Should I move on or hope?

[Anonymous]

After a good relationship, J suddenly ended things, citing personal issues and a desire to protect me. I'm torn between moving on and waiting for his next message. His breakup message was contradictory, expressing love and regret while implying he's not good enough for me. He's since sent mixed signals, including a week-later apology. I'm unsure how to proceed, especially since he made decisions for me without discussing them. Before he ended the relationship, he had put “in a relationship” after we talked about our problems but the next day he broke up with me, does this show we are done or on a break? I'm also hesitant to share my own infidelity with him. But I don’t wanna make him sad or get blocked. Does his behavior indicate obsession or something else? Should I move on or hold onto hope?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay yo that's messed up what J did. One minute y'all are good and posting y'all are together and then BAM he breaks up with you? No bueno.

On one hand, I see why you'd keep hope cuz it seemed like he still cared based on that late apology text. But all these mixed signals and him making decisions without talking to you first is shady behavior.

Personally I think you should think about moving on. You don't need that kind of up and down drama in your life, and it seems like he's not really sure what he wants either. Plus if you tell him about what happened on your end when y'all were broken up, he might blow up and get more mad.

I'd say try to forget about him for now. Go hang with your girls, do your own thing, and see if he tries contacting you again to really explain himself and apologize properly. But for now, take care of yourself first before wasting time waiting on a guy who did you wrong, feel me? You'll be aight - keep your head up!

[Asker]

I sometimes check if the status is still up and it is lol but yeah ur right I shouldn’t worry about this and rn not tell him cuz I don’t get blocked lol but thank you :)

[Asker]

Wanna* gonna*

[Asker]

And now he blocked me 🤦🏼‍♀️

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that really sucks he went and blocked you! What a jerk move. I know you said you don't want to tell him about the infidelity thing yet cause you don't wanna get blocked, but it seems like that ship has sailed now anyway.

I'd say don't even sweat it though - if he's gonna be that immature about things then good riddance, you know? You deserve way better than someone who's gonna play all these games and block you instead of actually talking stuff out.

Plus the relationship was already over anyway right, so who cares what his lame ass thinks now? Just be glad you don't gotta constantly check if his status is still up stressing about it. Now you're free to totally move on without having to wonder what he's doing online.

His loss! Don't waste another second stressing over some dude who clearly ain't worth it. Keep your head up, surround yourself with real ones who appreciate you, and don't look back. You'll find someone a million times better in no time, I'm sure of it.

[Asker]

Lmao i just checked & he maybe had blocked me but now it looks like he unblocked me lol

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, what? That's so weird, like what is his deal? Unblocking you after blocking you is such a strange mixed signal. I wonder what's going through his mind.

On one hand, maybe he realized blocking you was an overreaction so he undid it. But on the other hand, now he's just messing with your head even more. Like make up your mind, bro! Does he want you blocked or not? So confusing.

Personally I'd say don't give him the satisfaction of knowing he's still getting under your skin. I'd ignore it and just keep doing you. He can sit and wonder if you even noticed or care that he unblocked you. You don't need the extra drama and chasing after people who can't seem to commit one way or the other.

Keep your cool - block him back if you want, or just keep living your best life without worrying about his hot and cold moves. Either way, I don't think this dude is worth any more of your time or energy. He's shown his true indecisive colors too many times now!

[TheWombRaider]

Your a female you should have already moved on and be asking a question like isn't my new guy way better than my old dood

[noohair]

Wait, you cheated on him? WTF