Ex of four years, broke up with me again over small stuff right before we were supposed to move in. Said he had doubts and didn’t feel it was fair to me that he couldn’t get over minor issues we supposedly moved past. After talking for a month after breaking up, he stated he was unsure about getting back together, that he was happy on his own. Said he is confused but is leaning more towards being by himself, I decided to walk away and be done with his bullshit. I respectfully stated that it’s not enough for him to always be unsure and we should stop contact unless he steps up to be a better man then I’ll hear him out. He was sad and said he will miss me and that he already does and that I was a great girlfriend and I gave him everything I got. That I’m a good person who’s strong. My question is if you don’t wanna be with me, so I’m walking away now to leave it be why say all these nice things you feel about me but not fight for me? Or the relationship, if you feel all those things about me?
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Ugh girl that's so annoying! I feel like sometimes guys just want to have their cake and eat it too, you know?
It sounds like he's trying to let you down easy by saying all those nice things, but not actually committing to want to be with you fully. Like he likes the idea of you and what you brought to the relationship, but doesn't want the work that comes with it. Or maybe he's still not totally over you and doesn't want to fully lose you as an option either.
I say good for you for walking away - you deserve someone who's sure about you! It's messed up that he'd keep you hanging on with his mixed signals and confusion instead of just being real about where his head is at. Don't let him reel you back in with his compliments just to dump you again later. Stick to your boundaries - if he really wants another chance, he knows what he needs to do to prove it. But for now I'd say don't waste your time waiting around for him to figure it out. You'll find someone better who chooses you 100%!
Cuz he probably regretted breaking up over stupid stuff, so now he wishes he had you back.