How to move on from someone with whom I am extremely attached?

[Anonymous]

I was talking to this guy for over a year. And now he became a part of my life, a habit. He told me that he isn't interested in me. Still I keep texting him because of my attachment. I made him centre of my world but he never. He doesn't have any attachment. He can stay without texting me. But I can't, I become so anxious and panicked when I couldn't text him. What should I do?

[cherriibly]

Stop creating illusions about him in your head, we create our ideas about people in our minds, as if they are the best, as if we can't do without them, these are all lies, your mind is lying to you. Even if you like a guy, you shouldn't make him the center of your life, and he shouldn't make you the center of his life. Be smart. Have a life, live something, don't expect messages from him every day just like you have no life. Now, you will stop sending long paragraphs to him, this is very unhealthy, change your mind, you don't need to run after a guy who doesn't like you, find a hobby for yourself, like go for a walk, meet your friends, have activities to do throughout the day, this way you will forget about him, don't forget you are the most important💗

[Asker]

Thank you so much ❤️

[cherriibly]

You are welcome 🥰

[Tina19]

I can understand how you feel because i have been there when i was attached to my narcissist partner if you want to break this attachment then you will need strong self control this addiction is because of the biochemical rush that we get in our body after getting their call or text treat this situation as coming off drugs

[Rohaan2020]

Just stop trying to move on… don’t force it on urself… u’ll eventually be moved on someday without even realising it… but if u keep on trying to forget the person it will only increase your pain..

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[Rohaan2020]

U’re welcome 😊

[boggboss]

Go to therapy and learn to tackle you unhealthy habits

[mike5150]

I know it's tough I been there before, but the important thing is you find things in your day-to-day life to look forwards to and occupy your times. It can be scary, but you can get through it. Weather you choose to continue to message him is up to you, but have you tried writing out the things you want to say but not sending it? A lot of times when someone is upset, they want the gratification that reaching out for the person will help. But it can hurt much more and continue the pain for longer periods of time. Please take care of yourself and try to find hobbies, interests, friends or family to occupy your time to try and help.

[Anonymous]

You need to realize you are wasting your time on him, and focus your attention on other guys who are available

[Asker]

Yes you are right

[AmeerX]

You need to understand it wasn't meant to be

[Asker]

Yes I should

[AmeerX]

Don't worry a good man will make you forget him in time

[ThrillSeeker01]

Find someone better.