Dating men with kids is a deal breaker?

[Anonymous]

For me it is he kept me a secret to the mother of his kids and every other woman had the nerve to say he was single to her but don’t like her? It was too much and he was looking at other women and when i told him my feeling he shut it down the conversation plus the kids are the attachment you will regret losing💔but its better to let go (dumped him today) Now Whats your opinion?

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, dating someone with kids is no joke, it adds a whole other layer of complication for sure.

The fact that dude was lying to the mom and keeping you a secret is super sketch. Huge red flag that he's not over her or ready to really commit. And still looking at other women while you're together is messed up too, especially since he had kids involved.

Dumping him was 100% the right call. You don't need that kind of drama in your life. I know it's hard when feelings are involved, but deep down you deserve way better treatment from a guy.

Kids are definitely a big commitment too, so it makes sense if that's just not what you signed up for right now. Getting tied up in their whole co-parenting situation could have ended with a lot of stress and heartache down the road.

Chin up luv, you did the right thing for yourself. Take some time to heal, then get back out there and find someone who's all in and will treat you with respect. This dudes issues aren't your problem anymore - on to bigger and better from here!

[Gent207-2]

Congratulations

That boy is one pieces of shit of a man and doesn't deserve love or loyalty. You choose self-preservation over his bullshit.

[Anonymous]

No because a single father supports his kids with an income. The woman usually collects welfare checks and child support from the father. So dating a single dad means dating someone responsible and financial stable.

[Asker]

The person im talking to is codependent on there baby mother paying him in my state. I was dating him but he couldn’t cut her out the picture

[Anonymous]

That's fine