What’s your opinion on this situation?

[Anonymous]

So me and this guy have been dating for about two years and I love him with all my heart. We broke up a while back and always seem to find our way back to eachother. The differences we have is religion and culture and I have clearly explained I am 100% willing to work through it bear in mind I begged this man telling him we can make it work. He was adamant we couldn’t I left him to it. We saw eachother over the weekend and I told him someone had asked for my number because they was interested in me and he didn’t like it actually he was really angry saying don’t be giving your number out this and that and I explained to him I am single now and I can do what I want but I told him I didn’t give my number as I’m not that easy and I’m sure I will see him around as we don’t live far from eachother. This man was furious. He was telling me he loves me this and that but can’t see a future for us because he does not know how it will work because of the differences. I told him I’ve had to process all of this and I’ve decided to move on because it isn’t fair on me I’m 27 and I want someone who is sure about me.

now the real question is, is he playing games? Why’s he acting like this what’s your opinion?
& for the sake of my mental health please can someone tell me how to move on from this man 🫣

Updates

8 mo

Update: he has now told me someone asked for his number and he had given it her when after the night we spent together within less than 24 hours he goes and gives his number away and I explained I’m not bothered about any other woman it’s just the way he has gone by things I don’t respect and I told him I don’t rate him anymore. He was like it was on a Saturday then he said we didn’t speak till Sunday it wasn’t making sense to me what so ever I think he is lying. Does anyone else think this too

[DishLady]

Bottom line is he's not willing to work through his shit to be with you. You're dangling some detail about a new guy in his face isn't going to change that fact. You could have a million guys chasing you and he'll still know that (1) you're interested in him and (2) he doesn't gaf about changing any part of himself for you. So why are you bothering him and wasting your own time? If this new guy is such hot stuff, just BE with the new guy.

[Asker]

Thank you darling ❤️

You’re right because he knows I’m still there he don’t give a fuck.. so time to cut contact and move on with my life. And at the end of the day I have 0 regrets because gods honest truth I can say I have given this man my all and it’s not good enough for him he’s not man enough and that’s ok but i certainly don’t want that for my life

[DishLady]

Yeah. I think so... Go make your life and stay strong. Don't stew over one of the "lost boys" who probably thinks he has you and a ton of options, that he's perfect as he is and all that.

[Asker]

If I’m hones with you girl this man has 0 options 😂 well if so none of them will be better than me that’s for sure not even about looks I mean my character and of course I am beautiful too 😂🫶🏽

The thing is this new guy is 24 and I’m 27 do you think that’s abit weird?

[DishLady]

Nah, it's only a couple of years' difference. You're good.

[Asker]

Thanks darling appreciate you x

[rosemilk]

he sounds super controlling... and a bit creepy, to be honest. i'd stop all contact with him so you don't end up on dateline. be safe

[Asker]

What’s dateline? Yes I will 100% stop all contact from now on because it just goes to show he don’t like losing control over me and the fact that I said to him this time I’m
Going to move on as I have processed everything he didn’t like it as usually I’m calling his phone 10 times when he’s ignoring me because it’s annoying but now I’ve even stopped doing that he does not like it

[rosemilk]

like a true crime/news tv show

[Asker]

Ahh no definitely wouldn’t want to be there!! Can I ask you something what makes you think he sounds creepy and controlling?

[rosemilk]

these things that you mentioned:

"We saw eachother over the weekend and I told him someone had asked for my number because they was interested in me and he didn’t like it actually he was really angry saying don’t be giving your number out"

he should have no say in who you want to give your number to

"and I explained to him I am single now and I can do what I want but I told him I didn’t give my number as I’m not that easy and I’m sure I will see him around as we don’t live far from eachother. This man was furious."

why furious? more controlling behavior. it's creepy because he wants to control your life and also who you let into your life. YET DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU

"He was telling me he loves me this and that but can’t see a future for us because he does not know how it will work because of the differences."

he's creepy because even tho he said he can't see a future with you because of differences (that you were willing to work on, no less), he still wants to control your future. he wants to make you miserable that way

[Asker]

Thank you girl for explaining this so well!!! Appreciate you!!

