What makes you miss an ex and still have feelings but not want to get back together?

[strawberrybaby3]

[dynamicyandere]

That means that there were pros and cons to the relationship.


You miss the good aspects of the relationship.


But, there were so many bad aspects of the relationship, that you decided to end it.


The pros didn’t outweigh the cons.


But, from time to time, you might think about the good memories that you still shared.

[Drumlin2001]

We fell unexpectantly pregnant, at which time she called things off. That maybe forgivable. However we met up to talk she made it clear she saw me as a secondary parent, that she would be primary and control everything over access/custody for at least the first 3 years without discussion. That killed any chance of rekindling for me. (Ended with miscarriage so never came to fruition)
Having had kids since with my new partner I'm very involved with my kids, no one is going to tell me I'm less important than their mum.

[holdem4884]

Feelings can be complicated and can override reason. You may well miss aspects of a person or relationship, it's likely you had some good times. However, that doesn't mean the relationship is healthy or that it's wise for you to be in it.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I no longer miss him.

[Summeroflove]

If a ex is toxic or cheated. That or the ex is in another relationship

[NathanDavis]

I've never really been in this position before...

every relationship I previously had, they all ended in very good terms, and they were a mutual decision, based on the circumstances at the time... so we would agree that it was for the best of both... and then we all just moved on

[Zenpanda]

My ex boyfriend is amazing, he's cute, sexy and very nice.
We're still great friends.
However it was long distance, it didn't work and it still wouldn't work.
He's with a great guy now and I'm happy for both of them.
I still have love for him and I do miss him from time to time, but I wouldn't get into another relationship with him even if he was single.

[rabkeduo]

nothing, you use people and move on. you use your lover to fill a void, you are dependent on others for survival. outside of sex, there is no use in a woman. i can clean my own home and cook my own meals, and not ruin 18 years of my life with the never ending debt of a child, and a woman who becomes uglier and uglier, that i want around me less and less with time.

[exitseven]

Even after all this time if I go to a place where I went with an old girlfriend I just think about the fun we had. i miss the times but not her exactly.

[Andres77]

Being an adult and realizing that feelings don't change reality. They're an "ex" for a reason

[Benedikt_lol]

Because I want a new Girlfriend but I still sometimes make out with my ex girlfriends..🤷🏼‍♂️

[bblazerm]

Most simply, I would say remembering both the good and the bad in context

[eagle1951]

nothing they call them ex. s for a reason

[Slim57]

Cuz they cheated

[Ameer99]

Memories