I broke up with my boyfriend and he hates me now?

[Anonymous]

Ok so, I broke up with my boyfriend three days ago. But before we get into that I would like to give you a little insight on our relationship. We started dating 5 months ago in November. We for the most part got along, but because of conflicting personalities we argued sometimes. A lot of my friends, and every girl he’s ever dated for that fact, has called him incredibly disrespectful when he’s mad. He has a short temper. So, knowing this information I tried to not make him mad. this being my first relationship however and obviously I’m going to make some mistakes. So he’s very known to be over protective of his girlfriends. Anyways a guy told me he liked me right, so I told my boyfriend because our relationship was based on trust. He told me to cut this guy off. I said no. And he got incredibly mad !! So I just told him I wanted to break up because all I ever appear to do it make him upset. He didn’t take it well and he told me he regrets ever meeting me, talking to me and dating me. He told me he hates me with everything in him and that he never wants to speak or talk to me again. He also said that he doesn’t understand why he loved me so much. It hurt so bad. I just want to know why he said these things. And let me also add that he blocked me. He’s never blocked me before in an argument. I feel like he really means these things. I miss him. I just wish I never told him in the first place. I’m trying the no contact method but I feel like he really actually truly doesn’t have anymore feelings for me anymore. He has told me he’s cried over me before and that he’s never loved a girl as much as me. He’s a really honest person so I doubt he really means what he said. It was wayyy worse than what I explained on this post but I don’t really want to go in depth with it. But he told me he wants me to move out of the country to make it impossible to talk or see him again. He really doesn't want to talk things through as I asked him before I removed him and he said no. Help !

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I feel like I should also add that we go to the same school and everything , and that I broke up w him NOT because of this situation. This situation was only to give context to what led to it if that makes sense (it probably doesn’t I’m sorry 🤣🤣) spring break ends Sunday. Meaning Monday I’m going to see him talking to other girls (he does this to get me mad) . I’m still truly not over him and I can’t get my mind off of this. Please help m out 😭😭💔

[Angel10111997]

Don't you think it's kind of immature to break up with each other just because of a shallow reason? Well, if you really love each other both will have to compromise and make amends. It;s normal to fight over things in a relationship because whether we like it or not, it's unavoidable and it tends to happen on a certain point.

There is no perfect relationship and no one is perfect not even me, who's typing this in the middle of the early morning but if he loves you, he will have to lower down his pride, and understand you. And as for you, you will have to listen to him, ask him why he's acting that way. Maybe he's mad because he doesn't like the idea that you're entertaining other guy.

Men can be sometimes 'territorial' and quite 'possessive' believed me. I often found this 2 qualities in men. And it's important to understand their nature.

I strongly suggest, just let him. Give him the time and space he needs while sorting his feelings for you. Coz maybe he's still probably mad that's why he doesn't want to talk to you and he said those 'hurtful' things at you. Just give him the space as of the moment but let him know that you're willing to talk to him as soon as he feel ready. I know it can be hard. But trust me, if he really loves you, he will set aside that pride and eventually try to talk to you heart to heart and on a one on one basis, if not...

That means, he no longer cares about you. Better to forget him and move on. That's it.

[Asker]

Thank you darling , I really thought I did the right thing breaking up with him cause all I thought I did was make him mad , but I miss him now 🤧🤧

[Angel10111997]

It's okay. If he's worth it he will come after you, if not then it's still okay. Remember, he's not the only guy out there. You got plenty of times to devote your time to your self. Do the tings that makes you happy, focus in goals in life, make ways to become more sexy and beautiful even without him in your life, he doesn't have to see you suffering and poring your heart out just because your missing him. A guys that truly loves you, knows your value. Don't give him the satisfaction of breaking in front of him. Now, I remember my first heartache. It was tough and the road must bumpy but thanks in experiencing that hahaha

[lovelylia]

You’re allowed to talk about other people and he shouldn’t deny you of that right, you are your own person and can do whatever the hell you want. If he got that mad and said those things then it’s his loss, from what I’ve read he’s cruel and not trusting (if he told you to cut off the other guy then he didn’t trust you enough to think you could handle it) and you did the right thing.

[curiousgeorge42]

U did the right thing telling him about the other guy. Either to not cut him off or not is the question. U should b allowed to have friends but maybe what it was is that he felt threatened nd the fact that u wouldn't cut the other guy off is what set him off. Now if he's calmed down nd still feels the same way, then I'd suggest moving on. Being someone who does have a temper I know how hard it can b to stay calm in certain situations, sometimes those r the people that tend to lose control me end up in jail over sum bs They could've avoided. (I can control it so no I'm not one of these individuals lol) anyways I recommend just taking sum time to reflect nd move on. Don't hop into a relationship wit the new guy cuz that will just confuse u. If wen u collect all ur senses nd figure out what it is u want to do then that's wen u should act. But for now, I don't think u should waste ur time dwelling on this break up. U did the right thing in this situation for the most part nd if he can't accept that then he's not worth ur time. Anyways I hope this helps.

[jessture]

2 things: 1. You're done with him... what he does/thinks/feels is irrelevant. 2. He's a narcissist that only cares for his feelings. Everything he said was to make you feel bad because his ego was bruised.

[curiousgeorge42]

This is true, he's Probobly incredibly insecure as well.

[boggboss]

It's over hun that's for sure after what he said but to be honest why wouldn't u think it is after u broke up with him 😑

[Asker]

That’s not what I’m worried about lol. I’m asking if he meant what he said

[boggboss]

Probably not moat likely or not all of it as it was said in anger