I’ve got an update on the situation he’s now told me someone asked for his number on Saturday and he gave it and I said to him I don’t rate it and I’m not bothered about him giving the number he can give it to whoever it’s just we spent the night together and within less than 24 hours he goes and does that he said to me you gave your number to the guy I explained no I didn’t give him as I told you I’m not interested.. I told him I don’t rate men like that and if he thought we was cool with eachother we are not anymore because I told him I am disgusted in that behaviour. We slept with eachother and he does that within less than 24 hours. He was like we ain’t even talking this and that his story wasn’t making sense he said he gave the number on Saturday and Sunday they was talking but before that he said he was talking to her on Saturday when he gave the number.. I just told him I don’t want to chat to him anymore and he’s lost a real one he was kind of lost for words over the phone but still accusing me of giving my number to people that’s why he’s gone and done it.

Please could you reply back to me as your advice is making sense what do you think of this

[rosemilk]

i'm pretty sure no girl asked for his number lol. he said that to see how you'd react and get a reaction out of you.
please stop sleeping with this dude! that's another controlling thing he has with you. the ties of casual sex with no strings attached. were you two trying to do friends with benefits kind of thing?
he was trying to manipulate you into thinking other girls wanted him so you would stay with him and keep giving him sex. don't fall for it

[Asker]

Girl I have no idea! It was casual because we was both struggling to move on but ever since I told him someone asked for my number he got jelous! After he told me that I made it clear I don’t rate him at all and I don’t want anything to do with him. Do you think I did the right thing? Because it’s pretty worrying when you said about the control thing as I’ve never thought of it like that before but you saying this makes so much sense

[rosemilk]

yeah, i think you're right to just leave him and block him everywhere, while you're at it
what value does this guy have besides playing games with you? be the mature one and cut contact and move on

[Asker]

Thank you so much. ❤️❤️❤️🫶🏽

[rosemilk]

no problem!! wishing you the best

[Anonymous]

I think he's just jealous. He shouldn't be thing you to not give it out but it just hurts gin to know you might be seeing other people.

Unless you think you have a good chance with him, my suggestion is to not see him. If you continue seeing him, it will be very difficult to get over him, and frankly, you probably won't be able to get over him.

[Asker]

Thank you very much!!!

[melnc]

The problem here is that even after the relationship has ended, there are no clear boundaries between the two of you, which might make it harder for you to move on and live your life normally. You are not obligated to explain or justify your actions. Cut off all contact and set strict boundaries in case he decides to look back.

[Asker]

Thank you!!! It’s just really difficult he tells me he loves me when we are together and stuff then just disappears for days even though we are not together but it’s like if you love someone after spending time with them you want to make sure they are ok?
Like that’s normal isn’t it I’m not asking for too much am I

[melnc]

You should start thinking about what you truly want and need in a relationship. his words don't match his actions, it's like he doesn't see a future in this relationship but he wants to keep things up in case he finds a better shot. It's important to prioritize your emotional well being. Being in a relationship with someone unsure about a future together can be stressful. If he can't commit or see a way forward, it might be best for both of you to move on.

[Asker]

Yes you are definitely right! What do you mean incase he finds a better shot? Sorry I don’t understand that. Your right I need to put my emotional well being first. He hasn’t Been in touch since Friday I was the first one to get in contact with him.. also when I told him someone asked for my number he didn’t even like that too. It’s like he just wants me there and not put any effort in 🥲

[melnc]

Yeah, someone will be leaving by the end of the day. Look, I know it's hard going through a challenging situation with someone who is holding your back in some way... but, if you want to open a new chapter you need to move ahead with your life. Though goodbyes can be tough, they also open doors to new beginnings and opportunities. Embrace the change, and remember that farewells are a natural part of life's journey.
Trust that the right person and opportunities will come into your life when the time is right. It's important to give yourself the space and freedom to move forward positively.
Go get it, Jedi ⚔️

[Asker]

Aww thank you so much!! Really appreciate your message! ❤️❤️❤️

[Nirmroth]

Block and no contact is your answer to move on eventually

[spartan55]

You both sound immature, move on.

[Asker]

Yeah u definitely think it’s time too move on now

[spartan55]

Uh... yeah

[Enes38]

Find someone new and move away from them