If your SO dies do you call them your ex?

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Technically your relationship didn't really end. It just stopped without any of you expecting it. Do you consider that person an ex, since you aren't with them anymore?

ManInChains · Accepted Answer

Ex just refers to the person you were previously with. People just assume it means they broke up with that person or that person broke up with them. People don't often die suddenly in an accident more so than they decide to end things for whatever reason. You just have to let people know they're an ex because they died otherwise you'd still probably be with them

RingOfFire · Accepted Answer

My last relationship was with a women 30 years younger than me. We were together for several years. It ended several years ago but I never stopped caring about her and we kept in touch.

She died in March. Yes, it feels like my "ex" died. That's how I think of it. Cannot believe she is gone. Still hurts.

BeeNee · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend drowned while on vacation. I refer to him as my ex if the subject arises. An ex, to me, is anyone you've dated and are no longer dating. Plus it's far less awkward and less painful to say "my ex" than to say, "my boyfriend who died."

Dinklex3 · Accepted Answer

When you die, it ends. If ex means former/previous partner then yes. They’d be my ex. It’d take me a while to heal and refer to them in past tense though. Not something I’d like to think about.

Changiis07 · Answer

I wouldn't considered them an ex, I would just say my husband that passes away

AviatorTom · Answer

She would be my wife or girlfriend who passed away. I wouldn't call her my ex.

Finchie40 · Answer

I would just say my deceased partner

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

I lost my wife in 2002 to a drunk driver. NOT sure about others but to this day I will still sometimes refer to her when sharing stories as my wife.

I choose to never remarry so I really saw a reason to change how I referred to her until the last 6+ years. Someone pointed out to me they thought I was married and cheating because of how I spoke of her.

SarahS98 · Answer

I don't even want to think about it. I wouldn't have the heart to just refer him to an ex. He would be my late husband.  Hopefully we get to old age.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Hmm interesting. You don't have to end a relationship for someone to be an ex. For ex the other person could end it typically.

That said. I think in this scenario if you remarry or start a new relationship then they are your ex.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Since I'm married, "my  late  husband" is how I'd refer to him.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

Interesting, I wouldn’t call them an ex bc an ex is different. I would use the term “past partner”

DishLady · Answer

No. Because they were taken from you they're just "past".

JacobJordan · Answer

Nope if my wife passes she is still my wife. "Til death do us part"

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Not until in a new relationship. After obviously a lot of time has past

SirenScarlett · Answer

No. I have never known anyone who's partner has died, to call their partner their ex.

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

I dint call them ever again. Collect the life insurance and ball out

on_my_knees · Answer

I call her my "ghost wife."

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I do, yes. That's how I refer to them.

katiesmuff · Answer

I suppose you probably would!

rosemilk · Answer

yes, you can no longer date them, sadly.

NathanDavis · Answer

that's not something I want to know...

exitseven · Answer

I don't know. I don't even want to think about it.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Yep. After a few months I'd move on.

jamesgoldman · Answer

No, they'd be my late partner or wife

DrPepper12 · Answer

I don't know. Good question. Probs.

LiamJHayden · Answer

She would be my late girlfriend.

DextroShade · Answer

You call them your late.

sheenagwapa · Answer

no you don't

Agape93 · Answer

Yeah, they're dead.

If your SO dies do you call them your ex?

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