First, let me say I'm very sorry for what you've been through. As a survivor of physical abuse myself I totally understand how you feel.
And like you, I myself try to take the high road. I also believe karma is a TOTAL myth.
But as to the question of revenge? I myself get tempted to get revenge on someone who wronged me, but I don't act on it, cuz I've found that the best revenge is moving on, letting that person know they no longer have the power to hurt you or control over your life. But if we act on the temptation for revenge, we're still letting them control our actions
That being said, if he was physically abusing you, it's not revenge to work with the DDA, he should and needs to be held accountable for his actions. You're not doing that to him, it won't be your fault if he goes to jail, loses his job. He chose his actions, now let him deal with the consequences of his actions.
And, please don't let this color your regard for all men. Not all men are like that. My first husband was very controlling, abusive. My second was one of the best things that happened in my life 😍💕 till he passed away. Hence why said karma myth.
When the scars from this toxic relationship start to heal, you may find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
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I feel you should be practical and go through the legal way.. you can ask the lawyers whether he is ready to settle and stay away for real. He needs to agree that he won't torture you anymore. Then you can leave it to karma
I presume there's been nothing resembling an apology or does he have any regret or think he's done wrong? This is NOT a decision about revenge - this is a decision about right and wrong, and what is just. By doing nothing, or what you call "the high road", you are essentially condoning his actions and leaving him free to do the same things, with impunity, to the next girl. If it costs him his job, he did it to himself. If he has a felony assault on his record, he did it to himself. He WILL do this again, there's no doubt about that. Your only concern here should be "is my life in danger" after he gets out of jail?
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You are mistaken karma is real the only thing is you are his karma just give the evedance needed taking the high road is not allowing someone to get away with abusing you that's being a doormat
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Very sorry to hear that. I do not view what you would be doing as revenge. I see childish people who take revenge on a person simply because he/she broke up with them so they will lie claiming sex crimes or whatever to ruin the person over piddly shit but that is not the case in your situation. I do not view anything you would do as wrong because your actions may save someone else out there from possibly being harmed by this turd. This not only will teach that sick SOB a lesson but it is extremely beneficial he gets his ass handed to him. You will be doing other people a service too.
Screw that karma BS. You are karma! Kick the fuckers ass and make sure he doesn't do this crap to anyone again.If you want revenge, first dig two graves, The Universe will work things out for you, but yes imho co-operate with the DDA (Deputy District Attorney? I'm UK btw) it's not revenge as such because you are not being pro-active in causing his demise, and hopefully helping to stop him being an a-hat to others in future,
cooperate with the investigation, but not for the sake of revenge - just to help get another lowlife off the street
Honestly, whatever you think is best. But prosecuting crimes isn't about revenge; it's about holding people accountable for their criminal behavior.
Anytime there is physical violence directed at someone, you aren't exacting revenge, you are protecting yourself by having him prosecuted.
Option A. Because Fuck him. He wanna do the crime, he gotta do the time
Don't look at it as revenge.
Do what you need to do to be safe in living your life.The best revenge is to be amazing and work hard and go far WITHOUT HIM. He is holding you back. Just be unbothered and live your life to the fullest. Don't let him distract you. If he tries to build a wall blocking you from happiness, climb over it. Once he sees that there is nothing he can do to stop you, he won't try anymore
Let the court deal with him. You've done everything right on your part, time to let them do their thing now.
Option A... revenge made me think I was walking into a shallow grave situation but in prison that could still occur
It's not revenge but justice!! Go with option A
My mother let his now ex boyfriend get away with beating us as and and almost electrocuting her to death (among other things) and I wish I could have done something but I was a minor, you're a woman, you can do it!Give him a taste of option A, people who victimise women get dealt with in prison.
Option A. Get him locked up. You could get in trouble for not reporting him as you'd be in violation of the order too.
They might get it but if anything it might be years
a definitely... this asshole doesn't deserve your kindness at all
Let him go to jail it's where his ass belongs
I say make him rot. He is an asshole and most of the time karma doesn't act fast or ever. Put that man in his place whether if hell exists or when he is in jail. Fuck that man over.
Choice a definitely. Sounds like he needs to hav tht happen to him. what a bloody gronk
Go for option A , he needs to be taught a lesson
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