Am I wrong for breaking up with my fiance for withholding affection?

[Anonymous]

So my fiance and I said we'd wait til marriage for sex because I'm a Christian. So he agreed to it and it didn't seem like an issue, then days later he was acting strange and not really showing affection. So I asked what was wrong then he said nothing. Then months went by and he said he was sexually frustrated. I'm like why didn't you tell me? He said he didn't want to force me then I said we could have sex if it's bothering him because we had sex before. So he still withheld affection, and he acted as if he didn't want to. So he came out and said he purposely withheld affection from me because he wanted to "show me how it feels" I got so frustrated by his confusing behavior I left.

[SotiCoto]

Gimme a few moments. I need to treat this situation properly and not just start soapboxing about the evils of religion again...

OKAY...

Is withholding affection what you're breaking up with him for? I could totally understand breaking up with him for trying to get back at you. That and that alone stands out as something that should not have been done. One does not seek revenge against a current romantic partner. Completely screwy behaviour there, and definitely grounds for ditching the guy.
BUT if it was just for withholding affection in general, it would be hypocritical, since it seems to be what you're doing to him in the first place (which apparently provoked his desire for revenge).

[Asker]

I didn't if he agreed to it in the first place and when I let him have sex he still felt the need to "get revenge"

[SotiCoto]

Getting revenge is the tipping point here. It is a bad idea to stay in a relationship with someone who wants to get even with you, or "show you what it feels like". That sort of stuff is bad, and justifies the dumping.

[Asker]

Exactly, it's like neglect or emotional abuse

[Unit1]

So he blames you for not having sex when you both agreed to wait until marriage to have sex, then he said he is sexually deprived to which you suggested to have sex at that time and then he keeps withholding affection AND he tells you he wants to show you how it feels to not have sex for a long time?

What a gaslighting bitch your fiance is. You deserve better. This is why people say communication is important and it ain't even so hard. I can think of 16 year olds, who are better at saying "I'm not waiting until marriage to have sex".

You did the right thing.

[Asker]

Confusing right? Yup I told him I wanted to wait and he said ok so his behavior was just too much.

[Unit1]

Yeah, guess who's not having sex (besides me obviously)? 😁
Anyway, serves him right.

[LazerBean]

No, but you are wrong for getting with a hoe to begin with.

[Asker]

Pffft dayummm

[molonski2]

On the information given , in this circumstance where you both agreed , I think you are correct in leaving , bottom line , sounds like ( really ) you both wanted to have sex , I think you should have communicated more.

[boobliker]

affection hugs kisses and like lead to sex or a big turn ON

so yes you are wrong in a big way, but if that is what you feel so be it on your head

I take you have no siblings then

[Joker_]

yeah