Is it Normal that someone ex who's dead be a problem?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend is in relationship with me since last 2 years before that she was almost getting married with a guy who she was with for two years, I'm there for her but she can never forget him. In every conversation when he's mentioned now feels exhausting to me it usually occured to me that she will get over after some months or years but it doesn't look like that now. I feel like I am the reason that she isn't able to move on. How can I make her move on with her life, also she's pretty much stuck in her past life that I can't understand how she can move on have a better life for herself.

[Gent207-2]

Why do you feel like you are preventing her from moving on?

[Asker]

Because I'm not as good as him (ex) preventing her to think about him even after having me beside

[Gent207-2]

You can't prevent anything regarding her ex. She has not memoralized the past and accept the new reality that he is no longer a part of and you need to explain to her how that fact is hurting you.
Explain to her how what she says makes you feel like you are not good enough

[Anonymous]

How did you two get together?

[Asker]

Met randomly and felt good with each other and since then keep seeing each other

[Opinion Owner]

Okay, I think I was just curious like who pursued who most, because if you were the pursuer I’d wonder if maybe she felt some pressure or things moved too fast? In any case, it sounds like she wasn’t ready for relationship. Losing a love one is some deep trauma, it takes some real therapy and/or healing to even consider dating again. I know it’s been 2 years but maybe she needs time as a single person to get herself in order. It’s not to say you couldn’t get back together one day or that there’s any hard feelings. This is mostly just a concern for her mental health and being emotionally ready to love again without bringing up her ex so much.