My ex and I have been broken up for 2 years and he still feels the need to reject me?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, my ex (30M) and I (29F) have been broken up for over 2 years now... we still have to remain in constant contact due to the fact that we have two kids together. Why does he still feel the need to clarify that he will never ever get back together with me even after 2 years of being apart? We agreed to do something together with our kids as a family and out of nowhere, he felt the need to tell me "not to get the wrong idea" and that he has no intentions of reconciling.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that's really messed up that he's still trying to reject you like that after all this time. I can't believe it's been two whole years and he's still going on about not getting back together. Like dude, get over it already! You'd think that after two years apart he'd be totally over you and wouldn't even care anymore. It just seems like he's still holding onto some resentment or something.

I mean, I get that you have kids together so you guys have to be civil, but he doesn't need to keep throwing it in your face that he'll never take you back. That's just uncalled for at this point. It's the past, he needs to let it go. Maybe deep down he's still not fully over you and rejecting you is his way of dealing with that. Either way, it's not fair for him to keep bringing it up when you're just trying to co-parent together.

I'd just try my best to ignore it when he says stuff like that. Easier said than done, I know. But don't let him get to you or make you feel bad about yourself. You deserve to be with someone who respects you and doesn't constantly reject you, even after so long. Just focus on your kids and being the best mom. Try to keep things civil for their sake when you have to deal with your ex, but other than that I'd try not to give him the time of day if he's going to act that way. Hopefully he'll move past it eventually. Don't waste your time worrying about what he thinks - you're awesome!

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your ex is trying to assert his boundaries and reassure himself that he's moved on. Even though you're not together, co-parenting can blur the lines and create a sense of familiarity. By explicitly stating his lack of interest in rekindling the relationship, he's attempting to:

1. Establish clear boundaries
2. Avoid mixed signals or false hope
3. Convincingly demonstrate his commitment to their current separation

This behavior might stem from his own insecurities, fears, or past experiences. It's essential to remember that his actions and words reflect his own emotional state, not your worth or value as a person.

You can acknowledge his statement, reassure him that you're focused on co-parenting and moving forward, and set your own boundaries if needed. Prioritize your own emotional well-being and keep the focus on raising your children together, rather than rekindling the romantic relationship.

[es20490446e]

This.

[DishLady]

It either means he’s a dbag who sweats himself way too much (which you’d know more than we would, having been with the guy long enough to make your two kids)… OR you’re acting in some “wifey” way that makes him think you’re going to try to yank him back into a relationship. (ARE YOU?)


If it’s scenario 1, just ignore him. If it’s scenario 2, assess what you’re doing and shut it down.


The “family time” that family court tends to recommend ends up blowing up in the face of the more compliant parent while the other parent gloats and acts like they’re some kind of indispensable entity. Since moms usually have custody, dads usually end up with that odd bragging right.


As long as he’s not saying this bs in front of your kids, just ignore it or correct your own actions. If it persists have a private chat with him … not in front of your kids.

[Finchie40]

Because most females hold on to their exes longer than most guys’ do , so it sounds like he doesn’t want you to get the wrong impression , I am still mutual with my ex because we have kids together and during our separation she was trying to get me back , I started telling her that this is just for the kids and not for you and I , so he probably assumes you want him back

[EarlEli]

I imagine he feels rejected. I’m guessing that you initiated the break-up. If not, he’s probably an insecure asshole that feels like he has to put you down to raise his own self-esteem. I know it’s easier said than done, but just try to pay it no mind.

[spartan55]

I don't understand why this would even matter to you. Just laugh at him and carry on.

[DarkLegacy]

e is making sure you do not get the wrong idea. You clearly have a problem otherwise you would not be asking this question.

[Anonymous]

He's letting you know he's in control. That's when you say "right back at ya". You tell him "No worries I didn't think that, I think we're both happier now that we're not together anymore" and give him a smile.

[FunkyMonkee]

If you've been broken up for 2 years, why do you even care?

[rienna888]

Bro that's so annoying tell him to stfu or you will stop paying child support LMAO

[Anonymous]

Whatever you did he's not going to go back even if you use the kids.

[Anonymous]

Presumably because either it's not clear to him and wants to avoid temptation, or because he fears it's not clear to you.

[Danny_dan92]

If you broke his heart, that’s why

[noohair]

Broken male ego does not fix well.

[Anonymous]

Wow this is very tough