Ghosting? What has made you ghost someone?

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Usually it is red flags or they are just boring! Usually most girls we ghost when we just get a HI.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

I ghost most men on here to reach out because they're gross and jump right into sexual shit or only say something like "hi" and zero else.

But irl I've only ghosted one guy. He used to be a customer when I was a budtender. Nice enough dude, just the usual mold of loser who likes me: depressed socially stunted white boy who had an edgy phase he may or may not have grown out of.

We clicked a bit, but when we met I was in a relationship. We became friends and hung out once. It was fine but the convo was... Hard to continue. He complained a lot and was stuck in his past.

I lost touch for a while due to a move and a new job - he also got into some job trouble.

He reached out again, but it came at a terrible time for me. I'd discovered my ex-fiancé had been lying to me about his immigration status (American Idiot thought immigration to Canada was like intrastate moving and lied to me for years that he was on track to immigrate right), I was saddled with a solo move into a place meant for two, and I was dealing with breaking up while adapting to a high stress job.

I feel a bit bad because I could've easily said I saw his messages but wasn't in a state to connect.

However, that was already the last thing on my mind. I had a move, a job, and a break up to process.

I also knew if I responded he would ask me for details and I wasn't ready to let him know about my position or romantic history. He gave all the classic signs of the "Nice Guy" who would see me dumping my ex as his chance to move on me - and I'd already decided I wasn't going to date white straight men anymore.

Knowing my emotional state, his persistent nature, and how likely I was to snap under pressure, I chose ghosting. Otherwise I'd have to reject him more strongly and I honestly had my hands full.

He's a big boy. He's okay now. And I am frankly ok if he hates me. Tbh he was a bit weird and scary, I don't think rejecting him normally would've been safe.

Ironic_Method · Accepted Answer

I don't ghost anyone, but I won't put any effort into making conversation if they aren't taking *some* initiative.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I didn't have the courage to tell her I went on a first date with someone else and liked them.

Spongebobssocks · Answer

I don't do clown stuff:)

CubaPirate · Answer

I'm far too polite to ghost anyone

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