How do I break things off with my boyfriend of four months without mentioning his faults to him?

[Anonymous]

I'm learning that My boyfriend (30) I'm 28, has a long history of work instability. He just quit his job of two years without a backup plan. He also tends to be impulsive with his decisions. I'm very concerned that he won't be a good future provider/husband. I know that he knows he's fully aware of his situation and issues. Is breaking things off already a good reason? I can't see this man changing anytime soon. I'm having a hard time breaking things off because I always have these "what ifs" questions in my mind. How do I end things without bringing up his big flaw? considering that this man is delusional about how this is a really big issue and yet he continuously fantasizes having a home and children with me.

[teamvic]

Hmmm

You may have to lie your ass off on this one to get away from it

Or you could just be heartless and text him

Unless you live with him. Then you're gonna have to lie. And possible put the blame on yourself

[Asker]

Oh thank goodness I don't live with him...

[teamvic]

Just give him generic reasons like," oh my life just isn't ready for a relationship right now," or," our paths just aren't going in the same direction" some bullshit like that😂 that way it's bot about him but it's more about you two, and compatability 🤔 or even say, " there hasn't been a spark "

[teamvic]

Oh here's a good one women always say," I just need to focus on myself right now😟"😂

[strateguy632]

by being breef, "we are not working. bye"

[HelpfulWoman]

don't sugar coat it. because let's be honest, that is why you're breaking up with him?

if he's delusional, he won't care either way

[Paris13]

He won't ChAnge. Tell him Friends is all You want for now. xxoo

[Paris13]

Tanks To Gag. xxoo

[msc545]

Myabe YOU should be the provider? Oh wait - you are the female. No obligations, right? Just the man's probem.

[Anonymous]

so you believe in traditional gender roles then?

[Anonymous]

Why not be the provider yourself for both of you?

[Asker]

So if he's not capable of that... how can I rely on him to provide for a time when I have babies? Please be logical

[Opinion Owner]

Well if you two save money, when it comes to that time you should have enough saved to cover things for a while.

[Asker]

He's not even capable of saving money. He's in so much debt and has horrible credit history to which he won't even get approved for loans. Day by day I'm learning what a loser he truly is

[Asker]

I want to be with someone I can grow with, not someone who will drag me down along with him.

[msc545]

Save money and take care of your family when you are pregnant. Or do you expect only the man to do that?

[Opinion Owner]

@msc545 lol exactly what I’m getting at. Everyone wants equality but oh wait I’m a female now I want to be taken care of. But I don’t want to cook for you or take care of the house.

[msc545]

Exactly right.

[Anonymous]

Mention them, he needs to know the truth.

[Asker]

I mentioned it already. All he says is "don't you believe in me "?

[msc545]

Tell him no you don't since he will never make enough money for you to sit on your ass all day.