For the people who choose revenge?

[Anonymous]

Have u ever been hurt in a relationship that you did something crazy even if it was breaking the persons car or replacing their shampoo with hair remover. I do understand that doing this is a lot of effort and not worth it and that the best revenge is success blah blah blah... but I'm looking for opinions from people who have taken revenge.

[SotiCoto]

I carry grudges, but I'm usually too lazy to bother with any but the most low-effort revenge.
As to whether it is worth it or not, that probably depends whether the other party insists on escalating or not.
Generally speaking I'd say that if you want to get revenge, you need to be disproportionately extreme about it. You need to make the revenge so utterly over the top that they're too terrified to try and escalate it. Because obviously the point of revenge is to make the other party regret wronging you, NOT to make them want to take their own revenge in turn.

[Anonymous]

Vindicitive behaviour is an internal response to feeling betrayed. The problem is its all according to the persons perspective.
I dumped a guy who was emotionally suffocating me and made me feel I was drowning. According to him - I wasn't allowed to break up with him. It was a betrayal (obviously it wasn't - people are allowed to break up with someone). So in his mind he wanted revenge. But was I deserving of it? Of course not. I didn't do anything bad except wanting out of the connection.

The need for revenge is often irrational emotions. Healthy people aren't vindictive when they don't get what they want or life doesn't respond as they want. Putting something in someone's shampoo is psychotic (its not a justification for "being hurt").

[Asker]

I understand what you're saying and in that case you weren't deserving of the revenge but then again im looking for opinions on people in situations where they've taken revenge whether its labelled as vindictive behaviour or not.

[molonski2]

People who do stuff like this are just childish fools , there is such a thing as karma and they will send up paying the price for their very stupid actions.

[calbha]

I haven't. Mostly because doing such things keeps the person in your life who hurt you. Why drag it out? Especially legally where you'll have to possibly pay money or serve jail time? Be done with it and move on as quickly as possible.

[Asker]

Thanks for the opinion but as i mentioned, I'm mostly interested in the opinions of people that have and what drove them to do it.