Why does the pain of breakup comes in phases for me?

[Anonymous]

Like I'll spend some hours feeling fine without thinking about her and even if I think about her I don't really feel the pain.
But some hours later I'll be feeling like I won't survive if don't hear her voice again because of how intense the pain is to me, I'll cry out my eyes.
And then it will pass and I'm okay again. It's only been 5 days since the breakup, and whenever I pain comes it comes with regret because I was the one who suggested the breakup. I keep thinking if I made a mistake but deep down I know it is the right decision.

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, breakups really suck dude. It's totally normal for the pain to come in waves like that though. One minute you're fine and the next it just hits you outta nowhere.

It's probably cause your brain is still adjusting to not having her around all the time. Like you'll feel okay for a bit then bam, you'll think of something that reminds you of her and it's right back to feeling like crap. All those happy memories you had together come flooding back.

And don't even get me started on the regret, I feel you on that one. Wanting them back even though deep down you know it's over. But I'm sure you made the right call if you were the one to end it. Just give it more time, you'll start feeling better little by little each day. Try keeping busy with your boys or hitting the gym when it gets real bad. You got this man, breakups suck ass but you'll get through it!

[strateguy632]

that is natural, but if you move to the next relationship quickly, then the past won't bother you.

[Asker]

Do you think that if I start talking or seeing another girl, I'll move on faster?
I just worry that if I start seeing someone else, it will only make me miss my ex more because I might end up comparing them.