My boyfriend/the father of my child (who I will be welcoming REALLY soon) decided to break up with me. It was a very rash, sudden decision out of anger. He got mad at me over something relatively small, totally blew up over it (made it way worse than it actually was), yelled at me a lot and then just said we're done.
I tried everything to get him to stop and think instead of just up and leaving when we are about to welcome our child. I apologized for my role. I tried to get him to just calm down and meet again later to talk. I offered suggestions for how to avoid things like this in the future (including him working on his anger/temper/outbursts). He refused to listen to anything I had to stay, remained angry and stuck to his decision to leave.
I have been doing my thing. I've been leaving him alone (as hard as it is). I haven't been texting/calling. I've just been focusing on myself and our child. I can't help but feel really hurt though. That was such an over-the-top and unnecessary reaction. I feel like it's all my fault. Others have tried to reassure me that it was NOT all me and he certainly played a role in things too (he never even apologized to me). It still makes me sad though. If I hadn't have made him mad, he wouldn't have left us.
Now, I will bring our child into a broken, single-mom home from day one because their dad won't be around... because of me. I know HE made the decision to leave, but I still feel like he left BECAUSE of me.
Thinking of the final appointments we had scheduled and other stuff we had planned related to the baby (final touches before the due date) makes me really sad too. He isn't going to be a part of any of that now (after previously stating how incredibly important all of that was to him).
I know there's a chance he could come to his senses and regret his decision, but I don't know. There's a chance he won't do that too.
What are the best ways to deal with this while being pregnant? Is it really likely he will come back?
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