Still Sleeping with one another..
... ...we were once in love and talked about ... potentially a future.. ..he came back from a family wedding out of state and things went down from there..
when we do see/ sleep with each other ..we still act like we are still a couple...Deep down I can feel there are still some lingering feelings..I don't want to ask ...
..HELP?...any guidance.. ?..comments? words of wisdom? please?
how are friends with benefit suppose to behave?
but when we
someone help me define what the heck is going on? please? any words of wisdom?
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dont sleep with him anymore. if you really wanna know his true feelings, don't have sex with him. it obviously sounds like ur still in love with him and definitely want a serious relationship. if he wants one with u, he will make an effort to make ur RELATIONSHIP work. if ur still having sex with him, he's getting all the benefits of having you as a girlfriend (i.e. sex all the damn time) without any of the responsibility of actually being your boyfriend (i.e. no title = complete freedom to do whatever and whoever he pleases & you can't say a damn thing about it because "ur not his girlfriend" which is what he will say, trust me). I have been in this situation before and it was HORRIBLE! it totally messes with ur mind and its like, ok does he still love me? does he just want sex? does he even care how I feel? y can't we just be together? the questions are never ending! and it just drives you nuts! of course he's gonna act like ur still dating when ur with each other, that's probably how he's acted with you for a really long time and he's just used to it.. if you really wanna figure things out, stop sleeping with him and make things less complicated on yourself. if he wants you back, let him woo you the old fashioned way, by showing you that he's serious about u. if not, u'll both b on different pages. he may have discussed possible future plans with you back then, but he may have changed his mind. straight up ask him what he wants and see if its what you want too. but don't give up the goods for free, ur worth way more than that.1