Would you Send your EX a "Happy Birthday " Greeting if On the OUTS Currently With Them?

[Paris13]

**I Dumped Him a Year Ago but Have Tried to Keep in My Life but with a Bit of Strife. lol!!! I Decided Not to Send Him any Gifts but Maybe a Happy Birthday Greeting but Right Now, We are on The OUTS. xoo

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5 mo

He REACHED OUT ON HIS BIRTHDAY TODAY) I KNEW HE WOULD) after a Week nearly of No Contact because He was Peeved at me. I Sent Sarcastic FB Wishes and on Chat and Email and Pix of the Past. NO GIFTIES!!! Thanks Everyone!!! xxoo

[lightbulb27]

I had to be whacked in the head a few imes starting with my therapist, not to do that.

so no, I wouldn't. I think this may get into "attachment styles", and emotional attachments... which you can study up on. Maybe other emotional aspects as well. Some of us think we can stay attached and it's ok and doesn't cause issues.. but it does. Some of us think can pull the other back in... when that was done many times and didn't work. It won't work until someone changes, and people don't want to change the inner child... they can't even see. Some of us don't understand ourselves or other people. Some of us need to let go, suffer the loss, count the gains and wisdom, grow and move on.

There's no crime in it, if that's what you want to do... go ahead. But have no attachment nor expectations to it anymore than you have to your aunt.

[Paris13]

Beautiful. xx

[Constatine]

Every year in both directions. We have kids together... They live with me and my lady.. we keep up appearence on those days... We even visit each other .. that is the only day she is allowed to do that.. it is a bit weird... But nice for the kids.

[Paris13]

Wow!!! xx

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Not anymore.

He’ll never hear from me.

But I’ll remember his birthday and I’ll wish him well in my mind. I will hope that where he is, he is happy, healthy, successful, smiling, peaceful, well cared for.

But he’ll never hear or read my message.

I changed.

He’s now a beautiful and a bit painful memory. I no longer feel anything, I no longer miss him, I now know that I am far better without him,

I am fully detached.

Somewhere deep in my heart a dull pain still resists when thinking of him, but it will pass too.

Seems like first love is not supposed to be the last.

[Paris13]

He was Not my First Love but I still Love him. Maybe with Everything that Has Come about Now, He is Detached... xx

[eternal_heck]

Yeah, I would. But it would just be a happy birthday and nothing more.

[Paris13]

Sounds Feasible. xx

[Archferret]

you mean I hope you enjoy your birthday, even though you're not with me lol🥱

[Paris13]

@Archferret lol Exactly. xx

[Archferret]

then why not send some delicious, best chocolates 🍫🍫

[AviatorTom]

My ex-wife and I are still on good terms, and we exchange Birthday greetings. I don't do that to my other exes that I am not in contact with.

[Paris13]

Nice!!! xx

[oceanbreeze2023]

It depends on what kind of ex but if we fell out with each other and don’t even have each Other on social medias that means we fell out enough to not be in each others life anymore, hence no happy birthday from me. Last time i wrote happy birthday to an ex was several years ago.

[Paris13]

He Slyly Put Me Conveniently Back on FB a Few Weeks Before his Soon Birthday. xx

[oceanbreeze2023]

He’s sneaky. i feel you. i have some exes since decades and forward until now that still make fake accounts to be in my life, or they send guys to befriend me. Obsessive bastards that deserve to get fu*ked hard by a d*ldo. This world would perhaps be better without males in it.

[82lynx]

Sometimes I feel the same way about females, but then I remember that both sides can be despicably evil. Males rely more on physical strength, but females tend to find ways to destroy without physical contact.

[oceanbreeze2023]

82lynx.. you would be surprised how i consider majority of men, not all of them. being masters in psychically abusing females and the younger the girl is the more mental abuse they Will put out. But every man that has Done me evil has come to regret it. today majority of them is so depressed how they treated me and literally let go of themselves and constantly try to find a way back into my life. Only time and our gardian angels Will teach them a valuable lesson.

[midnightmoon05]

You like creating drama more than a creating a happy relationship?

