well, first off he's a jerk and immature for saying things like that to you. Either it was purposeful, or he's just an idiot and doesn't know what's the gentlemanly thing to do. About small breasts, I thoroughly enjoy small breasts, more natural and can actually fit in the palms of my hand, and they won't sag when the young ladies get old. Anyways, ditch the guy and come to Canada, where men actually appreciate small natural breasts.

[bruja1519]

LOL!

It amazes me how rarely people fight over something intelligent.

glad you dumped him.

enjoy your body.

you only get one.

[bubbakong2006]

If a man loves you your breast size won’t matter he will love you for you and not talk and degrade you or talk about other women you did not lose anything at all

[hunglowman4you]

as long as you have nice looking areolias and nipples my mouth is atrracted to them I don't know why?

[MoskauMoskau]

Oh. Canada?

I think you broke up with him because he's a dick.

[Mark989]

i like big boobs, only c size or over, less than that is not even a decent size

[Blankname1]

Relax,Breast are not every.