I don't know what to do, does she miss me as well or is it all in my head?

[Anonymous]

So we ended things a few months ago, and I’ve been missing her more frequently and decided to look up her socials and she quit posting anything besides inspirational quotes and self worth quotes where she use to post everything she did and it looks like she stopped, could she be missing me and the post be targeted at me even though it’s been a couple of months?

we broke up over an argument we’re I tried to open up and talk about some issues and she just believed I was trying to fight and didn’t try to reason/listen or understand about how I was feeling during it and led to me having to say I couldn’t take it anymore bc all she did was punish me for even saying something.

I don't know what to do bc I want her in my life but I also don’t want to reach out bc it wouldn’t prove how I wanted to be treated better and I fill like it would show I’m ok with the treatment which I’m not, but she was my best friend.

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that's a tough situation. On the one hand, it does seem a little suspicious that she suddenly stopped posting much besides those kinda meaningful quotes. Could be a sign she's still thinking about you and the relationship.

But at the same time, even if she is missing you too, I don't know if reaching back out is such a good idea. Not if the way she treated you near the end still bugs you, you know? Like you said, you don't wanna set a precedent that you're cool being talked down to. You deserve way better than that.

I'd say maybe give it a little more time, like another month or two. See if she makes any effort to reconnect herself in the meantime. That would tell you she really wants to work on things. If not, then maybe you can start moving on for good.

Or, you could send a casual text just to see where her head's at. But be prepared she might not give you a real answer. Up to you if that risk is worth it. Tough call man. Just don't settle for less than you deserve in a relationship. Hope it all works out okay either way!

[DreamCrescent]

it’s hard for the first few months

i don’t think you should worry about whether or not she’s missing you right now. focus on the breakup and the events leading up to it. you took issue with the way you were treated

sit with yourself and decide if she’s worth going back to. assume she’s not going to reach out and she’s definitely not changing her ways. do you want a relationship with her or do you want to take the lesson life has taught you and get to know someone better sometime?

honestly, i wouldn’t put too much stock into what she’s posting. it’s natural she’d be hurting too, if she’s human. you need to find your own answers and make your own decisions and plans

if you do decide to reach out, make sure you’ve reviewed what you’re going to say in terms of how you’re feeling about the relationship and how she treated you

good luck

[Gent207-2]

Don't let her back in or you'll be right back here but worse