How do you heal from cheating?

[Anonymous]

I found out my ex has a relationship while he was trying to fix things with me. I feel so angry about it because he lied to my face. And still lied even when I confronted him and when I found out. They even live together which makes me feel worse. I just keep picturing them settling down together and having a life together and it upsets me. I feel like he wins, that he gets to continue being happy and still have her. I’ve tried telling her but she barely has any social media so it’s impossible to contact her. I’ve blocked him from everything, and deleted everything. I wish I never met him and I feel like such a fool. I wish I could just get over it now and block it out.

I use to live with him before we split and we discussed getting married so seeing he’s living with someone else is a slap in the face yet he still denies it. I have a half marathon next year so I have a lot of training ahead of me and I want to get toned. There’s some things to look forward to next year but I’m angry at the whole thing. What can I do?

[Explorer91]

I think the best way to heal from cheating is to think about it is PART of a BIGGER problem. Are you saying that everything else was good in the relationship? Chances are it wasn't and maybe you just liked being in a relationship so looked past all the other crap. But now is time to not look past all that other crap. Write it down. Try to flip the situation around. Did this cheating save you from a relationship with a passive aggressive communicator - because lets face it who wants to marry that? or did this relationship save you from x y z... think of whatever it is that this cheating saved you from. Sounds really stupid. But these are ways to get past the cheating.

[Thestupidusername]

Move on. Cheating is for pussysons. You aren't lesbian right?

[KrakenAttackin]

"She barely has any social media", just tells me she is the better woman.

[Asker]

No, he’s a scum bag. He got another woman pregnant while he was with a previous girlfriend. And I was trying to find her so I could tell her as she doesn’t deserve it. If I knew he had a girlfriend, I wouldn’t have even bothered with him. I have a good career, I raise money for charity, I do not dress suggestively or sleep around. He’s tried to get me back while he’s with her and I’ve found out about her and it’s back fired. When I confronted him, he upfront said he “can’t let go”. He can stick to his back up.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Find a guy that's better

[Rickyboy100]

Perhaps you should try a chastity cage for him...

[Asker]

It doesn’t make it right that he’s sleeping with other people while he’s in a relationship. He lied to me and he’s cheated on her.

[Asker]

And if I knew he had a girlfriend, I wouldn’t even speak to him or look his way. He also got another woman pregnant while he was with a previous girlfriend so he’s a scum bag.

[Rickyboy100]

Sorry for you