Did she overreact?

[Harshbro]

Girlfriend broke it off with me over flirty texts with other girls. We talked it out and everything seemed fine for 2 months then some guy messaged me saying she was trying to meet him. Why would she want revenge like that? I forgave her we moved on then caught her doing it again.

She wanted a “break” to clear her head, we all know what that means. Not even a week after official breakup she got used for sex and dumped by a stranger. I still loved her before finding out and warned her about men. Knowing she did that was good for me tbh, I’m not heartbroken and could care less about her now

[shafiya]

Hmm! I’m sorry for what happened, it seems your girl wasn’t really in the right state of mind it mostly happens when the person is serious loving but the opposite sex will have issues, Here I would say if you still love her then talk to her for the last time if she doesn’t agree then let her go, As always remember who once cheats, lie’s or leave you will make no difference for them to repeat that. But your heart isn’t a toy Period. Move on, certainly you guys were meant to cross paths but wasn’t each other’s destiny.

[Anonymous]

She didn’t overreact, she was just not in the right mindset after you betrayed her by flirting with other girls. If you guys are broken up now then the both of you are free to flirt and sleep with anyone else.

[Harshbro]

I don’t understand why girls turn into hoes after a breakup. Is this supposed to me someway to get back at their ex boyfriend lol. She even posts tik toks about me saying what I lost lol

[Opinion Owner]

I read you said “if she truly loved me she’d have forgiveness”, just wanted to say that if you truly loved her you wouldn’t have flirted with other girls lol but yeah a lot of girls end up sleeping around after a break up. Some do it so that they can get over their ex quicker, some do it bcs now they have a sense of freedom to “explore”

[Harshbro]

Yeh that’s because i thought I didn’t love her for, till she was gone. Explore lmao, so brsindead, I get they’re not ready to date out of mistrust. But what does whoring solve, you’ll just get more jaded and hateful of men.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know tbh, I guess some just want to go all out after they’ve been hurt, they get kinda numb and develop low self esteem so they might look for validation by sleeping around

[Harshbro]

How is there any validation in being pump and dumped lol

[Opinion Owner]

Well she’s not looking for a relationship right, just looking to get her puss wet? But in all honesty, a lot of my friends that had a ho phase after a break up end up regretting it bcs they ended up feeling used and got no validation from all the casual sex bcs a lot guys would fuck anything lol

[Harshbro]

No I checked her phone and found out she had saw a guy. She was asking around about him clearly liked him, but got used. She obviously wants something srs

[Opinion Owner]

Okay then that means she wasn’t whoring around, bcs she was ready to start something serious w the guy but went about it the wrong way and ended up getting used

[Harshbro]

Sexting tons of guys is whoring in my opinion

[Opinion Owner]

Gotta agree but hey you’re broken up now so it shouldn’t matter anymore who she sleeps/sext with esp since you also chatted w other girls when you were still together. Probably means that the both of you have lost feelings for each other and are unable to commit. Move on and so better next time ✌🏻

[Flatmanlewis]

I don’t know about if she overreacted but I’d say it’s sure dead now. Sounds like neither of you were in the right place to be in a relationship anyhow. You should not have been flirting with other girls. She shouldn’t have been willing to have sex with other men.

[molonski2]

She sounds like an absolute nutjob to me , yeah just let her go , no-one needs such petty bs drama , that started over some SMSs , but stick to your guns , don't ever take her back , she is crazy , and will fck her own life up , don't let it be yours also.

[SolitarySolace]

All women cheat. The sooner men realize this the better. And I know men cheat too but men and women cheat for different reasons. Like in his situation she cheated out of spite. For revenge. She knew what she was doing.

[Harshbro]

Ye ain’t that the truth, I “cheated” because i didn’t feel in love. She cheated out of spite

[Biancam13]

That's a bit of a generalisation over a whole demographic.

[SolitarySolace]

🤷🏻‍♂️ I’m sure I’m not the only one making that same generalization and I’m definitely not the only one making a similar generalization when the genders are reversed

[Biancam13]

Yes but that doesn't make it true, just because you said it or others have said it. Humans in general have a propensity to cheat if they are dishonest or have low morals. It's not about gender.

[katiesmuff]

Doesn't sound to me like you had much of a relationship in the first place.

[Harshbro]

It was good while it lasted

[katiesmuff]

I would call that nothing more than a fuck buddy!

[Harshbro]

Maybe, that’s how I felt it was but she truly loved me now she’s gone I do too. We had been on vacations, dates everything

[Abbycado]

Sounds like neither of you can stay true to each other. The flirty texts by you can be seen as cheating.

She obviously had the intention of cheating on more than one occasion. You two should move on from each other.

[Harshbro]

We were good together before that, just thought if she truly loved me she’d have forgiveness. It’s not as if I actually had sex with anyone. What she did back was way worse. Despite what I wrote above I fought hard Tryna get her back. Didn’t realise I loved her till she was gone, truth be told

[Abbycado]

The part that sounds like it will be tough for you two, by what you wrote, is moving past things.

Hope it works out and best of luck.

[Harshbro]

Yeh I still wanna try again even if it’ll never be the same

[Abbycado]

Hope you get the chance

[Peridot25]

@Harshbro So sad you took your relationship for granted.

[exitseven]

I am so glad that I am married to a wonderful woman and don't have to deal with shit like this

[Harshbro]

Swap phones lmao

[dustybiker2]

To be blunt. You both seem as bad as each other. Maybe you both learned something. I somehow doubt it.

[JacobJordan]

She got exactly what she deserved. You got caught. You worked it out. She got caught you worked it out. Then she went and whored herself out and tried to come crawling back. Instant karma

[Romasona]

No genuine emotional attachment or enough physical attraction was present in the relationship.

[Harshbro]

You actually nailed it lol, she had deep emotional attachment but I didn’t because i lacked physical attraction towards her

[WhitneySnow]

It sounds like she was being a hypocrite, assuming your version of the story is 100% accurate

[Jennifer604]

If you sending flirty texts with other girls wasn't cheating, why would her meeting guys be cheating?

[Harshbro]

It’s still is but you’d be ignorant to say there aren’t levels to cheating.

[Jennifer604]

I suppose some of it depends on if there were intentions to do anything special together when she met the guys.

[Harshbro]

She has sent him explicit messages and was gonna meet. Luckily he was a good guy and told me. Tbf she warned me and said if I ever did anything she’d get me back much worse.

[Peridot25]

@Harshbro So why did you do it?

[Anonymous]

Why were you flirting with other girls while in a relationship? So far all I see are 2 people who are at fault.

[Peridot25]

What was the reason for you to flirt with other women while in a relationship?

[Harshbro]

Stayed with a mate breifly no sex in his bed obviously. Basically less intimate, I used to have a porn addiction and found chatting up girls to be a healthier way to release. Dumb decision really, should’ve just communicated with her

[Anonymous]

She didn't overreact at all. Most men cheat, despite what some backward crayon-eating trolls on here might say.

[HelpfulWoman]

lmao sounds like shitty people all round

[sheikalana]

She's a hypocrite petty woman.

[laly520]

doubt u two had a real relationship

[Anonymous]

Nope. You come off as the asshole in this story.

[austinbooth]

No she didn’t