Lets put the enenrgy on getting a new boyfriend... as long as this continues... how will you find a new man?

[Paris13]

I Have Had Them ALL. lol!!! xx

[midnightmoon05]

What do you mean you had them all?

[82lynx]

I don’t have any exes and God help me I hope it stays that way. It was sad enough to see a girl who is sweeter than I knew possible end up with someone else. Anything less than someone like her I wouldn’t even consider let alone risk getting dumped and getting a gift that would ruin my birthday because of who it came from.

[82lynx]

I just realized that the question was about a birthday greeting, not a gift. Still, a greeting from an ex would be like a slug to the gut because, well, I would actually become attached to whomever I liked enough to date.

[Paris13]

Feeling Guilty Now... xx

[IslaTheWitch]

I prefer to keep clean relationships. But my ex was a jerk, so I can't really relate.

If you feel it will be fair regarding your current partner and won't send mixed signals, simply do whatever would make you happy.

[Paris13]

Thanks!!! xx

[DizzyDesii]

I barely remember bdays of the people i get along with so no they absolutely wouldn't hear from me on that day

[Paris13]

Okay Then. xx

[hppygrl]

Lol NO but I’ve been happily married for over 2 decades. I don’t hate any of my ex boyfriends just don’t stay in contact at all.

[Paris13]

Okay Then. xx

[hppygrl]

I definitely don’t fault people who stay friends! It’s great if your current relationship is ok with it 😊

[BoopBoopBeep]

I wish many of my ex's happy birthday. I don't wish them dead, we just didn't work out. Hope they get the best in life.

[Paris13]

I Told Him Awhile Back, You are Dead to me. lolxx

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

That depends on the circumstances of the break up. I've never done this, but if I were to consider it, it would likely be very sarcastic.

[Paris13]

I did That Last Year, dear. lolxx

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

@Jiytfvmki I don't really anticipate ever sending a sarcastic card to an ex, so I still retain my "niceness"🤣

[NathanDavis]

I am in very good terms with my exes... but I don't really send them happy birthdays lmao...

[Paris13]

Okay Then. xx

[Archferret]

No ever. It could also be seen as a sign that you're still interested in him, which could be damaging or even lead to more hurt feelings🥱

[Paris13]

Ahh. Mixed bagxx

[KatherineJ]

Nope! If I had an ex, I assume that he would have been an ex for a reason, or reasons. Better to just leave it alone.

[Paris13]

Thanks! xx

[KingslayerC]

I don't communicate with exes. If you are trying to win him back, you're going to regret it.

[Paris13]

I Agree. xx

[belle_kai]

I just wouldn't go there. An ex is an ex for a reason

[Paris13]

I see. xx

[exitseven]

Paris, this is like cutting the dogs tail off a little at a time so it won't hurt so much.

[midnightmoon05]

That sounds pretty painful to me.

[exitseven]

@midnightmoon05 yes, that's the point

[Paris13]

I Dumped and Then Threw Lumps, @exitseven lolxx

[RedInnocent68]

Unlike the present, if you’re still on good terms, then yes, ‘happy birthday’ greetings would be okay.

[Paris13]

Bot Really Speaking for a Few Days. lolxx

[RedInnocent68]

Huh?

[Joshydavid25]

Nah, but I did send my ex some condolences types flowers for the anniversary of her brothers death..

[Paris13]

Sweet. xx

[Mansearching]

If it was mutual and are still friends. Send a happy birthday message. Nothing more. Nothing that can confuse situation.

[Paris13]

Complicated... xx

[Mansearching]

For me, the one's that I'm friends with I wish happy birthday by text or if I run into them. But that's it nothing more. Same when its my birthday.
For the one's that I'm not friends with, I don't communicate at all.

[ReverseCowboy]

I would say no. If its your baby-mama maybe it's OK. Depends how you spelt up and how bad the relationship is. But if no children together, just move on and let him move on too...

[Paris13]

Thanks!!! xx

[FunkyMonkee]

I tried 2 years ago and one card came back unopened, the other I never got a response from.

[Paris13]

Wow!!! xx