How do I get over this? I feel so broken?

[n1n1999]

My boyfriend of one year has been cheating on me I found out today. And I found out he lied about everything since the beginning. I found out he lied about his age to me and I caught him talking to other girls I asked him if he still used a specific app which he said that he deleted but my friend caught him on it talking to other girls.

I feel very broken. For some reason I messaged him today whilst he was on that app talking to another girl to see what he says and he completely lied to me saying that he was in bed. What shall I do? I really want to get back at him. I am definitely going to break up with him but I just want to get back at him. What is the best way

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang sis, I'm real sorry to hear about all that. That dude sounds like a total loser jerk! Cheating and lying from the start, what a shame. You deserve so much better.

As for getting back at him, I know you're super hurt and mad now, but trying to scheme some revenge plan usually ends up making things messier. My advice? Just have your pride and walk away. Block him on everything so you don't have to see his dumb face anymore. Trust me, the best revenge is living well and being happy without him!

Show that loser you don't need him bringing you down. Hang with your real friends who love you, treat yourself to something nice you enjoy, and just focus on you for a while. The pain will fade, but you sticking to your guns and not stooping to his level? That's power. Soon you'll find a dude who treats you with respect, and ol' lying boy will be stuck with his regrets. You got this sis - keep your head high!

[slatyb]

You are only 19. How were you to know? You think "I'm lucky I didn't get pregnant or waste more time on him". You aren't broken, just wiser. Forget about getting back at him. Living well is truly the best revenge. HE won't be happy if he continues behaving this way. But you can move on and find a worthy partner.

[Anonymous]

Younger me would say: you have to destroy all of the things that make him happy - his job, his bank account (s), his belongings, his relationships, his public image, etc. Some of those things are easy to do thanks to technology / a no-log VPN.


Older/Wiser me would say: just disappear without warning and without a trace. In a few years, check Facebook - he’ll have a bunch of kids and a wife that looks like a gas planet. Travel the world and enjoy life. Everything else will sort itself out.

[Staximus]

Just cut off all contact with him. Stop wasting any of your time and energy on him. Revenge is a dirty business, just move on with your life

[war_daddy]

break his most treasured item

[n1n1999]

He has nothing

[war_daddy]

beat him up