We found eachother a few years later…but…?

[Anonymous]

Images attached due to exceeding 3k characters for this post. Honest advice is welcome for this unique situation.

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There are some typos, he has a girlfriend*****

[Oliverlogan263]

Whew girl, this is a messy situation for sure. I can see why you're feeling all confused!

On the one hand, you clearly have an amazing connection with this guy. The chemistry is undeniable - even from years ago at the hospital, there was always that spark. Now you've found each other again and everything is even better.

But there's also so many complications. The fact that he has a girlfriend right now is the biggest concern. That's not fair to her at all for him to be cheating, no matter what issues are in their relationship. And it could blow up in your face too if she found out.

My advice would be to slow way down. Take a big step back from anything physical/romantic with him until he properly sorts his situation out. It's only been a few weeks - don't get too invested yet.

You also both need to decide exactly what you want and be honest about your intentions. If he really wants to be with you, he needs to break up cleanly first before anything progresses. Not simple to catch feelings in this unique position!

Protect your heart sis. Be careful not to get played or be "the other woman." Communication is key here - set boundaries and have serious talks about where you both see this going longterm if he gets single officially. Your happiness is what matters most. You got this!

[Anonymous]

This was your side but we can't know from that guy side. How serious his feelings are? Why he chose to be in relationship with that girl who is now his girlfriend? How far he is involved into his recent relationship or is it just because he has got bored with his current relationship, what kind guy he is how far you can trust him how far he can be honest with you in case you both come together, would he again feel attraction towards someone else? How far he knows you? Is this attraction is just because of mystery hidden? We cannot know.

I would suggest you can keep doing what you are trying to do. Telling him to choose what he feels best for himself maintaining that platonic feelings. And let's see where does the time takes you both. If he really feel like he should be with you you are right woman for him he will definitely come to you because once the man feel so his feelings are very strong and he can't lose that lady. Till then you do whatever you feel right.

[Asker]

Yea we ended up bonding more then we intended, we already know eachother from working in the same hospital a few years back so it was funny how we started talking. When he was single, I didn't even continue talking to him…. I wish I did though.

I learned sometimes we get into relationships, it becomes more of a business relationship rather than romantic. I get it, and I respect him for being completely open and honest about me.
I have met a variety of men, he is one of the first man that actually wants to know everything about me inside and out, usually friends with benefits keep it simple. My past friends with benefits definitely treated me a lot different.

He is always complimenting me, kissing me, hugging me, he talks a lot. He gives me advice, he seems like a good guy, he said he does feel bad. I told him I thought he was single. So I will just focus on my own things and see where things go. I definitely dont encourage cheating, so I will eventually tell him to decide what to do otherwise I may meet someone else who is actually single.

Its been like 6 years or so since we seen one another. We recently had lunch and we seen eachother 3x in less than 2 weeks so far. Obviously he asked to see me.

His behavior and actions, things he's asking is beyond friends with benefits. We get along great, I laugh a lot when im with him. he's always smiling and he's just so sweet, and I've met some fake love bombers, this is a bit different. I dont know if its bc we already met before or what. Lol

[midnightmoon05]

If he is still attached in some ways… I would detach completely… until he is free for over 3-4 months… (he has to move on…be alone … be good and happy being alone).
if i were u… I would not want a guy who jumps ship like that. I don’t trust guys like that.

[laly520]

just keep being friends

if there is anything else u would know by time

[Asker]

I agree, thank you!!!

[Asker]

If someone else comes along…. great….. i am single ;)

[laly520]

best of luck

[boggboss]

So what are u asking he has a girlfriend so...

[Asker]

Did you read my post. Its in a screen shot form

[boggboss]

Yes I did

[Asker]

At the end of my post I asked for advice on how to handle this situation…… being that we started seeing eachother….. I think he likes me more then he intended too. He is trying to navigate breaking up with his girlfriend, but I did tell him to do whats best for him. I was in a similar situation like that, I never cheated but I ended the relationship. He wants to do more with me but he cant…. Until…you know. Should I remain friends and see where things go? Should I stop seeing him, I don't know.

[boggboss]

Remain friends and dont push

[Asker]

I agree, thank you 😊