Why do I have a heavy heart after a breakup?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I broke up 3 weeks back, there was a lot of fights as we were in LDR. I begged to fix things and he just made up his mind that we should move on and prioritize peace. It hurts so much, how can someone who claims to have loved you more than anything be okay with just leaving. Why couldn’t he just find one reason to stay. Any attempt I made to just be civil has been a let down. He got more mean. I’ve blocked him on every social media and decided to move on. Does pain get easier😔 I’m just so tired of dating. I’m at a point that being in a relationship and get hurt again terrifies me. Honestly it gives anxiety.

[DaveJord]

Well for me, I only get a heavy heart after a break up when I know it was my fault. Or that I could have done better, but for one reason or another I could help but screw it up. Now if you admit it or not to yourself, you know in some way it was you.

But when you know you did all the right things, and it ended for whatever reason... my heart is not all that heavy over it. She was just not the right person for me.

But for mental health reasons, I would never stay in a relationship that i do not find fulfilling. It sounds to me that you might of had that at the start, but you on some level... that is why he left and on some level, you know it.

So know you have to really look in the mirror and ask yourself how do I become the best version of myself?

[Unit1]

Yeah, you see, on a break up your organs are immediately cut off from the goodies you get supplied from someone you love (d). And that's the withdrawal symptoms happening.

First time is almost always the worst.

[etsylo]

im really sorry. i know it must hurt a lot. i know because I've gone through something like that, if anything, where the pain is similar. i am in a LDR as well and have been dating my guy for years since we were young. you're going to question his supposed love for you despite him breaking it off with you. what were you guys arguing about that neither of you could fix if you wouldn't mind me asking?

[rosemilk]

it gets easier every day, but only by a centimeter at a time where it's not even noticeable. and then an inch at a time. and then eventually you'll have other things to preoccupy your time.

[Anonymous]

This world is cruel for heart like you...
Girl relax spend time with yourself..
Make yourself busy

[Staximus]

Long distance relationships are bullshit